Murder-suicide is always a good standby.

If you don't feel anything for him then why don't you want to leave him? if you're really unhappy then you should move on and give yourself a chance to be happy and give him a chance to find someone that loves him and "feels something for him"

A couple of things come to mind,if the TWO of you can agree to do one or the other. M-E costs a bit, the other may cost more, but they both do effective, positive things for relationships. Marriage Encounter: http://www.wwme.org/ or http://marriage-encounter.org/ Imago Relationship Therapy: http://gettingtheloveyouwant.com/

so why stay? Why torture yourself? If you are that unhappy make a life for yourself and do him a favor by telling him you want out. Simple as that. You know, sometimes people just grow apart over the years. Thats life. Marriage is not for everyone.

It's painful, you'll feel awful about yourself for a while, but in my experience it's better to let go of a genuinely unfulfilling relationship. But then you MUST make up your mind to live life to its fullest. There's nothing worse than realizing that you've traded an unfulfilling life for another unfulfilling life. I think you get one "Get Out Of Jail Free" card - but it comes with conditions.

it sounds like you've become bored/boring in your relationship. when did you last feel love and affection for each other? revisit those times in your memory. what has happened to distant one from the other? if there's been no crisis in the marriage but you've just become busy apart from each other, mend that! spend time together, date, it takes investment to keep the spark alive in a marriage, any fire needs to be fed in order to continue to burn! feed the fire of your affections and you will be rewarded with a loving marriage relationship.

Marriage is work and over time we do tend to drift apart. It is up to both to rekindle the fire. A marriage counselor would be great but pick a good one. They can also ruin the marriage as in the case of mine..We as woman know what it is that we love. We love surprises and they don't have to be grand or expensive just a show of caring and romance and attention and above all undying love. It can be as simple as a flower or a hand and hand walk along the ocean shore, a surprise candle lit dinner or a back rub. It is up to the two of you to keep that fire going. Best of luck.

You need to be happy with yourself. Leaving won't make you happy with yourself. You can't run away from yourself, honey! :P

Try to rekindle the love. I think where your married you should try to work on it, go on a romantic holiday or weeked away and just spend time together as a couple. If that doesnt work then talk about it with him and he may feel the same or the talk might make him realise and do something about it.

Isn't that the typical marriage?

This is called the cold grip of 'companionate love'. Either do something to spice things up. Or end it.

I saw a movie the other night - Paris je t'aime - I think. A series of shorts by different directors based in different Paris neighborhoods. In one of the stories a man is about to tell his wife that he is leaving her, but she bursts into tears and tells him that she has just found out that she's dying of cancer and hasn't long to live. He decides at that moment to rise to the occasion and to see her through this. He breaks with his mistress and devotes himself to her. One line really struck me "in pretending to be a man in love, he became a man in love". At the end of the story when she dies, he is utterly heartbroken - so in love with her again is he. Maybe worth a try.

are there any children involved? maybe you can go on a "second honeymoon" and revisit the spot where you met. have dinner at an old favorite restaurant. take a cooking class together or join a sport or club...just get involved in his life again, and let him join you in yours. if you really are unhappy, consider your options for leaving. where would/could you go? could you survive on what means you currently have? good luck, either way.

Sounds like resentments, issues and feelings that are not being expressed or delt with? Or if they are being expressed... the solutions are going ignored? It wears on a woman when she has to constantly say the same things over and over and because he doesn't want to hear it or do what he has to do to correct it, he just ignores it. If you dont find solutions together that work for the both of you... respentment begins to rear its ugly head and eventually, in the moment... it can feel as though you don't love one another anymore when the real problem is just that you don't respect one another BECAUSE you love one another. Sometimes... love, allows people to act like idiots to one another when ill defined and non specific, concerning its own rules and guidelines. people have to communicate or no matter who they are with... it will always end this way for them eventually if this is the problem at all? I dont know the details so I am guessing...

First of all I am sorry you are having a difficult time. These issues are huge and cannot be simply answered in a few lines from a stranger. I think you need address what is missing between you and your husband, Their are two involved here and both parties need to be accountable. Of course if the other is abusive in anyway then that is another matter. Look at what you can do to make things better, Communication is key. If you are able to express what you need that is a first step. Secondly if the other person does not respond in anyway then there are other options. Professional help is always a good route if you can find a qualified therapist, many are good but there are a large number that are not. Even if you choose to leave your marriage , do with the knowledge that you did all you could, and gave your spouse an opportunity to do also. Often we think that the other is most of the problem and often when that person is alone and separated or divorced they still have the same issues. So, it is complex and needs time ti understand . There is help out there for you, so know that and that can comfort you. Write down what is missing this does not need to be shared with anyone. But it can give you a window into which you can see things perhaps more clearly. Not every marriage can be fixed, but many can.Give it a try, and in this way no matter what happens your gave it your all. Live life, do not wait for life, if so it passes you everyday. Also look at you life and see what you can do to make that better, this may also help you. You do not need to loose yourself in a marriage. Good luck to you

If it doesn't bother you and you both have separate lives, why leave him? In this tough financial times, 2 paychecks are definetely much better than one

I know how you feel. My two cents?....the leaving, as desirable as it may seem (some days) is harder than the staying. Happiness is an elusive little devil, but if I've learned anything at all from life it's that "true" happiness comes from within (a cliche but there is some truth to it).

The grass is no greaner anywhere else. To love someone is work. You have to work daily to hold true your spouse. Only a coward and a selfish person devorces for reasons other than abuse and infadelity. If you leave him and marry another, soon you will be in the same position you are in now. Have faith in yourself and in your husband. Your only hope is to recindle your marriage and come to grips with reality.

Nothing you would do will guarantee your happiness...but if you know that something in your life is causing you to be unhappy and/or miserable, and such is enduring nothwithstanding attempts to make it otherwise, you should, in my opinion, take the steps to change that, up to and including, if necessary, separation from that which is provoking your unhappiness. It's not unlike so many people who wake up every morning to go to a job they absolutely hate with all their heart and soul. They often rationalize their circumstances for any number of reasons, but never take the steps to find other employment that may bring about far greater satisfaction and happiness...even when they could have. When you are miserable, you likely cause others who surround you to be miserable. That's not a good thing, either. Being unhappy in one's brief life on this earth is not the way it's supposed to be, nor should it be. If you reasonably know that you will continue to be unhappy if you don't take the steps that might bring about otherwise....what can I say?

Go look at AB section with questions from people looking for someone. They sound pretty miserable. Want to join them? There is lots of good advice in the other answers. Work on your marriage. Start exercising together. Take ballroom dancing classes. Do something to spice up your sex life. Plan a vacation together. Change your routine. Where are you in life? Mid-life? Empty nester? Each of these stages has special challenges for everyone. A counselor will be able to help. Maybe you are depressed. Maybe you both are. Divorce usually doesn't cure depression. If you think you are going to get divorced, meet the man of your dreams, and live happily ever after - not likely. Possible - but not likely.

Does he know how you feel? And do you know where his head is at? If you were both to sit down and talk to each other about how you both feel, it may give you more clarity about why you are both where you are. Perhaps you may find your husband feels equally as disconnected & alone. This won't go away, but will just get buried a bit deeper with each passing day, unless either one of you make the first move.

two questions first, How long have you been married? Have either of you meet with a marriage therapist?