Wow, is that all it takes to get ye old ball and chain to leave? Sure beats all of that arsenic I have been slipping in the spousal unit's tea. Cheaper too... ;-) In all honesty if your spouse says 'lose weight' it most likely means you do need to lose weight - or your BF or your SO or what ever you call your mate. You might want to consult with a doctor to see if this is really the case. If you need to clean more... well once again the spouse/SO/GF whatever you call the mate would be the first to tell you. Before jumping off the handle and leaving have you asked yourself if these things really need to be done? If you have and you can positively say so without a second thought then you have far, far deeper problems in your relationship and you both need couples counseling. Maybe he is trying to communicate issues that he sees and he doesn't know how to go about it - instead of saying "I'm worried your weight is going to kill you" he said something like 'go on a diet' - maybe instead of suggesting the house could be cleaner he just said 'clean the house more'. Or maybe your relationship has started down that long, drawn out spiral to failure and you should grab a parachute and jump now before it gets to bad. Either way a couple's counselor will solve the questions far better than a Q&A board like this one.