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  • Not weird at all, unless it's weird to have character. A lot of girls would love to meet someone with your attitude.
  • Nah it's not weird, uncommon nowadays but I wouldn't worry about it. If you want to hang on for someone special good on ya. Although it's not the b-all & end-all sex is important so only do it when you're ready.
  • It's not wierd. Plenty of people wait even longer than that. You aren't a loser for making a sensible decision to wait for someone who means something to you. That time will come so until then just be proud not to be one of the millions of people who regret losing their virginity at the wrong time to the wrong person.
  • wait for your marriage.. that wud be great to lose your virginity to your spouse.. i wud have loved that but i m not one.. thats a bad luck.but y dont you feel its bad.. its normal
  • Not weird at all. I've known much older virgins, including my husband who was one until 23 years old. And I knew a couple that were in their 30s.
  • Age is unimportant - whatis important is that you don't feel pressurised into having sex so just that you can say you have done it. Wait for as long as it takes for someone special to come along and then, when you are sure you are ready, go for it - the first time often isn't that great physically so make sure you're emotionally ready and it will be an experience well worth the wait ;0)
  • You should be proud being virgin. Especially if you stay virgin for moral reason.
  • Hey, I'll be 57 in 2 weeks and I'm still a virgin. Never missed intimacy!
  • Don't feel like a loser. Wait for the right person. There are billions of people who have tossed away their virginity to no one special and they regret it completely. Work on your confidence and being happy with who you are and the women will come running. Get involved in groups and activities that you really enjoy. Exercise, study hard and work hard. Don't waste all of your time on the internet and on computers. Get involved in a charity. Do the right things with your life and you will be a happy person no matter what happens.
  • You are not a loser ... you have character and high standards. Bravo!
  • You are to be admired and please go with your heart and do not let society dictate to you. It is wonderful that you are still avirgin and I admire you because of it. I hope you stay one until the time is really right.
  • no, you're not a loser. i am in the same water as you. reason it out like this... do you want to give something so precious such as your virginity to a dolt? i think not! waiting is underappreciated in today's society. but you will be happier in the long run.
  • You are not a loser. Wait for the right person.
  • Ok I gonna try not to come off like an insulting Bi*ch but in everyday conversation why would this question ever come to light? I mean when you meet people or at work with your co-workers, or if your in college and in your Chemistry class, just average everyday conversation why would this even come up? I could see if you were with your "close friends" and this comes up then again if they are your "close friends" what would it matter to them. Anyone that tells you to go pull the first Bubba or Bubbette you meet off the street and have sex just cause your are a virgin are wacked out of their minds to begin with! Be proud of any choice you make, so long as you make it true to your convictions, stand strong, who cares what others think. YOU are the one that must live with YOU. You're not a loser just because you practice safe sex, so be proud if nothing else your keeping yourself healthy and fit for that special person. I truly dont understand what business it is of others.
  • You are going in right direction...Don't underrate yourself!
  • No way thats cool 21 is still young and i think you should be proud . Im 21 and at times i wish i was still a virgin .
  • There ain't nothing wrong with that.
  • I've met people who are older than you and havent lost their virginity yet and kudos to them, they havent met the right one and they're holding out for that special someone fair play and more power to them! I dont see anything wrong with being a virgin at your age and the right person will be honoured that you chose them to lose your virginity to. :D Trust me I know. (P.s I am not implying non virgins are irresponsible or settled for less or chose the wrong person! Just thought I'd put that out there in case anyone got offended!)
  • Most girls respect men who hold out for that special someone and are honoured when its them you decide to lose it to. I mean who wouldnt be complimented by someone choosing to have their first sexual experience with you? Its special! Kudos to you!
  • Hey its better than being a 40-year old vergin beside its kinda admerable to find someone special .(....besides I feel your pain)
  • that definitly does not make you a loser! whats so wrong with saving yourself? the music/tv people watch and listen to these days, makes it seem like a bad thing to wait. Its really not. you dont have to carry around extra baggage from other relationships now. Wait , until you find somebody you really love, it will be alot more special, then some random hookup.! :D
  • no....a 41 year old virgin is wierd. You'll find the one. Just be patient.
  • Deciding to have (or not have) sex is about making YOU happy, not society. If you haven't found the right circumstances yet, then be proud that you didn't do "it" just to get over the 'virgin' label. As for the loneliness, I doubt that casual sex will help with that. You are NOT a loser. Focus on what YOU want, and wait until there is someone in your life who wants to share that with you. Good luck
  • You are not a loser. You have something very rare today, personal integrity. Be proud and know that when you do find the right person, you'll be giving the most precious gift of self to someone deserving.
  • I was until I was 21! Now I'm engaged to her and have a 6 month old son together.
  • Just think how disease free you are...
  • Don't worry about it - literally 100's of millions of people are just like you...anyway - sex is pretty much overrated in my book - and saving yourself for the right person is always the best way to go.
  • Dude I was 18 when I lost my virginity and let me tell you, that your first time is over-rated. Sex dosent really get good until you find someone you care about. Or until you find a girl thats just a freak. lol. But seriously your ok. It might be a little out of the ordinary to be a virgin at 21 in this day and age but its not wierd at all. You might be wierd for other reasons but not for being a virgin. And as far as being lonely, it has nothing to do with whether or not your a virgin. I've had sex hundreds of times and I feel lonely all the time. Maybe because I havent met my "soul mate" or whatever quite yet. Who knows? Hang in there man, it'll happen.
  • not at all . . . you have something that you should only share with the one person that deserves it!!!
  • No. Just be happy you're not one of those guys who lose their virginity just to lose it. This guy I know had sex with more than 10 girls, and he's confided in me that he wishes he was still a virgin...

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