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You should strongly advise your boyfriend of your feelings way before the christmas dinner. let him handle his family by putting them on notice that you have shaky feelings, concerning you being a single mother and may not be accepted. If he loves you, he will be your defender. And, take your child. this is a family affair and if you two get married, now is as good a time as any for everyone to get acquainted. You will be ok. wear a smile, dress pretty and WOW his family. you can do it.
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I would tell them that it is inappropriate conversation and that you would be happy to discuss it one on one at another more appropriate time and place.
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Don't go in with the expectation of ill feelings! My first husband was very wealthy. I was very poor and a single mother. My mother-in-law was the salt of the earth. I loved her more than I loved my own mother. The first time I met her (at Seder, I believe, and I am not even Jewish, so far from Jewish I am...uhem black, lol) she made me feel so comfortable, I knew that I was at home. WALK IN THERE WITH CONFIDENCE, GIRLFRIEND. If they are going to shoot ya down, don't let it be because you are acting less than your most self-confident self!
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If they make you feel bad because of your little one, would you want to marry into this family anyway? Love me, love my kids....take it or leave it. You come as a package deal and that's just how it is.
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Ignore them. The fact that you're a single mother means you have a responsiblity to uphold. You have strength to aquire and present. You should not care what the heck they think. If your boyfriend loves you and the child, then screw them.
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Hold your chin high. You are raising children all by yourself, and God bless you for your strength. Be proud of who you are and what you have done and what you are doing. Let the inner you shine!! Do not, for a second feel that they were never in a place in their lives when they second guessed themeslves. Of course they were!! It's the nature of life!!!
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