This is really the truth and I learned it myself " We teach other people How to treat us " and I bet you automatically come off as a friend without stepping back a step or two and let them make the first move Good Question + 5

since I don't know you it would be hard to give a reason that would be right in your case but I will give you my take on my own experiences I have been in your shoes more times that I want to remember I think my problem is I am almost always attracted to women who are way too pretty for me and who don' t have a problem with knowing they are beautiful these women usually tend to be very superficial who think looks are everything in the world and if you don't have looks you better have a ton of cash to make them forget just how unattractive you are since I have neither looks or a ton of cash I think this is why I have never been good enough to be anything more than just the friend

Great Question! - I am the same way. Maybe you just relate better to guys and seem more at ease with them - I know that's how I am with women. Conversation with men is just eaier for you. So - how can we get a long term relationships and stop being pals? I wish I knew that too :(

You don't put out.

Perhaps the right person just hasn't come along. Anyone can be a girlfriend, but being a great friend is something special indeed...

Most of the time that happens, the other person doesn't believe you are good enough. Blunt yes, but I think true. The clue is, you don't need them anyway. You may think you do but not really.

I can really identify with this. Because you are who you are...yourself, a true friend, men don't want to "ruin" a good thing and put you in the 'friend' file. I hate that too. But if they don't see you as more than a friend, that man isn't the one. Don't be discouraged. It won't be long and you'll soon be found by the man who will love you as a friend, girlfriend, best friend, and eventually wife. Being friends first is the way to go anyhow. I know it really sucks but truthfully, the man that only wants you to be a friend and is not attracted to you, and doesn't want to commit to you in a romantic relationship is not your man. You're supposed to be friends with him to teach him something about himself. He may be in your life to teach you something about how to be friends with a man. Hang in there. He'll find you. Keep being yourself. Friends are always the same with each other and that's what men like. When you are all in love one minute, then the next day you have changed and you're as mean as a rattlesnake, you lose some credibility with men. They can't predict your mood swings and it becomes chaotic. Most men want to be drama free. Most friends are drama free with each other. Keep being the wonderful friend you are. The next man that comes to you that you become friends with could be the one. Just believe it can happen and good things will come to you. www.satirah.wordpress.com

Stop looking and let love find you. Have you ever asked anyone you like out?

I'm glad it's not just me then. "Oh your such a nice man" or "your so sweet but..." AARRRGGG!

Been there... Done that... Felt like a chauffeur at times. But then, I prefer not to lose friends, if I can. It's not that they called me to take them places, but when I asked if one wanted to go somewhere, they were going to be with their s/o, so I invited them, too. To their credit, they never necked or anything like that when they were with me, but it still tended to be a bit lonely. When you get to the point that you're happy with yourself as you are, and not really looking for anyone is when you will find them (or, actually, they will probably find you). Remember, great friends are hard to find. When you find one, you want to keep them. Boy- and girl-friends tend to come and go until you find the right one. It'll happen. Give it time. ;-)