In my opinion, if they think you are not marriage material because you are in a wheelchair, then they are not woth it anyway. You are wanting real love and real love will not care if you are in a wheelchair.

Of course, I don't know the whole situation, but, personally, if you don't consider your being in a wheelchair to be a big "issue" in your life, then your friends, and others that you meet won't either. I think it is more a comfort thing. If you are comfortable with yoruself and your life, then people will be too, and yes, if someone rejects you solely for that reason, then it is not a relationship worthy of you either. You do have a bigger obstacle than a person who is not in a wheelchair, however, that will just bring you a special someone who has no issue with your situation. There may be other issues that arise due to this, such as being able to have children, the extent of your disability, etc. but seriously, if you are a nice guy, you will find a nice girl, wheels or no wheels.

In addition to the other posts, it may be helpful if you let people know what you do and don't need done for you -- opening doors, clearing a path, reaching things, etc. When other people don't know what to do, it can be awkward socially because they don't want to offend you. If people are more comfortable around you, it may increase the pool of friends around you and in turn, the number of women you meet and want to date. In conversation, discuss your interests, hobbies, passions, and listen to theirs! This will show women the range of things you do on a regular basis and get them to focus on your abilities rather than any disability. We all have some degree of disability, yours is just more obvious than most!

Mate, I know exactly where you're coming from. If you want the straight forward truth, he it comes. Anyone with a disablilty (myself included) is considered to have the I.Q. of a three year old. What the line, "I wanted to have kids, not marry one" Next, does "it" work! Most think the answers no, so there goes your sex life. People always look at the can not's, never the can do"s, you're a burden on society, a social outcast, you're never going to be in the "in" crowd and if your a man, women will drop you like a hot potato. Then they think it's a case of marrying your full time nurse. Hey, I've lived in this house alone for the last twenty years, but still get asked who cooks the meals for me? However, there are gems out there who look at the person, not the wheels. They are as rare as, but if you find one, never let go. I wish you all the best.

As more of a supplement to other answers to this question, I would like to add that a person does not have to be in a wheelchair or be visibly disabled to encounter such objections. To offer an example, my mother told me that one of her friends had advised her not to marry my father, because his medical condition could leave her a young widow with children to raise. He had asthma, which had killed many people at a fairly young age. However, medical advances at the time prevented a repeat of the attack that almost killed him at age 24 and kept him alive for decades to come. A 'disability' or 'condition' does not have to be visible to make some people shy away. Let them. Focus your attention on the remainder. They are out there, but they are not likely to be drinking and dancing at the bars. Some of them, no doubt, will have friends with big mouths.

You have nothing to overcome but the women you mention sure do! Often with any handicap/challenge :-) the other person begins to feel it's their handicap. For example some don't like being around deaf people for this reason. Even a slight difference in capability or health can at times make a difference to others. They view it as a problem and are uncomfortable with it or don’t make time to understand it. If people don't view you as marriage material it's their loss. You’ve been looking in all the wrong places. There are women who recognise qualities beyond the physical form but you just have to find them. Not all women are as shallow as you have experienced and not all women want Olympic athletes :-)

The kind of women that are bothered by you being in a wheelchair, are not the type you should want to be with anyway! Any woman who is bothered by your disability is shallow and ignorant. However, even to those who are not 'bothered' by the wheels may still take time, women often want a man who is stronger and taller than them, who can reproduce (i apologise if this is very ignorant, i don't know if things always work 'down there' if you have a spinal injury etc) We are also all socially conditioned to treat men like they can do everything for themselves (even though most men can't anyway) and we worry about insulting a man if we offer help (I am not saying all disabled people need full time care, most are self sufficient, i'm talking about opening doors, reaching things etc.) However, all these things are so easily overcome, and once she gets to know you, any decent woman, should not have anything against you being in a wheelchair. Just keep on putting yourself out there, don't give up imediately, and don't presume all women are not considering you becasue you are in a wheelchair just becasue thy don't seam initially interested - it doesn't always happen like that, and everyone is so worried about being 'pc' she wouldn't want to do anything that might offend you.

having worked with people in wheelchairs to me and my kids they are nothing but another pair of feet. I think that unfortunately too many people feel akward with what to do when they get around a wheelchair. I think once a person realizes that you are just like them that hopefully you will find the woman that is worthy of you.

I don't know if I can answer your question, but hopefully I can be an encouragement to you. I am an able-bodied woman in a serious dating relationship with a man who uses a wheelchair. I entered the relationship already being very comfortable with disability as several of my good friends are disabled. I guess my advice would to start by making sure that the women you're talking to know that it's alright to ask about questions your disability. That should go a long way to eliminating ignorance and hopefully get you started on solid communication in all areas of life. I wish I had more good advice for you, but I just wanted to wish you luck.

you just tell them that you can please a woman with your turbo charged tongue

I dont know... I think its difficult for both. Maybe someone already liked you but was afraid about the future and all.

I can empathize with you. I was confined to a wheelchair for a couple months. When I went places people would address questions and information to the person with me who was standing. I hated that. My only suggestion is that you find a woman that treats you as an equal. In my experience you could tell because the look you in the eye instead of looking at the top of your head. Good luck and hope you find a better class of woman.