ANSWERS: 35
  • No!!!! Are you sure it's an Ex?
  • This is something that I have never understood about some people. Specifically the person who has an affair with another who is in a "committed" relationship. In many cases the "other person" gets to the point where they want this person to leave his/her significant other in favor of them. How naive can some people be? If the person cheated on their significant other, then how can anybody trust them again? You go and seduce someone from their spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend, then how can you ever believe that that person will be faithful to you? So, no, I would not date someone that I knew had cheated on their ex because I would not trust them not to treat me the same way.
  • Yes why not. If you start ruling out people who have a past which happened before you even knew them, the only people left to date will be 13 years old (give or take a few years) and have never had a date before, It what they do when they are in a relationship with you that you should be interested in. Any other relationships they had before you came along, are nothing to with you and you don't have the right to demand information or be jealous or pass judgement on them. It is none of your business. If you are going to worry over what a potential partner did or did not do in past relationships you will rule out most of the planet and the older you get, the more will be unsuitable until finally, there's nobody left. Make your own mind up and base your opinions on what they do now and what you know to be true. Stop creating problems when there are none there. Fun - it's supposed to be fun when you date a new person, it is supposed to be exciting and make you feel alive. If you are mimicking the Spanish Inquisition then you are doing it all wrong.
  • no. i don't think i could. because once a cheater, always a cheater. =/
  • It would depend on the reason for the cheating and how many times it happened. I wouldn't hold a person's past mistakes against him/her unless it's an indication of a pattern.
  • i dont think that i would feel comfortable dating someone who has a history of cheating but my b/f and i started dating when both of us were dating someone else...we both ended it flat out after out very first date...we just knew! but i dont look at him as a cheater i should be worried about.
  • i would because the whole saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" i don't believe. The person who cheated just hadn't met the right person yet. would it be harder for me to trust them? Probably but i would still give them a chance.
  • Only if I wasn't expecting any long term commitment.
  • My boyfriend cheated on his last girlfriend multiple times, but I know that they had a really unhealthy relationship. besides he knows that I know this and I have made it very clear that is a deal breaker. If he wants to cheat go ahead and do it, but I wont be around anymore. I honestly think it would be doing me a favor because I wouldnt waiste my time. In all honesty I dont think he will cheat on me... I trust him. ( hope I dont eat my words):)
  • No. I still think: once a cheater always a cheater.
  • i cheated on my last gf multiple times but ive been with my gf for 3 years nw and wouldnt ever cheat on her, hence not always a cheater
  • Probably. I've always been stern on the cheating thing but I think that sometimes there are situations in a relationship that may not exist in the next one. That said I think there are some people who will always cheat, regardless of what their relationship is like.
  • It really depends on the person. Right now, though? The only person I would date is my boyfriend.
  • Just because they cheated on their ex does not mean they are going to cheat on you. Sure it may be harder to trust them but they may have cheated on their ex for a number of different reasons. Not saying that cheating is ok or anything, but he may have reasons behind it.
  • I would be very cautious about it, that's for sure.
  • I don't think I'd be able to trust them, so NO!
  • not unless they planned to pamper me with gifts
  • Unless there was some really really good reason and they were torn up about it and that isn't why they weren't with the other person. I just don't see how you can trust someone that has shown you that they don't take commitment and integrity to a partner. They are telling you what they are like. Yes they could change but odds are that they won't or could do it again and if I haven't fallen in love with them already, no way would I start up with someone like that.
  • I don't think I would ..
  • At the end of the day past is past and a person will onoy be with you if they want to be. Noone owns anyone so if they cheat they obviously don't want to be with you or are trapped in their situation. I have dated cheaters and to my knowledge they have not cheated on me. I also know cheaters and they would never consider cheating if they are in a very happy relationship. People can and do change, however some don't - its a lottery and afterall, everyone has the capacity to cheat, what is important is TRUST.
  • No, i hope never because once a cheater always a cheater....
  • No the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.
  • once a cheat always a cheat. i dont know anyone who's only cheated on their s/o just once.
  • I believe that everyone deserve a second chance, i would, but i would also monitor and look for signs of cheating. i would dump his ass if he ever cheated on me!
  • No, I wouldn't. I wouldn't be able to trust someone that I knew cheated.
  • no. theyre damaged goods in my book. i dont really cotton to untrustworthy lying types. a person capable of committing such a hurtful act of betrayal of the person they supposedly love more than any other in the world, is not the type of caring, loving, honest, genuine person i envision myself with.
  • No way! I can't stand guys like that! They enrage me!:)
  • Depends on what circumstance and type of cheating he /she did. I might give them second chance. Thing happens for a reason.
  • No. I think cheating is just evidence that this person lacks integrity and therefore probably bends their moral compass on other ethical issues they find themselves in during daily living as well, justifying their moral compromises repeatedly as "under these circumstances". I can't stand being around people who don't have a high level of integrity. They end up dragging others/me into their lying ways on all sorts of issues that make me uncomfortable.
  • When I do I'll put question on AB of "Why did I start dating a cheater who just cheated on me?" : )
  • once a cheater, always a cheater. however, make sure that all sides of the story are known. Sometimes the stories can vary. But if you know what "truly" happened, it could be a different story... no pun intended.
  • It depends. If she cheated on her ex-husband, no. If she cheated on her ex-boyfriend, maybe. To me it would not be such a big deal.
  • Nope!!!!
  • depends on whether or not he was sorry for cheating and whether he made up for it. it speaks of his character, i believe. i think if you really love someone no one else would be temptation... and if you're able to cheat on someone, you don't love them as much as you claim to.
  • this is coming from someone who has never cheated, nor have i ever been cheated on (to the best of my knowledge). i think the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing is HOGWASH. it's something these dating books have instilled in women as a self-defense mechanism. isn't one of the American ideals that of forgiveness and second chances? didn't Bill Clinton get a second chance? and he committed perjury, a felony! i'm not trying to get into politics, that was just an example. i'm fairly neutral, politically, anyway. i understand the concept of the phrase.... that is, "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me". THAT one makes sense. but to say that since you've cheated, it is impossible for you to EVER have a mongomous, healthy relationship? NEVER? HOGWASH.

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