My daughter was molested when she was 3 by her own father. She is now 9 and talking about sex and openly acting out with other kids about sex. Is this normal for a victim of abuse or is this abnormal behavior? Please help
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This is normal behavior for a child that has been molested. She needs to go to therapy about this, or she's going to become sexually active at an earlier age. She needs to know that what happened to her was very wrong, and needs to know what real love feels like, because she probably thinks that what happened to her with her father was love. She's probably very confused, and needs serious help.
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I agree that she need serious help. This behavior in a young child usally always follows molestation. Curiosity about sex is normal for a girl her age but "openly talking about sex and openly acting out" is not. Has she been thru any therapy thus far? If not get her into therapy ASAP. Sexual molestation has devastating affects on a child, if not now then inevitably in later years. Your daughter is only acting out what she has learned. Statistics show that a good majority of children who wer molested end up as molesters themselves. Don't show anger, fear, or disgust when she acts this way. Just get her into therapy and let her know that she is a good girl, you love her and you are behind her 100 percent. I work with young children like this in a group home setting. I see this kind of behavior everyday. You MUST get help for her NOW.
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yes it is as a victim i did the same thing after the incident i lost my virginity at 7 yrs old
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She may never speak to you about the way she feels but do take her to a professional. She may be very confused about what love is or feel very ashamed and dirty and never get to know what love truly is. For her to have a fruitful adult relationship and to keep her from making many mistakes too young let her speak to a therapist and try not to push her if she doesnt share her feeling with you.
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I wish people would stop saying that jsuy because someone was abused as a child that they will go on to abuse as adults. Do you not think that we have enough to deal with his great tragedy in our lives without attaching a stigma on us aswell? I was abused as a child, and I would never lay a finger on a child. It is hurtful and insensitive for people to assume that I will absue children just because MY childhood was ruined. Have a heart and stop adding to our pain!
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As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I have read a lot on this subject. Many children do act out with other kids. I don't know if you have had your beautiful daughter to therapy yet, but do not waster another minute. Get her to a therapist who specializes in sexual abuse. If you can find a qualified female therapist all the better. This will be an issue for your daughter the rest of her life, but it doesn't have to defeat her. With the right help, she will be able to flourish. You also need to take care of yourself, meaning that you also need to get therapy to help you with your issues concerning this and to help you understand what your daughter is going through and how to help her cope. This is NOT a hopeless situation. I am happily married 28 1/2 years with one son and my first granddaughter. I am a compassionate loving adult, with a deep-seeded faith in God. I hope this has helped you.
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