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People change all the time, as hard as it is you must keep reminding yourself you are holding onto a memory and nothing more. Every time you catch yourself thinking about him force yourself to think about how he is now, it will slowly pass and you will realise how much better off you are without himm. Good luck xx
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It would be easier for you to set your mind on other subjects. Find some volunteer work you can get involved in and you will not have time to dwell on the past. http://www.volunteermatch.org/
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You already did - you said you're in love with the MEMORY of him. I'm sure that memory includes all of the good times you had together, but none of the bad. It's a "grass is always greener" sort of thing. You and your boyfriend are over. You and your MEMORY OF your boyfriend need to be over, too.
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Its painful, if you figure it out let me know. I am still in love with a man that left me in a mess.
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For every pleasant memory you have of him, think of a bad memory you have of him. That puts you in a realistic perspective and prevents you from making a serious mistake in getting back with him.
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You partly answered your own question. You just need to remember all of the bad about him and try not to think of the good memories. Until you are over him the good memories are going to make you miss him.
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It is hard, that's for sure. I am trying to break up woth my bf and I can't seem to get him out of my head. I know exactly what you mean. All these thoughts cout him just keep coming into my head. Certain songs will make me think of us together, seeing certain places we used to go to together, and when I go to bed at night, I cant get him out of my mind. He still wants to stay together, but I feel I need to break if off because he has had many issues during our 2+ year relationship. He has had trouble finding a steady job, he isnt the most responsible person out there, and I have a gut feeling he hasnt always been honest with me, but dont have any real evidence of anything major. I am trying to date or meet someone else, just to take my attention away from him. It is hard though. I love his voice, I love his laugh, I love his spontenaity, and I miss spending time with him, because when it was good, it was great! I feel like I have a hole in my chest. It hurts like hell and. of course, I sit here wondering whether I should give him another chance. How many chances do you give someone?
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I'm totally in the same situation as you. To be honest, your always probably going to have some sort of feeling for him but I guess you have to find other people with similar personality traits that your ex had and experiment with different people, relationships dont always work out. I hope this helps xxx
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as cliche as it is to say it's going to take time. One day you'll look up and be surprised that you haven't thought about him once!!! In the mean time try your best not to think of the good or the bad times with him.. don't think about him at all... believe it or not you can control your thoughts. Think about yourself, that's one of the best things about being single. Focus on the dreams that you'd like to accomplish in your life and be selfish to your hearts content until the right man comes along.. and he will !!!
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You have a couple of other choices to. -You could think of him as dead. Everyone thinks fondly of the dead, and still go on with their lives. -You could hate him. It is a fine line between love and hate. It also isn't that difficult to cross it either.
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