Tell them that as much as you like the sex, you would like a little more foreplay because you enjoy it so much with them...

Simply stating the obvious: ask for what you want. I know a number of both men & women who are not satisfied with their sexual lives because of limited foreplay. Yet they do not tell their partners this. Sex is great, wonderful & life-affirming, yet without foreplay it comes to feel as a "job" that has to be done. Sit your partner down & discuss the matter, ask to fool around more, or read a sexual book together. Do anything, but do it together!

You shouldn't feel bad expressing your feelings to your partner. To give you a man's perception, it may be that he doesn't actually know what you want. Obviously, he can't read your mind and it might actually relieve him to know exactly what you wanted from him. Open communication is a must in any relationship, but open communication is just as important in the bedroom. Trust that your partner would want to do anything to make you happy and express exactly how you feel.

Open your mouth and speak!

If you state this as a need you have and not as a disappointment in him, the chances of him being offended are minimal. Also, what does foreplay mean to you? "Play" usually implies both parties playing. My experience is that sometimes women prefer to only receive and not really "play" back which may make a man more eager to "get to business".

Stroke his ego; men respond to that. Tell him it feels amazing when he kisses and caresses you, and you can't get enough of it. That way you're not criticising his lovemaking.

Open your mouth and tell your man what you want him to do to please you in bed! That is such a huge turn on for men, but so few women will do it!

this works for me (a man) and my girl friend. when she wants to "jump on it" go to and fro a little bit and then go back to foreplay. don't say anything to her. this gets her all "torqued" and makes her come real big because its a giant tease for her... a lot like when your chick gives you blue balls - you will give a big-O. she'll get the idea pretty quick (not the first night) and she'll start to learn your style-your way. courtesy of MUDD

Don't just tell him show him what you want it can very very erotic to a man but don't be over bearing always let him be in control of just make suggestions and put your hand and rub where you would like him to and show him the things you would like to have done bring toys in or whatever is needed...

Hey!!!!!! Do you think you can touch and kiss me for a few minutes before sticking that thing in me?

Talk about what you like, but never say anything negative. Never say you hate it that he is in such a hurry. Say you love it when he takes his time. Tell him you can't get enough of him, and you want more. To get more foreplay, begin by telling him what you like about sex with him now. Flatter him. Tell him how it makes you feel when he takes his time warming you up. Describe very specifically the things you enjoy, the kissing, the caressing. Always put this in terms of him: "I love it when you _____.." When it comes to the things he does not do at all, just change it to, "It would make me so hot if you ________." Show him. If it feels good to you to prolong things, he can learn to enjoy that, also. Give him the foreplay you want.....the kissing, touching, teasing. Take his hand, and put it on you where it feels good, and show him what you like. Show him. Play with yourself in front of him, so he gets a good idea how long it takes to get you to orgasm. Play with him, and show him how good it feels to get excited, almost cum....then stop, relax, and begin again. You can make this a game, also. For example, the first day (or week, or whatever), nothing but kissing. Next, he can kiss you, and may touch your breasts. After a week of just that, you increase the contact even more. You get the idea. You can introduce him to Tantric yoga, which is all about delaying and prolonging sexual pleasure. There are great instructional videos and books available. Don't tell him that the tape is about learning anything....just tell him it is a sexy tape you want to watch with him. Play with each other while you watch. Make comments, "I'd love to try that with you". Take responsibility for making enough time to get what you want. Arrange things so that there are no distractions or obligations rushing either one of you. Let him know that you do enjoy an occasional "quickie" also. Don't let him get the idea that sex is going to turn into nothing but delay and work for him. Keep him going. If, for example, he has his head between your legs and is working hard to turn you on, talk to him. Tell him how good it feels and describe the things you are going to do with him after that. While you are kissing and caressing, whisper dirty words in his ear, tell him that you love how hot he is making you.

My interpretation: You are concerned that your partner will take responsibility for how you feel and internalize those feelings. Solution: In the evening before making love, tell your partner that you have had a stressfull day (or week) and that you would absolutely love it if he/she would give you more foreplay the next time the two of you make love together. Tell your partner that it just seems to you like something you would really appreciate, as though it were like needing to climb into a warm spa to relieve your stress. Your partner will not interpret your need, then, as being something he/she has been neglectful in. Instead, as you can see, your partner will be empowered to want to help you in relieving your stress through foreplay as you will have asked of him/her. This will work for a few times. In the meantime, while active during foreplay, you will need to express how good it feels. Afterward, be sure to express to your partner how much you needed that and how grateful you are to have a lover like him/her and how much more lovingly closer you feel toward him/her. Try to convey to your partner how you inadvertantly discovered that not only did the willing foreplay relieve your stress, but that he/she is very good at it and that you feel so much more closer to them because of it ... a sort-of "side effect" as a result of the foreplay you received from him/her. Follow me? They will never catch on (unless they read this) and you will have more foreplay in your life from now on.

If I was really hot for you that would be no problem. However, if it was, just ask. Any man it's a problem for has a problem.

send him a detailed letter of what you want to do to him ans what you want him to do its like porn they love it

Tell your partner honestly that you want more foreplay as it sexually pleases you. Most guys love to sexually pleasure their partners and make them happy.

A mans answer - just tell him! Most men so badly just want to please (give and take) that any suggestions or guidance would be most welcome.

give them more forplay. then move them or there hand to where you want it.

Just tell them.

I suppose it depends on how long you have been in your relationship. But if its serious then you should feel comfortable enough to say anything to your partner without offending them. Your partner will never know how to pleasure you properly unless he is told & of course, vice versa.

Don't give him a condom till you've had enough foreplay.

If you are close he should want to please you because he wanta you enjoy making love. this is from a female perspective.