Hmm Do you use contaception of any kind? Or are you trying for a baby? If you are on some form of pill contraception illnesses, missed pill, other drugs can affect it so it can be advised to use a barrier method as well. Thats the science part. How about the emotional part. Is your boyfriend the type who would take this into consideration? If you live apart then he may keep one in his wallet just in case he is round at your house and it is needed all of a sudden (see above) Has it been there since you started dating and he never bothered to take it out? What is the history of past relationships if he has had any? If you feel that you don't trust him now, then you need to take a serious look at the relationship before it goes much furhter as mistrust could make you more bitter. You don't say why you looked in his wallet by the way. If he knew you were looking through it ( with his permission for example) and he obviously knew it was in there he still let you find it, maybe that says someting

Well the first question that pops into my mind is why were you rummaging through your boyfriend's wallet? Even after trust is established in a relationship, I wouldn't want my girlfriend going through my wallet, unless I specifically told her she could. As for the rest of the question, if anything, that means your boyfriend is smart. If you don't use condoms when you have sex, then getting pregnant isn't the only thing you have to worry about. Maybe he read information on the dangers associated with unprotected sex and decided to wise-up and get a condom for the both of you. Do you use any contraceptives at all? I certainly hope so, but in terms of this situation I think you shouldn't worry, if anything, he was just being smart.

Sounds like he's lying to you, if you say you don't use condoms and he told you "It's for us". Seems a pretty weak explanation. If it had been left over in his wallet from before your relationship started that could be excusable. As is, I'd ask some more questions, like if it is for both of you how come he never mentioned it until you accidentally found it? And yes, what were you doing looking through his wallet?

1) Personally, any woman/female that is THAT nosey and goes through a man's wallet demonstrates she is insecure and not trustworthy to a point. It would make me think what else is she doing behind my back. Just like a man doesn't go through a woman's pocketbook, she shouldn't be going through the mans wallet. Respect is respect. Want respect, give respect. 2) In reality, so what he has a condom in his wallet, it could of been there for months and months...At least if he is cheating, as you call it, then at least he is smart enough to have a condom. And, a man wouldn't have to think of cheating if his woman provides him with his needs, she would never worry about it then. Figure I add that in for the record.

dumb response...hes busted. at least (hopefully) he is using condoms outside the relationship.

Just to let you know...It's been almost two years since I initially submitted this question, and the verdict is out!!! HE CHEATED ON ME! -- I actually found out a long time ago, but forgot about my posting until now. So, maybe it does pay to be a bit nosy!!!

Yes, it is odd. However, before you start having convulsions, saying, "That lying sack of poo, I'm dumping you quicker than yesterday's caviar", you need to instead, ask him about it. If his answer seems rehearsed, then he's hiding something. Either he's engaging in sexual intercourse with another woman, or he's simply carrying them around with him. Usually if a guy is carring around unused condoms, it's usually because he intends on using them. Please keep in mind that I do NOT condone pre-marital nor extra-marital sexual intercourse; however, since your question is clearly asking whether or not your bf is carrying around condoms for no reasons that are unacceptable to you, thene I thought I would offer you an unbiased perspective. I hope this helps to answer your question and good luck! PS-If your bf is cheating, then dump him. You can't build a solid, firm, loving romantic relationship on lies, deceit, and wickedness. You're much better off breaking up with him and looking for another guy, who has strong moral convictions; preferably, a Christian.

I don't honestly think you have anything to worry about. I carry condoms around just out of habit from when I was single and messing around. Wait until you find them open and you know you don't use them. Best Of Luck, Drew Bryant http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com

1. Condoms should never be stored in a wallet. The heat and pressure may damage them. 2. Condoms are fairly inexpensive so I'm sure you'll find more. 3. He's doing someone on the side.

whatever...if i pick up my boyfriends phone or wallet, i don't consider it snooping. typically i don't open or touch his things.however, it does occasionally happen that i open it up out of habit of opening my own stuff up.i realize what i do after the action has already taken place.... example, his wallet is on the floor. i pick it up and open it, and then snap it shut instantaneosly. however, if something were to catch my eye, like a naked girls picture, or a shiney purple condom, it does not mean i was looking through his shit. its just like if i walk into the bathroom while he's in there and catch him sitting on the toilet.i shut the door immediately, but if he happened to have his dick in his hand, i notice it.doesn't mean i'm spying on him jerking off. BACK TO QUESTION AT HAND....yes, i would say it is unusual. doesn't mean he IS cheating, but if he is, at least he's using protection which is far more forgiveable than if he wasn't.which is wy it would then be ok to ask him directly 'why do you carry a condom in your pocket', rather than start checking his pockets for used wrappers.

It came with the wallet along with the picture.

Well it's highly unlikely he's bought it to pin to the wall at Xmas.

Are you sure it's a condom? It may be a postage stamp.

The most serious question here is "WHY ARE YOU NOT USING A CONDOM"???? Silly.

Good idea on his part. Can't get two prego's at the same time. Smart, very smart.

What part of "I found a condom in my boyfriend's wallet but we don't use condoms" don't you understand? Dump him!

I think that it isn't unusual, I know many guys that keep condoms in their wallets and they dislike using them. On the other hand, if you feel insecure about him, go a little farther and investigate.

I would ask him WHY before I said goodbye.

Here is an idea. Mark the condom in his wallet once. If you don’t see same one after a week, he is cheating. Dump him.

if you as a couple do not use them then YES he is cheating, regardless of whether or not he uses condoms with others out side of your relationship to protect himself (and not knock up the girl) does NOT make him a award winner in cheating! CHEATING IS CHEATING CONDOMS DO NOT MAKE ANYONE FREE FROM FAULT. If the condoms where there PRIOR to you (i doubt) then it wouldn't seem so obvious, BUT its clear by the reaction that you have been with this fellow long enough to establish a "condom free trust". that in its self is a lot of trust and just don't happen over night, so I would assume that your relationship has been trusting up until this point. so bottom line and the Idea of him cheating is more likely than not. don't bother asking DUMP HIM! even with truth given he will only do it again, once a cheat always a cheat! im 37 and do not believe in cheating and I have seen it in all back grounds and all age groups. Trust no one never allow any man not to use a condom with you ... as you just found out. hope that helps~ sorry the MAN is a PIG! YOU DESERVE BETTER-- AND DO NOT LISTEN TO "WELL AT LEAST HE WORE ONE WHEN HE CHEATED" OR "WHY WERE YOU IN HIS WALLET"? YOU HAD A GUT FEELING AND YOU LOOKED... ITS THAT SIMPLE! WHERE THERE IS SMOKE THERE IS FIRE!

I know how that could worry you...I found a condom in my boyfriends wallet...except he gave me his wallet to count the money in there...and i happened to see a little green thing poking out from the side and he said that his friend gave it to him...and we been together for a longggg time...im very hurt by it...

No, was it next to the crack pipe he is holding for a friend?

When I was a teenager and young adult, guys were stupid and considered "uncool" if they DIDN'T carry one. I had the same condom in my wallet for seven years. I would have been stupid to use it. . .(almost as stupid as I was for carrying it in the first place).

Well ...why don't you go ahead and ask him then ..... maybe he is used to keeping a spare one ...i guess :-) !

Just like all the clichés I started to suspect something was up when my boyfriend of six months became distant and started working late. He also didn't answer the phone when I rang him, and he always had his mobile switched off when we were together. I wanted to check it for text messages but he was really protective of it. I must admit I tried to hack into his e-mail but I couldn't figure out the password. I know I should have talked to him about it but I couldn't face the showdown and guilt if he denied it. My techie friend told me that I should get his mobile phone checked out. So I brought him a new mobile for his birthday, he was gadget mad and loved it, and I assuaged my guilt by thinking that even if I found out nothing, at least he'd still like the present. I got the opportunity to use it a couple of weeks later when he said he was going to the gym, having already been earlier that day. I contacted the http://www.computersleuth.co.uk and had the phone checked, and it had loads of hidden text messages on it from his ex girlfriend. By the time he got home his bags were packed. He didn't have a clue what was happening when I told him to leave, and that I knew he was cheating on me. He didn't deny it. I don't feel ashamed of what I did, but I would have felt very guilty if he was innocent. If you have an inkling it's better to know. If I'd have asked him straight out, I know he would have lied to me. I didn't tell him how I'd done it but all my girlfriends knew and were very impressed. Lisa

Being a female with a cheater in my early life, I can tell you that you were not being nosey at the time. You were trying to find out why something was eating at you. We know. We always know. They lie. They usually lie.

there was a dom in my boyfriends old wallet which was there from before we started dating (months before because i remember laughing at him because of it before we started dating), and then a year into our relationship he found it in there still. the very same one, he just didnt remember it was there (we didnt use them) and kept it there, cos he has friends that constantly are asking for them (even from me...) he still had it in there when he changed wallets a few months back, nearly 2 years into our relationship. it certainly isnt PROOF that he is cheating. find a reason to look in his wallet again, like ask him something about it and 'find it' all over again, then you can ask him about it without seeming like a shnoop. dont go through his things, you get every little bit of information out of context and it always turns out bad. trust him, and if you cant then you need to figure out where your relationship is going. if your still worried after you talk to him about it, tell him you dont know where you see this going cos you dont think you can trust him; either way, youll get the truth. if he did he will probably tell you then, and if not then he'll know you dont trust him and maybe you can work on it. i dunno. just dont jump to conclusions without asking him.