Depending upon the jurisdiction, it could be considered statutory rape. I think you should get up your courage to ask THEM. We don't have the answers, but THEY do. :) I just wanted to edit this to add that the circumstances surrounding your birth have nothing to do with either your worth or character.

I dont think so but that is only my oppinion .. Im also not from the U.S so the acuall rules are different. It is not looked good at many places but then again a while back it was commen practice.

I know there are laws about statutory rape and all but that has everything to do with age and nothing to do with consent. I believe if two people have sex by choice of all person(s) involved, and there was no pressure by any participant to participate in the sexual activity, then it was not rape. Hope that helps.

If it was consentual I don't believe so, but legally it could be I suppose. Like someone else commented, you need to ask them. They're the only ones with that answer. I was adopted also and had so many questions when my birth mother and I found eachother. She was 16 when she had me and my "father" was 20 or 21. He doesn't know I exsist though. He also got another girl pregnant from the same high school as the same time. I have a biological sister that is 8 months older than me. If I ever met him I would have a few questions for him as well. I know how scary it is having questions regarding your conception and birth growing up not really knowing the truth. If you're too afraid to do it now, wait until you're older and have the wisdom on just how to ask. I'm 34 and still am timid about asking her certain things and we've known eachother for 12 years now. Only you can decide when you're ready. Good luck!!

It is considered statutory rape in many jurisdictions for anyone to have sex with a girl under 16 - and if you were born when she was 15, she must have been only just 15 when you were conceived. However, the rule about 16 is because the law has to make a sharp decision on what is inherently a fuzzy subject. It is ridiculous to suggest that a girl of 15 years, 11 month and 29 days does not knew what she is doing, and when she wakes up on her 16th birthday is magically fully responsible. I have to say that I think a 19 year old man should have known better. He preferably have waited, and if he didn't wait, he should have used contraception. But I am not sure that it is useful to consider what your adopted parents did as "rape". The question is, how much did your mother suffer, and how much do you suffer. *If* you and your mother are both happy with the way things have turned out, then don't bother searching for rude words to describe historic events.

no it's not rape, technically child abuse though, although their ages are only 4 years apart so it's no big deal

Do you know any friends or relatives that you can ask? Then you can ease into the situation without talking to your parents first. Your parents may not be open to telling you everything, you never know. You could next research to see if your father has any type of criminal record. If he does not, this could put your fears at ease.

The other answers are correct, of course, but emotionally you have to ask yourself "What kind of people are they now? Does your father really act like a callous criminal? Has he taken any kind of responsibility? Did they maybe just get carried away and do something neither of them thought they would ever do? It would have been easier for both of them just to abort you, but they didn't and gave you up for adoption which was probably very hard especially for your mother. You don't say your age but if you're still rather young, sometimes we do unfortunate things when we're young and foolish, but it looks like they at least tried to make up for it by giving you a better life than they thought they could give you themselves. You weren't aborted or abandoned; you were adopted out and they even let you find out who they were. That may be all you need to know at this age.

Having been the victim of rape, I am appalled by statutory rape laws. From a legal perspective in the USA, the situation you described would qualify as rape in virtually every jurisdiction, and your dad would be labeled a sexual predator and his life would be forever ruined -- even if your mom understood the nature and quality of the physical acts and gave her consent (and even if she was the aggressor). Thus, the laws themselves are much more unethical than the behavior itself could ever be. If you ask me, the only righteous standard is this: "Each party to the act (or acts) must give consent based on a reasonable appreciation for the nature and quality of the act (or acts) to which he or she is giving consent:" If on account of mental disease or defect, or if for intoxication or otherwise impaired judgment, or if for lack of sophistication, or if on account of coercion, one or more parties to any performed act is unable to both (a) competently form a reasonable appreciation for the nature and quality of that act, and (b) competently, independently and voluntarily consent to such act; then performance of that act usually should constitute rape against such a person. Because the term "act" is so broad, and because the rest of the language is phrased in "catch all" terms, that definition is ultimately conditional: it would be unethical, for instance, to prohibit parents/guardians from responsibly educating their respective children with respect to the goal of making each such child a competent independent executor of moral authority regarding issues of his or her own sexuality. However, I am extremely uncomfortable giving autority to any government to decide who may or may not engage with each other in consensual acts of sex, regardless whether I find such behavior distasteful or unwise. A related but different offense would be sexual fraud: the use of untrue or materially misrepresented facts and/or circumstances for the purpose of soliciting or obtaining consent; each person against whom one or more parties acts in bad faith or through lies or subterfuge attempts to obtain -- or from whom such party or parties obtains -- consent in the performance of one or more sexual acts is the victim of sexual fraud.

No that is not considered rape unless your mother refused sex with your father.