What do you do when you love someone that doesn't love you back?

We're often told to never give up trying to get what we want. But there's a thin line between obsession / stalking and having found "the one" true love for you. Don't make the police have to tell you the difference! Know your value, and simply never give up on yourself!

Whenever we feel an attraction towards someone, it's never good to have to push them to return our feelings. We've probably all done stupid things in so-called relationships. It was probably because we were insecure with ourselves, didn't know our wants or limits, or how to feel about love. We settled for less, giving twice as much, thinking it would eventually work out alright. It never does! Best we can hope for is the strength to move on, before we've become a complete fool or arrested!

In a real partnership, one might give more than the other sometimes. In the end though, it all works out balanced, healthy, and right for each of them. However, when one partner doesn't care, they rule the relationship, because the one who cares will do anything and everything to make it work out. They become a fool for what they believe is love. Don't ever let this be you!

You hurt. You struggle. You move on the best you can. You can also learn how CAPABLE of loving you are. How deeply you can feel love. How much you need and want love. Those are HUGE discoveries to make in the human experience.

I am in this exact situation and it hurts me to the core. There is nothing you can do about it, you cannot force love. I give it out unconditionally and receive little to none in return. You should ideally just get out of the situation. I however cannot because I am deeply in love and deeply screwed.

This is always tough and never easy to answer. Nothing in the world that is free is as valuable as love presented to another person. All you can do is show your very best and if that person does not reciprocate then you have done all you can do. It is up to you when you feel you should move on but don't waste something as valuable as your love when it will not be returned. Consider the fact that you are a wonderful person for wanting to share love in the first place and many, many a good person out there would gladly share it with you and need it too. You will do great!

The heart is the most resilient muscle (emotionally speaking). People survive so much worse than this, learn from those that have gone before you! I am a die-hard romantic. I fall in love over and over! That's why I love being single almost as much as I love being married to Hubby :) Take a time-out to take care of yourself and then let yourself feel something for someone who appreciates you. Last, I have said this here before, but I gotta say it again: "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with". ~ Crosby, Stills and Nash.

I watch from a distance, see if he's really happy with someone else, and if he is... let him go.

Yeah, it's very, very, godawful hard to do. I know, cause that's exactly what I'm trying to do now.

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This is a relationship that will never produce prosperous fruit(love)at least as long as it is a one way lay. This is like shopping and returning it without a receipt and leaving with out a refund. This relationship will be an obstacle course that will get harder and you will become physically exhausted. This is not a good way to develop strength, too much of a risk it can go either way stengthen you or weaken your.

You move on and find someone worthy of your love.

Dear Love Someone,---- I have been in that situation, and I found through heartship - By trying to make someone love you, will only push - what, could be a friendship down the drain!! Then the more we try - the faster they fly !!! Try not to ponder on him , just take a step back -- and be his/her friend. I hope this helped some?? Bless you -- Pattijo

You get first hand knowledge of Unrequited Love


Unrequited love is love that is not reciprocated, even though reciprocation is usually deeply desired. This can lead to feelings such as depression, anxiety, and mood swings such as swift changes between depression and euphoria. The expression is usually used in a negative sense, but even today there are many people who unknowingly live in or even purposely strive for a frame of mind perhaps best described by that of minnesingers and troubadours in general.

When I was 16 many many many many years ago lol I was head over heels inlove with the most beautiful girl I ever met. Her name was Roseanna a very beautiful girl who just a couple of years befpre cam to America from Italy. I loved her like no other man probably ever loved her and she treated me like crap cause UI was not her idea of handsome It took me 6 years to realize I would never be good enough to be her boyfriend before I finally gave up and moved on. My advice is you can't force someone to love you if you feel you can be just friends with the guy then by all means do so but don't expect he will ever feel the same for you.

As Dora said on NEMO, "just keep swimming"

Let them go and take really good care of you. Seek the love of family and friends to help you heal as you process this love loss. I have found that all of them hurt, some more than others. The love and support that I recieved really helped to mend my broken heart.

When I was "a kid" (16 - 20) I pushed it and got what I thought I wanted so badly. Unfortunately, what I got wasn't what I thought it would be...an so I made a LOT of dumb, hurtful mistakes.

In retrospect...I would say to myself...STOP TRYING TO MANIPULATE SOMEONE ELSE...AND DEMEAN YOURSELF AND MOVE ON BABY! There is LIFE after disappointment and sometimes not being loved is NOT because you are not good enough or worthy enough...it sometimes is NOT about YOU at all.

Get out, meet new friends, be open to the good things that are out there and try to avoid the bad! Never settle for less than the best.

This is a situation that everyone in the world is thrusted in at some point in time or another, and it's just awful.

When you're faced with unrequited love the only thing you can do is pray to whoever you pray to and hope that you can successfully woo the object of your affections.

date their sister

same here I'm deeply in love with my bf who wants to have other girls ... It hurts me to the core and I'm dying inside as im trying to be his friend and just suck it in. The only thing that makes life a little more bearable is to focus on yourself and your personal goals. Work hard to make the other aspects of your life better and you shall survive.

Un requited love is a terrible feeling,because no matter how much you put into the relationship it will never work because you will want so much more.

Its the pits because its so hard to let go,when you love some one so deeply,but after a while of them treating you badly which they will if they dont love you,you will eventually move on,time will heal,not the answer you want to hear i know and i feel for you,been there and kinda there still now,and you cant just walk away i know that. :(

Move on. Once you absolutely make the decision in your own head, the rest will follow, so just kick yourself in the ass, don't give yourself (the other person) any more excuses, and make the decision. It really is that simple. The rest of the steps will fall into place from there.

You move on. Theres no point waiting for that person to love you back as much as you love them. Find someone else that you dont even have to consider asking this question about

You still love them, but give them space. If it's a non romantic relationship- then they might come around in time if you don't give up, same for a romantic relationship. Do not forget to give them space. Sometimes that means not even seeing them for awhile. Don't be too clingy.

move on, you will find better than him...

You pout in sadness...unless you make a move of course.

1st i will accept it, and i will set him free,because if you really love someone you dont have to be sellfish no matter what :)

when you love someone u feel like u r afraid but u like tht feeling so u want to feel it all the time and it never go tht's why when the partner doesnt love you u hurt soo much.so try to not like tht feeling tht much!!
i know tht it's easy to say but not easy to do it im exactly in the same situation soo i know how girls feel.
all i can say it's NEVER never say tht i love tht guy untill u know tht he feel the same about so u won't hurt !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kill your self its alot less painful

i've been 8 yrs...trying and finally i'm free. @ first i tried. I'm very persisten so i keept trying...until i realize that you should never give your soul and heart to anybody that does not correspond to you...i know it may seem stupid...but i think that's it. Specially when some people take advantage of you knowing you love them and make u believe things that in reality are not true...I KNOW KNOW GOD DOESN'T DEAL IN THAT DEPARTMENT BECAUSE IT HAS TO DO WITH FREE WILL...IT DEPENDS ON THE INDIVIDUAL...BUT I THINK GOD HAS TO DO WHEN THEY TRY TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU....JUST PRAY TO WHO EVER YOU PRAY TO GIVE YOU WORDS THAT THE OTHER PERSON WANT TO HEAR....

it's not easy...i know it sounds easier than to be done...but MOVE ON! be open to new things.

oh man... i know that. i love a girl so badly.. so bad that i think i will never love anybody so much like her.
but she's seeing me as a really good friend... and shes dating other guys and she is on a way to fall in love again.

i never really said to her what i really feel(but i think she knows). cuz im scared to lose this friendship.
i was trying to forget her.. but no chance :)

but at the end even if it breakes my heart. as long as she is happy. i am happy too.. in some way...

and just like the other guys/girls said here.
dont rush. time will tell

love is the most wonderful, and painful thing. if you really love someone and they dont love you back theres nothing you can do because if you trulely love that person you cant make it stop. all you can do is cry and feel worthless. but without this bad painful side of love there wouldnt be the good part. although ive never been in a place where the person loved me like i loved them, i still believe that love is real. after you have experiences like this you realize that love has nothing to do with physical attraction, or sex. you can have sex with someone who your attracted to but if you dont have true frrlings for them it means nothing. when your with someone that you really love it is the most wonderful thing. if someone who is reading this is in a loving relationship i just want to tell you to really sppreciate it and cherish the person.your very lucky and i wish i could have the person i love.

I put them in my basement and make sure to feed and water them.

Remove myself from the situation an seek for another candidate. which is a really hard thing to do but if you remove yourself from the situation it can save you from a heartache and nightmare. believe me i learned it the hard way for months i forgot that the "sea" had billions of males alive to choose from.

I just keep right on loving them as best I can :)

It's hard to love someone when there is no love in return, it's even sadder when there is no love at all. True genuine Love is not self seeking, therefore it should not change even if they do not love you back. True Love never fails, people fail to truly love.

Ponder it, most likely cry - but DO NOT try to be their friend.

You need to get over them and move on.

Otherwise, you are destined to misery. Loving someone who doesn't love you back is miserable. I know from experience and wish I got over her quicker.

get over it, the faster you do ,the faster you will meet someone that loves you as much as you love them.

Pray for the strength to move on.

it's hard when you are betrayed from within. You must be true to yourself. when you know it is time to give up, let it go!. If you fail you'll betray yourself and you'll continue to accept selfish relationships.

I am really great friends with this girl. I mean we are best friends. But i have amazing feelings for her. We have talked about it. She has told me "she just wants to be friends. She would never want to screw up our relationship." I have accepted that, but how in the heck do i get these feelings for her out of my head. I wright music, and me and this girl sing together. But can some one tell me what to do.

its better to loved then never of loved at all this guy i liked should took a risk should took a chance but all he ever say is that he's sorry but i know he not look for a relation ship right now and maybe he can see an ackturely fall in love with me and we can just be buds if that does not work out be you can all way i mean all ways try but dont get hopes up to high because you never know what might hi you in the back of your head....

its better to loved then never of loved at all this guy i liked should took a risk should took a chance but all he ever say is that he's sorry but i know he not look for a relation ship right now and maybe he can see an ackturely fall in love with me and we can just be buds if that does not work out be you can all way i mean all ways try but dont get hopes up to high because you never know what might hi you in the back of your head....

i think it is better to loved to have never loved at all don't ask me what that means because i don't really understand I'm in the same problem i don't know what to do he says he's not looking for a relationship between anyone i know i sound desprit some people don't know what its like to fall in love i just wish the guy i like would take a chance or a risk or any thing and see how it works out if does not then we could could go back to just being best buds and maybe he'll understand how i feel

i loved soemone but he doesnt love me back i even told him that i like him he said me 2 and we can be best frndz and back then i knew he doesnt like me more than frndz and aftera few days i found it he is ma frnd boyfriend and be4 that ma frnd was teh one who told me 2 tell him that i loved him she really helped me and nw she left him cuz of mee cuz i love him she said she cnt be with him and one of her frndz loves him:S and i cnt 4give ma self for that i tried talking 2 her 2 convince 2 go back 2 him buts he dnt want :S and am scared that he wont 4give me 4 that and ma frnd that shes goin 2 get hurt :S:S can some1 help me plzz cuz i really dnt knw wat 2 do i hate being the reason 4 them getting hurt :S

You stop trying (after it's obvious they don't) and go find someone that truly does.

how about this. I met a girl at college who really liked me, but I didn't know her well and didn't care too much for her. As we became better friends I really started to like her... how she felt well i'm not sure. We had close calls on going out, but never happened. We remained friends, i met the family(who were amazing), and then she moved. My feelings for this girl transcend nearly everything. It's her essence, her spirit. I wouldn't care if she lost her face, I'd still want to be with her. She feels like my perfect match, but I don't think she feels the same. I've dated many beautiful woman, but none that make me glow like her. she just doesn't do it to me, but to everyone who knows her really. Everybody loves her. I've not pushed her to tell me how she feels, i'm giving it time. She's moving back this year to my college and im debating going back to college or staying in italy (which is a better choice to me but this girl is not there). Im just worried, I'll never find another girl like her if she never wants me. And I don't think I'll ever be happy with anyone else unless another amazing girl like her can come along. But perhaps im misguided. As long as i've known her I can't see any shortcomings, those that are aren't problems to me. Maybe i'm in an illusion, or maybe this is what people who are really in love feel. it's so much more than infatuation. I want whats best for her, even if she wants another guy; but if I could be that guy... in any possible way, I would do anything. Anyone had something similar? Or have any good advice?

Its hurts, really hurts to love someone and not be loved in returns but what can you do ???
I have been in that situations times without number and all i can say is love someone with all your heart and if you dont get it back dont bother ..You will get over the pain and one day,love will find you

I HAV KNOWN K FOR 3 YEARS NOW WE FELL OUT ABOUT TWO YEARS AGO BCOS SHE LIED TO ME ABOUT A BF WHEN SHE KNEW I WANTED TO BE WITH HER, 3 OR 4 MONTHS AGO I MADE THE EFFORT TO GO AND FIND HER COS I HAVNT BEEN ABLE TO MOVE ON OR FIND ANY1 TO BE HONEST I DONT WANT ANY1 ELSE SHE SAID SHE WAS SINGLE SO I FELL IN LOVE WITH HER ALL OVER AGAIN ONLY TO FIND OUT LAST FRIDAY SHE HAS BIN WITH SUM1 FOR A YEAR ND 10 MONTHS ND HE HAS JUST DUMPED HER FOR KNOWING ME I STILL LOVE AND FORGIVE HER BUT SHE LOVES HIM SHE ALSO HAS GOT INTO A TRAP OF ABUSEING KETAMINE I DONT KNOW WAT TO DO IM HURTING ALL OVER MY HEART FEELS LIKE IT HAS BEEN CUT OUT AND FRIED

I'm in love with a co-worker. I'm divorced and she is going through a divorce. We've known each other for almost 3 years. We have great heart-to-heart conversations about once a month and really like each other. The problem is that I am always the one to initiate conversations. I deeply love this woman but I have the sinking feeling that the timing is wrong. However, our conversation have gone from her saying, "I'm not looking for anything right now," to "Here's what I'm looking for." When I told her that I want and fit into her needs, she responded warmly. I've told her I love her (I really didn't want to but it just came out during a conversation we had) and the next day she invited me to lunch (this was a week ago). We went and had a good time. I reciprocated by putting together a lasagna (her favorite food) for her to take to her new place (remember she is going through a divorce and is moving out during the holidays) and she seemed to be touched. All I've said at this point is, "Once you are settled in and feel like it, let's go out on a date." She was noncommittal but seemed ok with the idea. Does anyone have any thoughts? I'm trying to stay as far away as I can because I don't want to push her too hard - but we see each other every day. The weekends are just awful because I'm always wondering what she may be doing. I've been going on lots of dates and still am because I want to make sure I'm not going crazy. However, each date just confirms that she's the one I want. Does anyone have any thoughts?

partly you get over it....

Pack your stuff and leave. The longer you stay, the more heartache you bring upon yourself.

Don't give up!
Just wait and they may come around :)
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