it's actually worse for you to suppress your anger than letting it out. there are productive and therapudic ways of doing this instead of being destructive though. excercise, sit down and take a deep breath, stretch, play fetch with your dog, crack some jokes with some chums, get some fresh air, go for a walk. these are just a few exaples out of laundry lists of things that work for for others as well as myself.

Not really, if it is something you are REALLY angry about. If it is a small thing and you are just irritated, count, or say to yourself, "This isn't worth getting mad about." If it is something that has your heart pumping hard, red faced and really pissed, you need to get the anger out in a POSITIVE way. Some people shout, curse, hit a SOFT inanimate object, talk with someone, exercise, etc. Whatever it takes to get the adrenaline out of your system and also to give yourself time to re-frame what it was and calm down. If it is something that still angers you when you think about it, talk it over with the other person (s) involved if you can, in a calm way, or talk to a friend, or with a counselor. Holding in anger can help lead to all kinds of nasty and not fun dis-eases and pain like ulcers, anxiety, headaches, high blood pressure, and many other things you don't really need, and which you can help prevent to a large degree if you can learn to express or ventilate and dump your anger in a healthy manner. Holding in anger is like trying to hold large inflatable ball under water. The harder you try to push it down the more it pushes back at you. It just won't work in the long run, and it will bounce back up and smack you somewhere hard!

martil arts has completely curbed my temper without bottling it up. The traning not only works as exercise like spaz above recommended it gives you something to alway be tweaking and perfecting, not to mention, grappling and sparring are, what I consider a good source for letting out those violent tendencies that many have, by focusing on the technique, you don't aim at harming an opponent, but working with him/her in order to improve the both of you

=That is good that you are trying to get a handle on yourself. I find the best way to elevate stress or anger is exercise. Anything cardio will help to get these emotions out of you system and on the flipside, you will feel a whole lot better about yourself in the long run.

I'm the same way. It's probably a genetic trait (you know, Personality types A and B), although one cannot ignore environmental causes. Anyway, this isn't a problem that just goes away. Whenever you get irritated or angry, it's best to keep your mind on the issues at hand. Will it help anyone, including yourself, to lose your cool? Or will it simply keep you frustrated? This normally hurts you and helps no one. Just because you are angry doesn't mean some of the wrongs in this world are made right. Maintain a cool head. Do not suppress your anger, as you say, but think about it and find out what that anger will do for you. The sooner you realize that the answer is "nothing," the sooner you'll see that breathing in and out a few times is all you'll need to express your rage. And then you can continue living.

Make sure you read all the way down to the last sentence. (Most importantly the last sentence) There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His Father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence Over the next next few weeks, as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence He said, "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there. " A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us." Please forgive me if I have ever left a hole.

I also would not supress anger, but acknowledge it and try to understand why you are angry. You could also try writing an anger letter, say anything you want to say, but don't mail the letter. Burn it (don't inhale the smoke) later. I have also told people off in front of the mirror while I image they are there and I also yell with the windows rolled up in the car while I am driving. Then, I can face the person or situation without exploding and making myself look bad. Hope one of these things helps you. If it is a person you are angry at, you can always tell them with a "when you do thus and so, I feel angry" and see what they say.

There are drugs for that. Mood stabilizers.

Your patterns will take a while to change, but you can change without supressing your anger. You need to learn some new ways of thinking. One of the questions you want to address is what you really want. Anger is often rooted in a fear of loss. What losses are being threatened that have prompted your anger/protective reaction. Will acting on the anger help you to get what you really want? I suspect that what you want to do is win. Ask yourself what it will take to win - not the battle of right now, but the whole war. In the meantime, write down your feelings, get some therapy, and join an anger management class or support group. There are some very effective modalities out there, but most nvolve a change in the way we think about cause and effect, and about the relationship btween our anger and our desied outcomes. You don't have to supress your anger; you jut need to channel it contructively. All the best to you in this endeavor.

Context has a big influence on anger. One of my favorite stories goes like this: You are sitting behind the wheel of your brand new car. It's your dream car and you saved for years to buy it. Your neighbor breaks the window with a rock, on purpose. How do you feel? (Obviously, furious.) Now add the information that you are in a flash flood, stuck in the car and your neighbor has risked his life to try to save you. Same car, same rock, same neighbor but the meaning is different and thereby so is the feeling. Thoughts make emotions. Some thoughts urge us to do impossibly frustrating things, like trying to control others. Taking responsibility for regulating (not suppressing) your emotions involves paying attention to the message they contain. Sometimes that means correcting a situation that is unfair to you. Sometimes it means recognizing that your expectations have been unrealisitic. Emotional self-regulation is the mark of a stable and mature person.

Try writing down why you are angry in order to explain and rationalise it to yourself. You will find nine times out of ten you don't have a good reason to be angry. You will find ten times out ten that it rather takes the edge off the rage if you have to sit and calmly write it down.

wait tell the bottle is full and throw it away weather your happy or not pretend that you are.

Suppressing your anger will hurt you in the long run. I had and still have this same problem. You need to teach yourself to just calm down and try not to just start flying off the handle. What worked for me was to just stop talking and give myself time to cool down before finishing. If things got really heated I just walked away until I was more level headed and could deal with things in a more rational manner.

It's important to deal with anger properly: you don't want to suppress it OR vent it. Suppressing it is bad because it tends to go "underground", change forms, and manifest in unhealthy ways. Venting it is bad because you're spraying it around on others and making trouble for yourself. So what to do? The correct resolution is to experience it fully: be angry, but don't ACT on the anger (remember: speech is a form of action!) If you can just allow yourself to "ride the wave" of the anger without judging it, encouraging it, solving it, or trying to change it, it will pass and leave clarity behind. This is just a matter of being aware of the thoughts, feelings, and body sensations as they are occurring, without getting tangled up in thinking that it all means something or that you have to figure anything out. It really is like riding a wave.

Well I don't know if this would help much...but I Was once at a point in my life where I was always Mad...I just decided to go to the gym alot more...when ever I was feeling it come back I'de put on my sweats and hit the pull up bar...it helps alot when your lefting to think about who or what made you made...in the end you feel your better then that..and its really good for the body, so thats what I do. good luck