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by tripwire on December 7th, 2006
I think that the female definitely has the final say in the matter. It's her body, and she will be the one who goes through months of pregnancy in all its discomforts. She will be the one who has to go through the agony of childbirth and she will be the one who loses her social life and freedom as the demands of caring for the baby become her only reality. Nobody should feel they have the right to force her to commit to all that against her will.
by zazzy_one on December 6th, 2006
Here is the for sure truth, at least in my state. Women have the final say in whether the baby is born into the world. They do NOT have the final say in whether the baby is "kept" by one or other of the parties. Not legally. I know because well...I have represented the fathers on this matter several times. All of my chaps have been successful in this issue. If a father WANTS a child and the mother DOES'NT want her OR him to have it, she is over-stepping her legal bounds. Father's get custody, barring any problems with dad, when mother's don't want to "keep" a baby. If it is the other way around, dad wants neither of them to keep the baby and mother WANTS to keep the baby, mother wins. The point is that the law prefers a parent to a non-parent being custodial over a child.
by Miyaku on December 6th, 2006
I think she she get all or most of the say! She is the one who has to carry the baby and give birth.(but if she were the one pusshing for an abortion I would have to side with the father).
But If a couple becomes pregnant and dose not want to keep the baby (for any reason) It could always be put up for adoption. I know many loving families who would love to have kids but cant.
By choosing this option you save an innocent life, saved the mother a lot of physical and mental anguish down the road, and made a once barren family very happy!
by JUSTNORMAL on December 6th, 2006
I would say if they were married, and she got pregnant and it was not planned, it means they have been blessed. If hubby doesnt want a baby she has choices to make for her and the baby. If they are not married and he feels he is not ready, or does not want to keep it etc, then the female has the right to deliver that baby and raise it alone of that is HER choice.
by Anonymous on December 6th, 2006
Yes, the woman gets final say in the matter for obvious reasons. However, that's not to say that the man did not have a choice in the matter in the beginning. Perhaps, if he felt so stongly about not wanting kids, then he should have taken better precautions - and by "precautions" I mean if you have sex, there is a possibility of getting pregnant, birth control or not. Learning this is just part of becoming a responsible adult.
by Angeleve on December 6th, 2006
Here is one of those questions you can say are ethical and moral content to it. If they are married I believe that it is both their choice to decide, legally he has rights. If it is a union then both should have the right. Legally if you are not married then the woman has the right to chose. Does that make it ethically right? So no I am going to have to say that a woman should not have all the rights without consideration to the man.
by WhyamIhere on December 6th, 2006
I would say it depends on the situation. If the girl wants the baby and the guy doesnt she has every right to still have the baby, and he has to still support the child. If the girl doesn't want the baby (Adopt or Abort) and the guy does then he would have to act quickly and probably get a court order to keep her from getting rid of the baby. If she has information that proves he would not be a good candidate for a father (abusive, drug abuse, alchoholic,etc.) then she can do what she pleases after proving it to the judge.
In my soul oppinion though I think it should be decided by the mother because of what carrying and birthing a child can do to her body. Especially if she is very young with the health risks. And Especially if it was an accident.
by barbie06 on December 6th, 2006
If they both disagree then that is the final answer. But they both have equal so so if the male determanes a perternate test. If the test comes back saying he is the dad then he has just as much right as she does. I know because I worked in labor and delivery for 5.5 years.
by glamorgirli on December 6th, 2006
Yes I do feel its the womans choice, its in her body and should be able to do whatever she wants with the baby. if if was in a guy I'd give the guy the choice.
by Miss. Tandra on December 6th, 2006
No i dont, Well i think they both should, One reason is BEcause its not just one of their children its both. without the father it couldnt of been fertalized and without the Mother threres no eggs. and it takes both to do the action (ok we've all had "The talk" at some point so i can stop this now!)
But People will say well its the mothers body, yes but it was the fathers sperm and it would be wasted and maybe he wants to keep what he created. and if the father says no, the mother should get to say well i was the one in labor i want to keep it.
so neither should have more say than the other one
by Anonymous on December 6th, 2006
Maybe the reasons that a woman gets the final say are not as obvious as I thought. If a woman gets pregnant and the man doesn't want the baby, but instead wants the woman to have an abortion, then she is the one who has to consciously go through the procedure of having someone essentially destroy and remove a living being inside of her. We've all heard the stories of the sweet husband coaching his wife through the labor of their child, but how many men do you know who held a woman's hand through an abortion. Let's face reality, for a woman, whether or not she has the baby, the responsibility and burden and moral conscience is on her shoulders for the most part.
by BobSaccamano-is-back on December 6th, 2006
I can't edit the question, but I am referring to abortion when I mean the parent doesn't want the child, sorry.
by Mirage V2.0 AWOL on December 6th, 2006
Bob has amended his answer, this has now become a discussion about who gets the final decision in an ABORTION scenario?
This factor will modify most of the answers given. So, I'll sit this question out.
No points for nobody. So sorry, this question needs to be tossed and reframed.
by Tantric on December 10th, 2006
The female gets the final say, It's her body, THATS IT !!.
by kitty loves you on December 10th, 2006
Of course. At the end of the day it is your body that is carrying the child and will be giving birth to it, nobody can force you to do this if it isn,t what you want.
what is the best way to get pregnant fast???
by margaret2539 on February 26th, 2011
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My husband and I have been trying to conceive for over a year now and now luck. Is there anything I can do to help conceive?
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by Sarah_A2892 on February 18th, 2011
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Ladies, have you ever wondered why we can't be like hens and lay eggs and sit on them til our children hatch?
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how long after trying to conceive did you finally succeed and what did you do
by Sarah_A2892 on February 17th, 2011
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no one forced her to have sex though...
by BobSaccamano-is-back on December 7th, 2006
By the same token, one squirt of semen doesn't automatically entitle the guy to have the final say in how her life will be irreversibly altered.
by tripwire on December 7th, 2006
the man's will be completely changed as well
by BobSaccamano-is-back on December 11th, 2006