I seem to be invisible to all of the "nice guys." I really haven't been in a serious relationship because of this. It seems like I'm not meant to date or even marry because all of the guys I talk to "scatter." Has anyone ever been through this or know anyone who has?

Hey PinkDaisyGirl, It seems to be when your looking you cant find. Like when we go shopping for clothes. Finally have the money and cant find anything. When my hubby and I met I thought he would never notice me when I became ready and was interested. I finally gave up and then wow, its like those confident vibes went out and he liked me. Its funny but it will happen and at the very right time.

Alot of churches have single groups and colleges ingle christian groups. If you go to a Christian college, you will, of course, find people alot easier. Youmay need to check your personality, for example: are you coming off as too eager? how are you flirting? are you showing youre interested? the problem may be because they sense commitment or maybe youre coming on too strong. remember, youre young, you have the rest of your life to find someone. Hey, maybe youre looking in the wrong places.

Are the guys that you're attracted to anything like you? or are they bad boys?

Designer4 said it right...when you are not looking is when you will find someone. Desperate women look & sound desperate and not so confident. Focus more on yourself rather than finding Mr. Right. Take up a hobby, learn a new language or go tanning! When you take your mind off of the search, he will come along. But you have to learn how to be happy being by yourself first. If not - it shows. Guys like a confident, independent woman. That's how I bagged my man 12 yrs ago!

You don't have to go to bars, clubs or other "meat market"-type environments. There are some great places to meet nice people right in your own environment and perhaps if you get out of your "comfort zone" just a bit, a whole new world might open before you. If you go to church, temple or mosque, perhaps there are events for singles. If not go on-line and find-out when and where those social events will occur. If you have one or more hobbies or outside interests such as fishing, hunting, knitting, computers, etc., find a club or group in your area with people who have the same hobbies or interests. At your work, ask about professional organizations, which you can get involved with and participate in. Whatever your interest, IT'S UP TO YOU TO PARTICIPATE AND BE ACTIVE! Get on committees. Let people know you're alive! Get out of your comfort zone just a little: Find a worthy charity and on a regular, dependable basis - just as though it was a second job - do volunteer work for that charity. "The powers that be" and many caring, loving people - the folks you may be hoping to meet and "rub elbows with" and get to know, are those ladies and gentlemen doing volunteer work at hospitals, nursing homes, worthy charities and causes. When you do volunteer work on a consistent, dependable basis, your ability increases, your horizons expand and meeting that "special someone" AND possibly "climb, up the social ladder" could be greatly shortened and you could be recognized A WHOLE LOT SOONER. Are you bashful or an introvert? Perhaps you could enroll and participate in public speaking courses to help you "turn your flower bud into a live, vibrant, beautiful blossom" or plant! There are wonderful courses! I was reported for SPAM. Otherwise I would tell you which ones they are. Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: : My wonderful family! Graduate of the Culinary Institute of America, New Haven, CT campus. Was in the Food and Beverage business over 26 years. In the real estate business over 34 years in Pennsylvania. THE ABSOLUTE BEST, MOST WONDERFUL real estate investment group in the world, which I was very proud to be a member of! Was in the air freight business for 8 years. Trading stocks and options more than 3 years. TWO [2] of THE ABSOLUTE BEST, MOST wonderful trading groups in the world, which I am most proud to be a member of! My terrific teachers, instructors, professors, mentors and coaches! On a regular, dependable basis, I volunteer at Magee Rehabilitation Hospital, Philadelphia, PA. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"

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