First of all, you are not stupid. You have the intelligence to ask a very difficult question and that counts for more than you may realize at this time. Now, as for how to tell your boyfriend-I have some bad news for you...Most men realize (even only subconciously) what they are doing when they hurt the women whom they "love". Do not value yourself on what your boyfriend says you are, you are an intelligent woman who can make her own decisions. By asking this question you have acknowledged the fact that his actions are hurting you. Tell him in a calm & rational matter how you are feeling about his actions & words. If he does not understand then leave him. Trust me, once the emotional abuse (yes, I said abuse) is standard then men generally turn to physical abuse in order to dominate and control their women. You will find a man who values your opinions and thoughts without making you feel inferior once you are free to do so.

If you even have to ask this question then please re-evaluate your choice in partners! I have been there so please don't take this as criticism. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship with someone who would never make you feel "stupid". You deserve to feel loved and appreciated by someone who encourages open and honest communication. Good luck to you!

You should break up with him if he is doing that.

I have been in a relationship like this and i know it is very hard, but trust me hun, you have to leave him now. Men like this do not change, the hurt just gets worse. I know it is not easy, believe me i know. But you are better than this, we all are. Eventually you will just wake up one day, and you will finally realise you did the right thing, get over him girl, he is not worth your love. My dad always told me, no man is worth your tears and the one that is, wont make you cry. You deserve to be loved. Good luck x

If your boyfriend makes your feel stupid for you communicating with him, then your relationship is a nightmare in the making. There are many people in this world who cannot or will not take any form of criticism, especially from their significant other. These people are abusive and do not change. I've been through it and millions of other women have been through it. All the advice you received so far on this is correct and you should get away from him as fast as possible. We all learned the hard way, you don't have to.

Leave. This is clearly an abusive relationship. There's no other option and he is unlikely to change.

If i were you i would walk out that door and never look back.. he is porbably using you to make himself feel big.. well how about telling him to go and pick on someone his size..

ME AND MY BOYFRIEND WELL I WOULDNT CALL HIM MY BOYFRIEND,,WE R BOTH MEN,,,WELL WE BEEN IN A WIERD RELATIONSHIP TOGTHER FOR 6 YEARS, HE IS INVOLVED WITH ANOTHER LADY,,HAS 3 BOYS AND I ON THE WAY,,MY PROBLEM IS, SHOULD I THANK THERE IS A FUTURE WITH ME AND HIM OR LET IT GO,,,EVERY TIME I TRY TO SAY MY GOODBYES HE WONT LET ME,,HE CALLS AND CALLS,,,SO I STAY WITH HIM,,I AM IN LOVE WITH HIM BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO,,

You could write him a letter, mail it, and walk away from him. Unless you see something in him that is willing to accept your emotions and respond in kindness, my first impression is that he is not willing to hear and derives some pleasure or strength from making you feel small. I must interject that no one can "make you feel" anything as long as you have taken charge of your own emotions and self-image. However, it seems that you have consigned a degree of your own self concept to him to dictate. This is not healthy. Once you are secure in yourself and willing to walk away, you may be able to relate to someone like this because you do not "need them" to feel anything. I don't know your age, personality, maturity, emotional disposition, background, or the depth of this relationship, so all my advice is tentative. however, I am worried about what you describe because it sounds emotionally abusive. You are NOT STUPID no matter what your boyfriend says. Nor are you dependent on him. If he cannot accept your feelings (and make sure that you make more "I-statements" than "You-statements" to take ownership of your own life), then he is probably not ready for a relationship and you are not safe with him. Tell him. Make it clean and clear and when you do, take note of his response. On that basis, make your decision. His response or reaction is about HIM NOT YOU. If he cannot listen and respond in a mature manner, he is not worthy of you and you should invest nothing more in the relationship. It does not mean he is an awful person, just immature and manipulative. You must take a stand and you must start to value yourself. All the best to you.

I've been threw the egzact situation before and still am partly going threw it. The first thing you half to do is try and be very open with him, because if you dont it will not get resolved and he will continue to emotionally abuse you, and he will never know what going on if you dont tell him whats going on with how you feel. Good luck to you! hope everything works out :)

Never feel stupid for being honest.

If you think he would make you feel stupid for telling him that he is emotionally hurting you, then, clearly, he doesn't care that he does. In fact, he probably enjoys it.

If I was you I would leave. Being in any abuse situation is bad for the soul. In no way should someone make you feel stupid for the way you feel. Your feelings are yours, you can not change that, nor can you change his. Yes I would tell him. He should be the one that feels stupid, because he is hurting you. Using you as a doormat and so far i think he has succeded. Do not make excuses for him. You are not stupid, the only stupid thing would be to put up with that any longer.

'Shut up fuck-face' - that would do it.

its a form of bullying, dont stand for it

When you are telling him that he hurts your feelings- Point it out when he is making you feel stupid (incompitant?) If he doesn't care or doesn't see that it hurts you when he says/does things like that- then get rid of him.

Since you feel the need to ask tis question, don't bother asking him anything. Ask youself a question: WTH are you doing with this jerk? He can't make you feel stupid! You let him make you feel stupid! Stop!!! Get out of this mess!!!!! Things will only get much worse!

Obviously I don't know much about your relationship beyond this question, but if I may say this.... If you're worried about having a sincere conversation with him to either better your relationship, or better yourself, because of him making you feel stupid... It might be worth looking at discontinuing the relationship. If he's not going to respect your opinion, and constructively work with you, instead just deflect the fact that he's a jerk, by making you feel stupid. I get the feeling this has happened to you before with him. You try to tell him something important, whether it's to improve the relationshp, or end it, and he doesn't want to hear it, or believe it, so he makes it seem like you're the one with the problem. I use to be him... TRUST me.... I did. I kept a girl in a relationship with me for 5 1/2 years because I was controlling, and when she wasn't happy with me, and wanted to end it, I would always guilt her into staying with me. This is no way to live, for either of you. Good luck on your struggles. There really is no way to tell a guy like that that he's doing something wrong. He'll realize eventually, years after your relationship is over. (If that's what you choose to do.)

if youi really want to have a conversation with him you can say... Either you treat me better or We're over. pretty straight forward but you gotta keep to it.

I have been a situation like this and to be honest literally now getting out of it. He never changed even though I told him how he made me feel. He just got worst and worst and my confidence shrunk. He really never cared what he did to me emotionally as long as he felt superior. He said he wanted my friend, that I didnt do anything for him in life, I didn't dress classy. I tried and tried and tried to be the person he wanted me to be and obviously I started to lose myself and self esteem. I feel hurt that I wasted a year with this person and that I allowed anyone to do that to me, but Im out now and so much happier and slowly getting back to my old self. If he doesn't change hun, then get him out your life QUICKLY. good luck

You break up with him. He'll take you seriously then. Oh, make sure you live a good life without him. That always seems to do the trick.

If he makes you feel stupid when you raise this issue, then he is proving that he he is emotionally abusing you. If he does this you should drop him.

You sit him down and raise the issue. If he doesn't take you seriously you tell him you are serious. Dont raise your voice or make a fight of it, if he still doesnt take it seriously, you leave him. He'll bloody well realise how serious you are then.

Like this, "Good Bye!"

Simple, have some self respect and tell him "GOOD BYE", then go and find your self the kind of person that you deserve, who will treat you right, with out you having to tell them.

The only way someone can make you feel stupid is if you give them permission to. You should be able to commuinicate your feelings and know that they will be listened to and respected. If this isnt happening, you should end the relationship. Period.

my bf beat me up every single day...torches me i got beat up for every single word com out of my mouth.. my legs and hands started shaking...crying like almost everytimeee all his word vomit prickles me like hell... he mkees me feel stupiddd nd retarded he treats me like shitt i got no 1.....from my childhood i dnt hve dad... wad to do..do i need to meet pscyhartist??