I figure I do alot for people when they need the help and although they do say thank you, I do believe that they aren't really as appreciative as you'd hope they'd be. Why is it they never understand how hard it is to be tolerant, helpful, and compassion
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Do you help people for yourself, or for them? If it's for them, you shouldn't expect anything in return. You're doing a selfless act. Expecting more of someone, is makeing the situation more about you.
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I think some are truly thankful but others feel like it is owed to them. I have a brother who thinks life owes him everything. I do not know why he thinks this or why he behaves this way but I can tell you he is no more thankful for anyone helping him then he is for the dirt he walks on.
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Give advice because they need/want it,, not because youre hoping to recieve a thank you. Thats not a good reason to give advice and you'llrun yourself dry. Many people are thankful when the recieve advice, but usually keep it to themselves. I have only seen a few instances where someone came back to thank the person, usually the advice giver is just happy to help and hopes for the best. If the best happens you'll see a change in attitude or a postive outcome and that should be enough. *EDIT: Just felt like adding that some people who ask for advice arent really greatuful for it. Posisbly because whenever they are in a jame they tend to recive the answers they need, they expect it. So you tellign them is no different.
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What exactly do you expect them to do then?
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Maybe they do understand how hard it is and they just don't care. Don't do for people unless you are doing it without expecting anything(including appreciation) in return. You'll never be disappointed if you aren't expecting a payoff for your good deeds.
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You are setting up standards of behavior for other people, Sheepingly, based on your ideals or standards of behavior. If you do that, you will always be disappointed because everyone doesn't think alike, put the same value on things, nor care particularly about them. If you do anything for others, that must be enough for you..or don't bother. Just something I've learned along the way that I thought I'd share with you. They are probably doing the best that they can. You need to be able to accept that and live with it, because it's all you're ever going to get. Happy Wednesday! :)
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"Life is easy for the shameless, the cunning, Corrupt, brazen, nasty, and betraying. But for one who's honest and insightful, Trying to pursue honesty, it's hard." -Dhammapada 244-245
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Your suspose to help people from your heart and expect nothing in return.
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