ANSWERS: 100
  • Try to get him to stop first. If it doesn't work and you've tried as hard as you can. Then, break it off.
  • if you care for him try to get him to stop...this is very dangerous and he could get in a lot of trouble for this...he can get arrested or worst get killed. talk to him...let him know right there and then that if he does not stop you will leave him. dont stay with him if he does not stop because you will see yourself suffering alot if something happened to him.
  • ok firstly whats he selling and where can i get some? No really drugs arnt the worst thing in the world BUT it depends what hes selling if he sell weed to ppl its not exactly the worst thing in the world But on the other hand if hes selling herion cocain crack etc then i think you should do the right thing not only leave him but turn him in dealers that sell class A drugs ruin peoples lives ive witnessd this first hand. I know a few weed dealers and there really nice people i also know alot of dangerous dealers and to be honest they deserve everything they get(the nasty evil coke dealing dealers etc) is he violent in anyway?
  • If he will not stop when you ask, dump him, you do not need either the danger to your person or the legal hassle that being with a drug dealer entails
  • If there's a lot of money involved, don't expect him to quit. So unless he has a wonderful job, GO. If he refuses to stop dealing, he puts himself and you in harms way (cops, competition). GO. If he's hooked, most likely he stays hooked, and might drag you down with him. GO. Love is a powerful tool, but so is drugs. Even if you love him very much and want to believe in him, believe the statistics instead. Try to see yourself 10 years from now, wondering if he's still selling it...Watch addicted couples on TV, and picture yourself in that very situation... It's obvious where I stand, but you have the best view on the situation. Starting anew is a tough descission, non the less.
  • Just end it. You can't fix him. Even if he says he'll stop when you ask him to, chances are he'll just do it more secretly from then on.
  • Yeah, just get out.
  • I would, if I was a girl, try to get him to stop, and if he doesn't then I would break up with him.
  • It is not your job to get him clean and off the streets, that is HIS job. Your role in all this is to take care of you, and get as far away from him and the situation as possible. It is dangerous, not to mention illegal and he will get caught, and you dont want to get arrested or hurt. Learn from his mistakes and move on to someone clean, who is on your level
  • What you have to do is help your boyfriend first. You don't want to leave him and be miserable with the problem he has. If he decides to get cured then let him. If he doesn't get his problem fixed, talk with your boyfriend and you decide if you want to leave him or not but don't break his heart .
  • I say definitly break up with him... you never now, he could be getting into more trouble, like guns and stuff. You definitly don't want to risk your own life, for boyfriends, who come and go like seasons...
  • You should try to stop him from doing it. Just wait and see. If you don't give him up he will change his mind about what he is doing. How to do that? Well, first of all, talk to him and tell him that he is not doing himself a big favor and if he gets caught by the law, He will find out why. Secondly, Tell him that he is not helping anybody else by what he does either. hope it helps
  • You do not have a choice, unless you also want to go to prison, when he is arrested as a drug dealer. now that you know he sells drugs and have told the world, you are an accomplice. Pack your bags, rent a u-haul truck and get out of his life....pronto. You cannot make him stop. leave before it ruins you, too.
  • Possession and supply of narcotics are both serious offences that can bring strong criminal penalties. If you are with him and when he is in possession of drugs, you may be placing yourself at risk of being arrested too. If your ready to take that responsibility you can stay with him and try to get him to stop selling. The truth is most dealers never really stop selling drugs. they lay low for a while then start again.
  • I would think that if he is selling then he is unlikely to stop and might be offended if you ask him to. It really would be best to just break it off. In my experience, even those people who just use drugs would view asking them to stop as you not accepting a part of their personality. This may not be an absolute rule in all cases, but I do believe it to be a general rule. Good luck.
  • Run Girl, RUN!! If he is selling, he is probably using too. Who needs that headache? He could get you in a lot of trouble that will affect the rest of your life. "The decisions we make determine the quality of our lives."
  • Yes Definitly Break up with him.. He could also be doing more illegal things.. ull find another one but ill tell u rite now hes not good if he sells drugs. VERYMUCH agree with horsegal13
  • Run from him as fast as you can.
  • If you truly like him and he feels the same for you he will be able to stop. If not...he gota go am afraid!
  • Have you told him that you do not approve of his drug dealing? If he really wants to stay with you he will stop, but if he just feels that he has to make money this way, drop him. There is no amount of money that will make the wild and dangerous ride he could tak you on worthwhile, no matter how "good to you" he is.
  • drug dealers are righteous trash. they feed off the weak and stupid. they ruin peoples lives and get paid for it. drug users ultimately die because of their addiction. at the very least they loose their families and jobs etc. every one knows this and no one can say i'm wrong. same goes for your boyfriend. knowing this he continues to sell drugs and profit from it. not worth having. kick him back in the gutter where you found him. ohhhhhhhhhh i feel a tirade coming on. damn i hate drug dealers ughhhhhhh ok tirade supressed. Dump his a$$
  • Break it off with him - unless you want to take the chance of being hauled into jail as an accompliss if he is arrested while you are with him.
  • if he can convince himself, if he can justify that what he's doing is ok. he can do just about anything and still sleep at night. normal people would see crackheads walking up to them, all twitchy and open sores, and feel bad. they'd say, "man ... i did that, I suck" but your BF doesn't. what else does he do. stomp on baby bunnies? ever seen him pull the wings off a fly. run away
  • He won't stop if you ask him. More than likely, he's not just selling them. Do you really need that? When he is ready to quit, he will (more than likely when he goes to jail..probably over and over again). I know from first had experience that you can't "love" somebody enough to get them to do the right thing. And, as a rule of thumb...when drug addicts are involved, the more you love them, the more they will hurt you. Long answer short, BREAK IT OFF.
  • get out honey my ex did this but was also taking drugs get out now
  • Break up - I assure you that he won't stop.
  • How would you feel if he murdered someone - It's the same thing
  • Finding out that your boyfriend sells drugs is the same as finding out that you boyfriend has hired someone to kill you and all your loved ones. Under these circumstances YOU HAVE NO CHOICE, OR DECISION. He made it for you. Break it off, leave town, and if he does not respect your wishes get a restraining order against him!
  • guys with bagage is never good... he'll b despressed all his life n will drag u down wit him.. n u KNOW IT.... its not ur job 2 make him better... give him a time frame n if he doesnt do things rite let him go.. u really shudnt waste ur life ... u know u he wont change
  • Get out, get out, get out. He's nothing but trouble and no matter what he does or says being with him will only put you in harms way. If he's willing to break the law to sell drugs, he's not going to be honest with you about weather or not he's stopped dealing.
  • this is the only advice i hav for you... GET OUTTA THAT RELATIONSHIP! my friend got himself and me into trouble just cuz i was hangin out with him and he gets arrested. i was soo close to it, but thank god im not a druggy. they did sum drug tests and shit, and he had lots of weed on him. im completely left in shock, and he is still in jail. you will get in deep shit if you dont leave him.
  • If you want the relationship. Let him know where you stand, so he can decide whether to be with you or the drugs.
  • Well, a very good friend of mine just lost everything when her boyfriend was caught selling drugs out of their basement. She was on the road to becoming a therapist and was fired and had her bank account seized. She can never get into grad school now as you are ineligible for student loans if you have drug crimes. Be very careful. This is a VERY serious offense and the sentences are not light.
  • Ok, first let me clarify... I'm not defending him but theres 2 sides to this: One is that as a past dealer myself, there is ALOT of money and opertunity involved, so that might cloud his judgment, and Im sure he fully reliezes the risks involved in the game. But if he really cares for you then he will get out of the whole scene. Just understand that its tough to get away from, I havent sold in 3 years and I still get trapped in the chaos from time to time.
  • You really cannot get anyone to stop something if they do not want to. He may love you, and you may love him, but you cannot change someone. I would tell him how I feel, and give him a ultimatim. Remember, if he gets busted, you could too, especially if he is dealing out of a house where you happen to be, or are if you are in the car at the time of the transaction. Also, if he is using also, you chances are even worse, because you cannot talk a drug addict out of their habit. They have to want it for themselves.
  • Go Rent the sitcom "Weeds". It may give you some answers and help you out with the situation.
  • A relationship is like a Temporary job? You get a general idea of what is going on. As soon as you get married or hired you're part of everything that goes on there. Take a vacation from the job and think about it for awhile.
  • Drop in. Run as far as you as fast as you can. You're not equipped to stop him.
  • if he is willing 2 gave it up stay if not leave him
  • if he is willing 2 gave it up stay if not leave him
  • I think you should run, while you got the chance. Whatever comes down on him, may come down on you to. I know a lady that is married to a drug dealer, and has been with him for at least 28 yrs. of her life. She has had a real hard road to travel, and their kids to.
  • If he has money involved, obviously he wouldn't quit. Also if you stay with him and have children, they might be influenced.
  • BREAK IT OFF AND FAST!!!!!! my ex husband is an addict and hid it from me for 4 1/2 years. I learned that nothing would ever be more important to him than those damn pills, not me, not our son. I broke it off and I can sleep at night and I'm doing much better in school without all the aded stress. Plus the police kind of knew him and his buddies, but couldn't ever actually catch him, so they were crawling up my ass too, assuming that I was into drugs as well. You know GUILTY BY ASSOCIATION? It won't take long before he gets you into trouble. LEAVE! Before you end up a single mom like me with a deadbeat ex that swallows anything he can find! He'll take you down with him, they always do.
  • If you stay with him, and have children, they could get influenced. I say break up with him, and make sure he doesn't follow you if you choose to run.
  • Selling drugs in most places is a serious crime. Put some distance between you and this scene or you could end up with a criminal record just because you knew about it and kept quiet.
  • Ok,most of the people telling you to run have no idea what they're talking about. They're clearly picturing some stereotypical nasty drug dealer, which i'm sure your boyfriend isn't if he's kept it hidden until now. I was in the same situation- my boyfriend who was privately educated, came from a decent family background, went to uni, had nice friends, and was a really nice guy was dealing class A drugs. I knew before i started going out with him and it didn't stop me because i knew he wasn't a nasty person- he didn't force them on people, he just had them and if anyone wanted them they could go to him. However, he got caught, and your boyfriend will too. There is no doubt about it. It can happen at any time when they are least expecting it, all it takes is for them to let their guard down for 2 minutes or for someone- anyone who knows to drop them in it. He got away with a light sentence, but he was very lucky and ur boyfr may not be. It's heartbreaking. Try to convince him that he will get caught if he continues and if he won't give it up..then is the time to get out, otherwise u will end up getting hurt somewhere down the line.
  • Get out as soon as possible. It is a loosing proposition.
  • do both,tell him he has 24 hours to make a decision ,its you or its the drugs but he won t have both,no negotiations .
  • I think you should try to get him to stop first, but if he does'nt stop even for you, you should break up with him.
  • My suggestions would be to solve this problem through conversation, talk to him and make him understand why you want him to stop dealing with drugs (I hope he is not an addict). After all these talks and mutual agreements, if he still continues to do then I would leave him and start afresh. At least the guilt will not stay in your heart thinking that you haven't given him a chance....
  • if its affecting your relatiOnship with him then yes. if your in love with himand he is in love with u then dont break up with him
  • the best thing u should do is to dump his worth less ass. nuthing good will come out of him. beside lies and drugs
  • break it off sweety you have no business trying to get him to stop the best thing to do is to leave before you get caught into his situation its your life before any ones elses espeically if its just a boyfriend always think about things like this good luck!!!!!!
  • #1 Get away from him as fast as you can. #2 If you stay with him, he will ruin your life and future. #3 Drug dealers are scum and losers. #4 If you are confused at all, keep referring to #1 through #3
  • Dear Midnight, The fact that you're questioning things means you are contemplating leaving. Perhaps I'm seeing it as being too black and white here but if he's selling, there's also a chance he's using. If he's doing either or both, he's putting you at risk. Whilst you may feel like you have a relationship that is far away from drugs, the fact is that you're in a three way relationship - you, him and drugs. Not to mntion other dealers, suppliers, clients etc. Also, if he gets caught selling / supplying/ buying etc, there's every chance you'll end up caught as well. It can get really, REALLY messy. He clearly knows he's doing the wrong thing because otherwise he'd have been open with you about his career-choices. Do you want to be with someone who'se kept such a big part of his life from you? And as I said earlier, do you want to be in a relationship with someone who is also carrying on a relationship with drugs (even if he's not using, selling is still just as bad, if not even worse in fact)? If you want, talk to him and try to encourage him to stop but if that doesn't work, be prepared to leave. Also, given that he's hidden the drugs from you, how do you know it won't cause him to hide it even harder from you and then tell you he's going straight? It's a complex issue because it's a loyalty thing as well as conscience etc. Best of luck with what is a rather challenging and complicated situation. Sincerely, Meg
  • ummm do you want to be caught up in a crime when his stupid ass gets busted? Dump the degenerate scumbucket
  • Think about the countless lives he has contributed to ruining, for his own gain. You think he will put you first in this situation. Put on your sneakers and make a run for it.
  • Run...don't walk...awa. You will be tarred with the same brush, if you get my meaning.
  • Ask him to stop. If he won't. Then ditch him. Be careful...he might be dangerous.
  • I highly suggest that you get your hinny out of there and fast. If he gets busted you are in deep sh-t. It's not your job to fix things. If you tell him to stop or else he'll just be more careful around you. Exit stage right.
  • It might be worth it to talk with him and try to convince him to leave this lifestyle behind. But if he seems detemined to continue selling, I would reconsider who you want to spend your time with. You deserve better than that.
  • hon this one is really bad...you need to try to get him to stop and if he doesnt that means he chooses drugs over you and thats when you need to go! i mean if he really loves you then he will quit but if he dont that basicly means that its not going to change and that it very dangerous for him and u so dont put yourself in that position
  • Look at him in the eyes, show him how serious you are and tell him that this is something you'll not tolerate. If he does not understand... walk out the door and never come back.
  • Sometimes with these people, the teptation is too great and they might use the drugs they are dealing, so wash your hands of this guy, you don't need to be affiliated with this trash, I don't mean to be harsh but I am sure you can find someone out there who is not a criminal. So turn him in to the police because you can't be totally sure that he has given it up, because he could lie to you because he might be addicted to getting money illegally (because it is easier than earning it like we are supposed to). The cause of all crime is either money, drugs/alchohol, jealousy, politics, or insanity in some cases. However turning him into the police could be dangerous for you, and that's where this gets very complicated. If he sells drugs then I can hardly imagine him not having some illegally obtained firearms. Maybe you shouldn't listen to me anyway, I am only 16! I'm sorry about your dilemma. I can't imagine being in a situation like this. I hate to say it but this world is a grim place. Luckily there's a much better place. and Unfortunately, for those who are not saved by the Blood of Christ, there is a MUCH MUCH worse place....
  • Have you talked to him about it? Don't condem him unless you first know his reasons for doing it; then make a valued judgement.
  • It doesn't matter the reason it's wrong. He has to stop for him not for you or he will resent you.
  • i have been in this same situation before. i tried to get my boyfriend to stop selling/doing drugs, but he wouldn't. in the end, he was so... addicted to the lifestyle he was living, that he was not about to give it up for me. he had been selling/doing long before me, and didn't think that i was worth it. my advice is let him know that you won't stand for, and that you WANT him to quit, but do not give him the ultimatum "that or me." but, don't get your hopes up that he will stop just for you, because if he has been doing it long enough and has grown accostomed to having the money, etc., he is not going to want to give it up, even if he likes/loves you. drugs are never good to get mixed up in because they ALWAYS take control, whether or not you are using. i also advise that if he doesn't stop selling, you should break it off. it will only lower your self-esteem/self-worth because you WILL NEVER be number one on his list of priorities as long as he is still mixed up in that scene.
  • You are not going to change him, even if he stops now, his moral compass will not change as life continues on. I would run for the hills and don't look back.
  • WELL SELLING DRUGS COULD NOT ONLY GET YOUR MAN INTO TROUBLE BUT IT WILL GET YOU INTO TROUBLE, YOU ARE TAKING A CHANCE AT GIVING UP EVERYTHING THAT YOU HAVE. YOU SHOULD DUMP HIM, WHY SHOULD YOU GET IN TROUBLE FOR SOMETHING THAT YOUR MAN IS DOING
  • Get the hell out of there..you do not need to be hauled off to jail when your home is raided, and that is exactly what will happen. Good luck
  • Simple, he has got 2 choices, you choose
  • End the relationship. You cannot change somone else; they have to change themselves.
  • BREAK IT OFF!!! Women who try to "fix" men only end up hurting themselves. I know, I've done it. Until HE is ready to give up that life he will NOT stop. He might stop for a bit but he isn't going to stop for long unless it's what HE wants to do and if he wanted to do it, he would have stopped by now. Look, dealing drugs is dangerous. He is putting your life in danger!! Innocent bystanders are killed every day because they were with the wrong person at the wrong time. Don't be one of them!!!
  • He's probably making a lot of money so he may not want to stop but I'd tell him that you worry about him doing this because he could get busted and go to jail or even worse get beat, robbed or even killed! Good luck!
  • I'm kind of in the same situation. Theres some one I fell for and he also likes me too but I found out he sells drugs but I'm not giving up on him becuase my feelings are too strong. I'm going to try and talk him out of it. and if it does'nt work then I guess he does'nt care for me enough to stop selling. I think this is what you should do. 1. Talk to him out of it.. 2. Talk to him out of it... 3. Talk to him our of it.... If this does'nt work and you can see there's no possible way he's going to quit then DUMP HIM!!! Anyone who is'nt willing to give up something like that definetly is'nt some one who loves you to the fullest.
  • If youre not a user brake up with him if you dont want to be dragged down to that world.....
  • If you can't accept it, it's better to leave. If you try to stop it the chances are he'll just become secretive and you don't want that. You can't change someone, they can only change themselves, and they must first want to change.
  • It depends, Could you live with the chance of going to jail if or when he gets caught?
  • lol, stay with him as long as he spends consideral amounts of that cash on spending time with you.
  • He's got a week to stop. You don't see him during that week. After that, you're outta there. Any more playing with drugs, you're out of there. Too many druggies have too many girlies, too many good blokes stay all alone. Stop making the good men wait. Don't let another druggy stuff up another girl. Years ago I met a girl and helped her outta the drug scene. She loved it at my place. It was so quiet and safe, no one killing each other. No one breaking in and stealing all her stuff. You've got better things to do with your life and more important people to meet. You don't have time for bullshit.
  • my boyfriend sells drugs, and i just stay completly out of it.
  • Ask him to stop. It's never a good idea. I was dating a drug dealer once and got into the scene myself. I overdosed on ectsacy, was in a coma for two days and stayed in the hospital for a week. The incident was devastating for my parents and so they forced me out of that university to keep me away from drugs and partying and him. I am living at home and going to a new school. Things are getting better. Be careful who you date and what influences they have! It can change a lot of things! Good luck!
  • Dump the loser.
  • Get the hell out of the relationship. If he cares so much for other people that he'll sell them the means to kill themselves he cares for nobody but himself and never will/
  • Neither, just start hitting on his stash.
  • You should break it off and fast. This isn't a healthy relationship. If there were giant secrets such as: HE IS A DRUG DEALER then it is safe to say there is a lot more to discover. Run run run.
  • If you choose the path of breaking up with him, which in not what i am saying to do, you could go and tell the authorities about him without letting him know you know
  • Score some of the goods, then dump him...
  • Break it off , he wont just change for you or anyone
  • If you care about him, give him some time (very brief) to stop. But if he's like most drug dealers, he won't stop for anyone, so you're best off not getting mixed up in that mess. Get out of it as early as possible if the situation seems hopeless. Remember that people like this can turn on you in the drop of a dime, framing you and putting you through these activities that you don't want to have a part in. You don't want all of these emotions that come with romantic involvement cluttering your good judgment.
  • Break it off. He's already been lying to you by keeping you from learning what he's been doing. He may continue to lie and tell you he's gonna stop.... How can you trust him? He certainly isn't providing you with a safe environment when you could be put in danger around him at any time.
  • hi there...if i was in ur situation..i woud dump him straight away..would you wanna get involved in things like drugs??????...i no that i wudnt...but is up 2 u...hope all works out..lou x
  • ask him for a 20% cut or you drop coin on him. But seriouly, leave the loser.
  • if you want him to quit and you do ask him, and he says no. Then theres your answer. You should be more important that drugs, you dont want to be with someone that values drugs (and or the money it comes with) over you.
  • I would tell him that you don't want to see him any more until he can prove he has stopped & that you can trust him again as he must have been hiding this from you until you found out. Good luck
  • if its worth the relationship then you should tell him to stop because it is illegal but if its not then dont worry about it.
  • just go, i am sure u can find someone out there who has more respectbale job this man is a killer out there selling drugs to teenagers and adults alike he is destroying people minds and destroying families
  • If you value your life & that of your families you'll get out as soon as you can. Most drug dealers get shot & killed or their families become victims of their lifestyles. Its quick money but it has bad consiquences.
  • Depends. If he's selling pot in high school i'd try to get him to stop. If he's older than that i would just leave he should know better.
  • girl there is no trying to get to stop you know he aint going to sotp for real you know you not with him so that makes you think when you not around ill do it so girl i hope you get yourself out before the cops pulls up in front of your house saying that you are involve so girl if you know whats best for you is to leave and let him do what he does........@@@@@!!!!!!!!!!!! M@K3 T#3 R!6#t D3(!$!ON

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