Would you stay with your wife if she had a drug problem
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GARY MARSHALL
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Only a question you would know the answer to if you were in that position. otherwise guess work, it all comes down to the good points of a relationship outweighing the bad etc...
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It is very very hard. my husband is a recovering drug addict. And trust is always an issue he has had 2 relapses but is doing good now. I think it all comes down to whether or nor you think you can deal with evrything coming your way. It is not easy by any means. I can only say from my experience... Too if you have children think about there welfare. Is it hurting your family financially, is she caring for the kids while your at work. Good luck hope you find the answers that suit you best.
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Alot of people who have addictive personalities suffer from depression and or other pshyciatric disorders. The best thing you can do is offer your support and love. Being there for youe wife is of utmost importance. Stress in life can trigger a relapse so try your best to keep her from having to deal with too much stress help her to realize you love her and want to help.
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Cost versus reward, yes. We've already been through alot so a little more wouldn't hurt. My back is a rock for my family whenever they need it.
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under most conditions yes, but if it caused her to start harming my kids then absolutely not.
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I would like to think I am strong enough to stay and help as long as they are willing to help themselves. I don't beleive in being some ones crutch but everyone could use help. My husband stood and still stands beside me through my addiction problem I would hope I am that strong if need be!
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If my spouse refused to get treatment and counseling, then I might have to remove myself from the situation until he changed his attitude and behavior. I wouldn't love him any less, but I wouldn't want to take the chance on him hurting me or our children. I would support him anyway but financially and would definitely be right back by his side if he decided to get clean. I've not had to deal with that and I'm thankful, but I would not be able to stand by and watch him self-destruct. Do what you think it is right for you and your family, that's all you can really do.
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Of course you should stay with your wife. As fate would have it, she needs you now more than ever. Substance abuse is bad enough as it is, but couple it with a divorce too and you get severe depression. Not a good combo. The thing is though that she has to be willing to break the habit. If she's not willing to bend then you're going to have to break that previous thought up there and give her a dose of tough love! Whatever it takes to get it through her heard that she needs to get off the drugs is okay. I know a man who actually called the police on his own wife once. She was angry with him for a while, but she's clean now and they're happily married. Careful with this. If I were you, I'd consider talking to your family physician about it first and see what he/she recommends.
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youre question reminds me of my boyfriend and i. except i dont have a drug probably. i have severe depression and have been in and out of the hospital for suicide attempts. as me putting myself in her shoes... she needs help. and if you love her try to work through it. especially if shes a great mother and wife besides her addiction. support her and try to get her the help she needs. try to be a little understanding. she needs to get treatment but that will only happen when she realizes she has a problem. and id suggest that if you want to work things out... try couple therapy. i know it sounds stupid but thats probably what im going to have to do too. she needs the support of her loved ones to get through this. so my personal response is stick it out. especially since you have a family. but if she gets too out of control back away so you and your kids dont get hurt. and find a way to resolve this fast. otherwise... yes she will end up hurting herself... its only a matter of time. i really do hope that it works out for you and your family.
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I did stay with my husband when he had a drug problem. He had severe pain from back problems and was depressed. I'm not sure if I'd still be with him today, but 4 years ago he killed himself. His habit was very expensive and I think he really felt that killing himself was the best thing he could do for me. He knew it was really putting a strain on our finances and that he was hurting me.
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Gary, I feel for you. Keep the faith and hopefully she can get the help she needs to be clean and sober.
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You yourself need something like Al-Anon. I've had some experience with drug & alcohol addictions, and the one thing I've learned is that the things that you need to do are almost all counter-intuitive. So you need advice from those who have been there and done that, and meetings only cost what you care to donate, usually a dollar or two a meeting instead of a dollar or two a minute.
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