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  • Hi Chief, No good idea how to get over the love of your life, but if it makes you feel better I'll sing to you..."We wish you a merry christmas,we wish you a merry christmas, we wish you a merry christmas and a happy New Year!!" All my love...Suz.
  • hunn if he/she just walked away from you, obviously he/she is not that love of your life, you need to redefine what love is to you. now i understand that breakup's are hard, but just give yourself some time to get over him/her then find someone else who could be even better for you.
  • There'll other loves, there'll be other funks
  • hunn obviously if this person just walked away from you they are definately not the 'love of your life'. now you should seriously redefine your terms when it comes to love, because in my book, that is definately not it. just give yourself some time to get over this person, because, yes, breakup's are hard, but it's not the end of the world. good luck
  • I can't tell you how to get out of it. But I can tell you you're not alone in your suffering..and after you get through it (and you will) you will be stronger and wiser for it.
  • Look after yourself. Mourn your loss. Feel shitty for as long as you need to. Then when you feel ready get back out there! I was with a guy I thought was the love of my life for 7 and a half years... Shortly after we broke up I started seeing someone I'd known for a little while. We're still together over a year later and when I say I have never felt so strongly for anyone I mean it. Sometimes these things happen for a reason.
  • My answer to this is just "fake it", pretend you are ok and go on about life's activities, go to work or school every day, find things to do afterwards, and after a while you find you are not faking it anymore but are actually happier and out of your funk.
  • Obviously she was not the love of your life and you need to get this clear in your mind, which means that the REAL love of your life is out there somewhere! There are too many women in this world that are looking also for their special someone and it could be you! As we say, "Everything happens for a reason". Nevertheless, it is hard to get out of a broken relationship, it won't happen overnight, but with only time, patience and faith. Stay strong and don't give up your hopes.
  • Aww Wanbli.... {{{hugs}}} I sooo know how you feel hun. Its awful and it feels awful inside and out, but if there is anything that gets me through life in general its that every situation is temporary. Once I tell myself that, I can usually get through anything. The feeling is not going to last forever and you WILL find someone new eventually, I know that is probably the furthest thing from your mind right now. They say that time heals all but I think that LOVE heals all, get back on the horse when you're ready. Surround yourself with friends and take care of yourself in the meantime, sleeping/eating right etc so you can feel your best at least health-wise. I find that makes a difference. Even though it doesnt feel like it now, its only temporary, Chief..... :))
  • I always try to talk with good friends about things and make me feel better
  • Chief this is what you should do!!
  • Chief, again I am so sorry for all your going through. I can tell you some things that help me...from personal experience. About 1 1/2 yr. ago I found out somethings that completely turned my life upside down and broke my heart into a million pieces. The more I stayed in & away from people the worse it got. It wasn't easy, but the thing that helped me most was getting out of the house. I had to make myself most days, but it really helped a lot. Spending time with friends was also a big help. Bottom line, it's going to take time to heal. Best wishes:)
  • No, I wish I did have the answer. I've gone through similar and it was difficult. I surrounded myself with things I enjoyed doing and when the thoughts started to invade too much I would go for a long walk or ride, anything just to turn off my thoughts. Take good care of yourself, Chief. HUGS to you.
  • you need to shake it off and go find the real love of your life. Because obviously that wasn't the love of your life.
  • I feel your pain...when me and my ex broke up I was in the same kind of funk and what I did to get out of it was keep myself busy by working out a lot and burrying myself in my work. Next thing I knew I didn't even think about her and I was ready to date again. So my advise to keep busy 'cause when you're not actively doing something your mind wonders and you'll start to think about that person and then you're back to square one
  • I'm trying aversion therapy to train myhself out of thinking about him. Every time I think about calling or texting him, I pinch myself. So far, I've noticed I think about it a few times less every day. Good luck (((hugs)))
  • Make sure you eat and sleep properly, hang with friends(especially if they didn't like the ex) and do things that you love and they didn't ;0) I beleive you are one step closer to your true love ;0)
  • Time. Just keep busy and try not to think about it. Time heals all.
  • Life goes on. Pain is inevitable, and love comes again. Hang in there, be strong, and know that you can't imagine how you will see this once some time has passed. Just keep going forward, keep moving on, and get to a new place with it. Things can always be better than you ever imagined. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}}
  • Hey man keep positive, try not to stay in the funk. Its almost the Holidays, try to cheer up! I don't honestly know how to get you feeling better, because part of the reason is I don't know you as a real person, but just keep your head up, it'll get better. Happy Holidays!
  • My husband and I broke up this spring...we've been married for, at the time, 13 years. I was lost, I was hurt, I was mad. I swore to myself, when I was a kid, That I was only getting married once and that it would last forever. Anyways, I think you just have to face it, and try your best to truly deal with it....you don't want to bring baggage along with you in life....it just makes the journey harder.
  • Friends are all around you here Listening, sharing, caring Bill. The pain you feel will go away. I can't predict the time or day. But I can tell you this my friend Some day the pain you feel will end. :):):)
  • No, but judging by you picture, I can tell you will not be in it for long.
  • Takes time to heal a broken heart, but good to get out and be around friends and family. Get your mind on other things. Don't go jumping into another relationship ,even though some may suggest that.... just think its unfair to the other person, if you heart is still on another. But be patient, it takes time Sorry to hear about the love of your life walking away.......btw
  • That sucks. My solution is to focus on doing the things that you wanted to do but couldn't because of your ex. Stay out late with your friends. Learn to flirt again. Take up a hobby your ex wouldn't have enjoyed. Stretch out and take up the whole bed. Use the bathroom with the door open. Drink from the jug. Cook something that's TERRIBLE for you. Get outside: nothing cheers you up like sun. You can have sex, just make sure you go into it knowing that another relationship isn't what you want right now. If you aren't ready, to have sex yet, rediscover (or discover) pornography, and don't let yourself feel the least bit ashamed about it either. To many people, the temptation can be to try to fall in love with someone new is high. You have probably adjusted to the life of being committed, and you might yearn to return to it. This isn't what you need yet. You need to learn to refocus on yourself.
  • maybe u did something wrong did u eveer thinnk about tht
  • well people sometimes make mistakes and maybe this time was a bad mistake but try talking to her
  • It ain't easy, but the faster you can move into your new future, the easier the loss gets. Try not to be alone without anything to do any more than you must.
  • WARNING! The following answer might help you to wake-up! I don't mean to hurt or insult you. COME ON! Wake up and smell the coffee AND the roses! YOU WERE "2nd fiddle" to someone else. She didn't want to hurt your feelings or be in your presence when you broke-down and cried. She gave you a hint. Take that hint and run with it. You deserve better than that creep! She MIGHT want to have you around as a convenience AND "just in case . . ." You don't have to put up with that garbage! I'll give you "the adult version" of what to do. You'll know which sections apply to you. The first suggestion I'm making WILL HURT LIKE THE DEVIL for a few weeks or months - maybe longer! THE ONLY suggestion I can make is to forget about him and move-on! DON'T you dare sit home on Friday, Saturday or any evening waiting for him to "throw you a bone"! GET OUT of that mindset and that environment! Due to the fact many folks have the ability to do the following things I don't think there is any reason you shouldn't have someone in your life to: 1) Properly communicate with you; 2) AND give you respect, dignity, honor and eventually the love, you deserve. Here's how to possibly meet someone better: If you go to church, temple or mosque on a regular basis and no one there seems to interest you, find-out when social functions are being held at another church, temple or mosque and attend functions there - at the second or third church, temple or mosque of the same denomination. If you have one or more hobbies or outside interests such as fishing, computers, cooking, baking, etc., find a club or group in your area with people who have the same hobbies or interests. At your work, ask about professional organizations, which you can get involved with and participate in. Find a worthy charity and on a regular, dependable basis - just as though it was a second job - do volunteer work for that charity. Wherever and whatever it is, within a reasonable travelling time and distance from your home or work, ask about, JOIN, PARTICIPATE AND BE ACTIVE! "The powers that be" and many caring, loving people - the folks you may be hoping to meet and "rub elbows with" and get to know, are those ladies and gentlemen doing volunteer work at hospitals, nursing homes, worthy charities and causes. When you do volunteer work on a consistent, dependable basis, your ability increases, your horizons expand and meeting that "special someone" AND possibly "climb, up the social ladder" could be greatly shortened and you could be recognized A WHOLE LOT SOONER. Are you self-conscious or shy? Go on-line and do a search about being more outgoing and an extrovert. There may be a solution to your situation: It's NOT inexpensive ("cheap"). It requires YOUR dedication and complete cooperation. I attended one of the world's leading public speaking classes on two different occasions AND I was a "Graduate Assistant" ("G.A.") once. There were folks of all kinds of backgrounds, cultures and ethnicities who attended those classes. There may be classes in your particular area of within 20 to 25 miles of where you live and work. Those classes WORK! If you are in school, look into a public speaking club or the debate team. LAST, but certainly not least: JOURNAL EVERY DAY. Write down things - on your computer: Thoughts, questions, things you learned and were taught, lessons you learned, things NOT to do, comments, books, etc. It's not hard. THE HARDEST PART IS GETTING STARTED - THEN CONTINUING! Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! Very Truly Yours, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: Some personal observations and opinions. Graduate of one of the world's leading public speaking courses. See my profile about the one I attended. Two days each week I volunteer at Magee Rehabilitation Hospital, 1513 Race Street, Philadelphia, PA. 19102-1177 "THE University of Hard Knocks" also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".
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  • Im going through the same thing, it hurts,

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