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i m sorry about your co dependence, please spend some time w yourself. you might actually become a strong INDIVIDUAL someday. find a hobby or activity that you can do. (it took me awhile to get over my ex wife, i love her so i am happy for her in whatever she does, but we can never be intimate again.) stay cool do your own thing.
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This sounds more like panic attacks. Getting into counseling with all of this going on is probably the best thing you can do for yourself.
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Many people have similar feelings and attachments and most benefit from self analyzing and looking for the reason why they are co dependent and then seeking to control the thoughts and emotions they allow to roam free within their mind. It's like sitting on a road .. if you sit there long enough the traffic will run you over. Get up, get off the road and look for somewhere better to sit :)
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Keep talking on here. Let it out with questions. If you're talking to other people, like friends, or even strangers, it will help with your impulsiveness to call him. I used to feel the way you do, a very long time ago. The learning experience alone helped me so it didn't repeat in following relationships. I slipped up a few times, but that's life. DO NOT CALL HIM!
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Meditate.
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I got medication, went to therapy, had a reike massage, and went to a physic.
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I think you need to gradually find things you enjoy doing with out him. Soon the list will grow and you will have plenty to do.
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i dont know what you need but i cant tell you what you dont need is these stupid people posting anything but helpfull respones . lol you need to find another guy .. and actualy like him dont do it out of pitty or desperation . meet someone new and learn about then . go on dates? im sure no matter your physical stature. there is someone somewere that is feeling the same out there.. i have felt it . but i fount someone new and moved on . honestly if you want to imedietly get over him it wont happen but you have to start .... thats the key go out have fun ? life is to short.. honestly to be worried about one person that probaly is not worying the same about you.
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oh and the other thing that really helped me was that book "He's just not that into you" ..I had begged, and seduced and called and emailed. Then I read the book and I was ashamed of my behaviour. Of course he lead me on with the "I still love you and think of you everyday" crap. But the book is right. He looked at me in my face, took stalk of all my qualities and still chose to break my heart, he chose to leave me, alone and crying. And really do I want a man that doesn't want me?
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