A dance is only a dance. Unless he wanted the dance to lead to something else then it is okay

No, what if you were out with you girl friends and a hot guy came up to you and asked you to dance? You do, nothing happens after and that was that... if a girl does it with her girl friends, its ok, cause it was just a laugh.. if a guy does it, it's cheeting? OK, nevermind... guys are dirty cretures... he probibly had thoughts in his head when he did it. Problem is, if it was just a dance, nothing came of it.. but you have to tell him that you are not pleased with his actions, and make sure it is known that you dissaprove of his actions. Guys don't think about these things some times, you know? You have to set boundries, or we'll do whatever if we don't see the harm of it.

Please turn off your caps lock :) Thanks. I don't consider this cheating. Sorry :(

It is not what is important what I think but you do think it is. Best I can tell you is the only way to resolve these sort of issues is sitting down with your husband and talking about it calmly. Letting each other know what you feel and what is considered being unfaithful and what is not. Many should do this long before a relationship is formed so it does not become grounds for separation. Since you asked - I do not feel that dancing is cheating it is something people do as a way of being close but not intimate.

Wow! Dancing, eh? Was it lap dancing, pole dancing or dirty dancing?

I think you're allowed to feel however it is that you feel. You going to do something about it now?

Did he go out with the women with the intent to dance? Or did he go out and happen to dance with women at the club? The first is sort of cheating, the second is just dancing at a club.

I think it is!!!

Tell him you want to go with him next time, so you can dance with other men.

You should go out for a night on the town. Teach him a lesson!

I personally wouldn't like it, then again, if I knew a guy was married, I wouldn't encourage any contact either. To me, it isn't cheating, but it does seem like what can lead to cheating. Let him know you are insecure about this, and maybe it can make a difference in his behavior the next time.

Sounds like you and your hubby have not had a discussion on boundaries you or he feel is inapropriate while out of each others sight. Dancing with another woman is not exactly cheating in my book. I would need to know if it was one of the women in the group of friends he was with so he felt you would be ok with that rather than some stranger? Was he just being courteous cause she asked him? Also if dancing is cheating to you then why didnt you stop him from going before hand? I am just asking. Perhaps you should talk about boundaries and not hold this one against him since he didnt know how you felt (I am assuming that cause there wasnt a lot to go on in the question). For the record I love to dance but if I am out with the girls and hubby is not then I turn down the dances when asked. I also dont drink to excess. I just dont want there to be any mixed signals for my hubby ...I still have fun with the girls and I make sure we all stay safe. To me thats more important.

I think it's cheating... for me, any intimate or provocative actions that you do with another person that you feel uncomfortable doing in front of your own spouse or gf/bf is cheating. He's married... he needs to be more considerate and responsible. Sit down with him and ask him how he feels about it.. he obviously doesn't think there's anything wrong with dancing with women.. tell him how you feel that it's inappropriate. Try to work things out and compromise with him.. If it was me, and he refused to do anything about it, then my attraction towards him would decline.. and if I had no children I'd get an annulment or divorce. I need a man that respects me and is willing to work things out and be considerate..not stuck in the memories of his college or glory days. If he was really thoughtful of you and loves you he wouldn't have a desire to dance with other women because he could never imagine hurting you. Talk to him.

It kind of depends on how it happened. If he was out with the boys drinking cold beer and ended up dancing with someone at the bar - it's can very well be "no big deal"... I seldom go to a bar and not end up dancing with someone - with or without my wife present. She knows it, and she dances with other men. Dancing for the fun of dancing is not a big deal - as long as there are no plans to turn it into hair pulling and back scratching. It's what big people do when they are secure and trust one another. On the other hand, if he said he was going fishing with Harvey, and ended up dancing at the local nightclub instead???? I could understand being suspicious and thinking that some cheating may have been planned. Who knows? I lived that way in a former life (meaning ex wife), and decided that life was entirely to short to spend it with insecure notions of infidelity. Dropping my suspicions has made me far more secure and happy.

It's not cheating,it's dancing.

Dancing?....no thats not considered cheating.

I am in a similar position at the moment. My boyfriend is Danish and a sailor, at the moment the ship is in port in Denmark and last night he went out with the crew. Ii get a phone call at 2am (3am Danish time) to tell me that as he is walking back from a bar. He often calls me when he's had a few drinks to tell me he loves me. I asked him how the night was, and he said he had a good time, then very matter of factly told me "I danced with lots of girls, but that's all" I was slightly taken back with this, and a little frosty, he kept saying "I danced with them but no more". The fact that he stayed out later than the rest of the crew and was walking home alone didn't help! Things don't seem quite so bad in the morning, I have spoken to him again and told him that I was just a bit shocked that he would WANT to go out and dance with other girls, because I certainly wouldn't be interested in dancing with other guys. However, I have absolutely no doubt that he loves me, he would not do anything to hurt me, and if anything other than dancing went on then he would never have told me he had been out at all. What really bothers me is that I realise now that I have jealousy and insecurity issues, and I think being with someone who works away for six months of the year is going to be very difficult for me. We are very much in love, and plan to get married in the next two years. Whenever we had discussed this in the past I always said it was difficult being without him but I could cope, now I'm not so sure. So, do I end a fantastic relationship with an amazing man now, because of my jealousy and insecurities, or do I hope I find a way to manage them, but risk a failed marriage in 15 yrs time?

Well simply dancing is not cheating. However, if he did this without telling you then that is something different. You should ask him how he would feel if you were to go dancing with other men and see how he responds.

This happened last night and I was floored. It is the first time he has danced with other women since we got married 2005... He does not understand why it upset me. I would not dance with men, if he was not there. He says it was nothing, but women have come on to him in front of my face. I am not sure why it really bothers me so much.

Women, plural? No. If he went out to dinner with A particular woman and then took A particular woman dancing, and then drove A particular woman home, and then gave that particular woman good night kiss. Maybe that's cheating, but I've danced with other women (plural) at weddings and parties many times and it wasn't anywhere near cheating.

well if the dance was horizontal and involed dance moves such as the mushroom in the bush then yes its cheating

I'd be ticked. But then again my husband and I do not drink or go to bars. He would never allow me to dance with anyone else either. This is how it is... and I like that about him. One of the things that attracted me to him was how he was with me. The other day he put his arm around me at a seven eleven, (sorry we're slurpy fans), but we've been together five years and it has only gotten better. Believe me there are times when I'm jealous! If he told you, then try to let it go. If he did not tell you, then it meant nothing to him! And if someone else told you, they only want a response from you. If that response is interesting than their work is done. Try telling him how you feel because bottling it up can lead to more trouble, suspisions and doubts. Because how you feel is how you feel, you aren't any of these people on here.

Basically I have to say no it's not. There are circumstances when I'd say it could cross a line but sooo much of that depends on motivation & exact details. I'd say this is something you don’t have to be happy about, nor is it something to bust his chops with either.

Get over it. It's just dancing.

to me is considered cheating cause my husband did the same he told me he was out with his friends "playing cards" and a friends wife that saw what happened came to my house and told me what he was doing, so how playing cards turns into dancing? and the lady that opened my eyes even told me that the women he danced with came to him and grabbed his hand and ask him to dance with her. when i went out to the same party in previous occasions he ignored me and now that he goes alone he dances???? if i go to a party alone i never dance with no one but my honey!!!! so why can he do the same???? respect is all i asked so i comfronted him and told him, how would you like me dancing with another man and that other man comes touching my hands?? of course typical latino he said hell NO besides that women he danced with called his cell phone to invite him and to find out if we were going to the casino??? why she needs to know what we as a couple do or don't do or where we go???? plus she is married and does this sort of behavior infront of her husband like nothing!!!! my honey and i had a great argument about the whole thing, at first he denied dancing with that "woman" but when i said the name of who told me, he admitted. i asked him if you think is nothing wrong with what you did why deny it??? thank god now he knows was wrong and promised he wont do it again. why ruined a 22 year marriage??? so dont do to others what you don't want done to you!!!!