If you broke up with someone and they said they are going to commit suicide what would you do?
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Sexyrabbit
ANSWERS: 100
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break up with them
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Call the authorities for them. Hey, if they're going to make the threat, they either need help or they need to be taught the consequences.
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I broke up with someone, and he comit suicide within the hour. I felt bad, but if someone really wants to kill themselves, they will no matter how much help you get them. If help works for them, the that means they don't actually want to kll themselves. If I tried to get help it wouldn't have mattered anyway, because he killed himself so quickly.
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I'd tell them if thats something you want to do that is your problem. I will not be manipulated into staying with someone becuase they threaten suicide. It's childish. I'd tell them to go ahead because it is only a ploy to gain attention. 99% of the time the person claiming this will not go thru with it anyways.
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Say, that I would be disappointed if you did that, as would your friends and family. Life goes on, a break up isn't the end unless you make it that way.
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tell there parents, or the people they were closest too. Sounds like they need some help!!
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Id say.... "shitty" and be on my merry way... done it before and u know what they are still bothering me to this day.
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Well if he said that, then I definitely know I had made the right choice.
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To be honest, I firmley believe that if a person says that they're going to commit suicide, I'd believe them. I've experienced a lot of pain and depression in my life and can understand the need to commit suicide. I would wonder: Why did I do to make him feel this way? Am I really that mean and horrible? I would do whatever its necessary to help him get over his suicide thoughts, even if I have to ask his friends to help him get over the breakup. Suicide is not a joke.
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Tell them that I won't accept the guilt ploy and that if they are that pathetic, then it's obvious I made the correct choice. It's emotional blackmail & I wouldn't tolerate it.
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Tell everybody. Their parents, family, friends, teachers, and I would call the police, too. I would not miss the chance to save that person's life.
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Well it involve a technical solution.Is the person guilty or not.Its better to involve the person's family,police,and an adviser. Love is a stupid thing sometimes
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that not fair to you, thats emotional blackmail, if someone is really threatening there own life then they need to get professional help, and someone needs to be watching to make sure they dont hurt themselves.
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This is emotional blackmail, and however hard it may be, you can't afford to give in to it, or it will only come back to bite you in the bum later on in life. This person clearly needs some help, and you definitely don't want to be around this type of person until or unless they're "cured" of whatever it driving them to say this (which may, of course, be never).
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Let the police know that he had threatened suicide so he would get the help he needed.
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Call 1-800-SUICIDE OR 1-800-273-TALK
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A guy I dated did it. He survived the wreck, but was in a coma 2 weeks. His family blamed ME! In their eyes, he was Mr. Wonderful and I spurned their baby. In my eyes, he was WAY too serious and I was WAY too young. I would do the same now as I did then. Explain things, in a compassionate way. And walk away. No one 'makes' you commit suicide.
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I would sit down with them and figure out exactly why - is it because they are going to be lonely, because they really care for you, or because they have always had suicidal feelings? I would try and keep them calm and then tell their parent or direct them to a suicide prevention hotline. In cases where someone is being dramatic this will hopefully cause them to stop saying that they are suicidal. I would not just send them on their way because I would never be able to live with the guilt that I let someone take their own life and didn't at least try to stop them.
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I would tell her, well DO IT THEN! and then I'd call up her best friend and tell her the story, and then I wouldn't worry about it.
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Absolutely nothing. I don't respond very well to idle threats and emotional blackmail. It's manipulation, pure and simple, and once a relationship hits that point there is no chance of it being salvaged.
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When I tried to break up with my first husband during our engagement , he played the suicide card, too. I reacted the same way some other people here do - be frightened by the talk and take him seriously - I didn't want his death on my hands. If only I knew then what I know now! Guess what? He broke up with me 13 years after we were married, and has had several girlfriends , all of who broke up with him. He's still alive and kicking, and I'm wondering if he pulled the same card on them. I was young when it happened to me so I didn't know any better. Now I do. Remember that most people who commit suicide don't give any advance warning, so if someone is threatening, they are most probably trying to manipulate you.
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I hate to sound callous, but it's not my problem. They're using such a thing as blackmail in order to make me change my mind, and I won't be held responsible their actions. It's likely a bluff, but on the chance that it isn't, I'd call the authorities and let them handle it.
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My EX husband said that and that SOB is still living, so nothing, I think it is just a need for a attention and to get what they want.
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I would ring the Authorities to take care of them. I wouldnt let anyone blackmail me with it.:)
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Try not to get to involved and if I am close to their family I would try talking to them about having him commited or as we call it here in Florida Baker Acted.
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Ignore them it almost never happens....those that say they will usually will not.
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Realize that they are a manipulative idiot and that if they are going to attempt to do something like that, that they were probably going to anyway and it actually has little to nothing to do with me. I would give them some literature on suicide and a card for them to call someone and walk away from it before they dragged me in. Manipulative people annoy the crap out of me!
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This happen to me before, one of my ex's was going totally insane and scaring me like he took a whole bottle of pills and crazy things like this. I called the police and asked for then to checl on him because i was worried but i wasnt gonna check on him myself, i was to scared he was gonna do something to me, he was really crazy.
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When I was younger I stayed because I knew I couldn't live with the guilt but I regretted it because he only said it & tried with a bottle of pills because I caught him cheating & wouldn't take him back. Don't stay hon it gets worse for you, it will come down to them driving you so crazy from guilt & regret that you will think about hurting yourself because you feel trapped either way. Even if they do it its not your fault they had serious problems way before you met them & they don't know how to handle problems so thats their way of trying to get out of trouble but it will cause you alot more. Call their parents or their best friends & tell them to watch them but get out ASAP
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I would tell them to do it outside so that the mess would be easier to clean up afterwards. I have no sympathy for the ultimate act of cowardness. None whatsoever.
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I've had someone do that to me. What you need to know is that if they really intend to kill themselves they would do it rather than talk about doing it. The fact that they told you tells me that they did that to play on your guilt and sympathy. When i finally broke free, she didn't kill herself, and I have a better life without all of the drama. I suggest you do the same.
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I hate that shit, it is such a manipulative thing to do. My ex did that and I just told him to do what he had to do. (and ofcourse he never attempted suicide)
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Ask them to commit suiceide in the bath so it does not take much too clean up
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Emotional blackmail eh... WALK AWAY
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offer them help
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I would tell her family what she said to me, and ask them for their help, I always take suicide threats seriously..
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tell their friends and family.
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The simple fact of the matter is that only they can decide their course of action. If they would do something like that over the end to a relationship, that's their own stupidity. Extremely codependent people probably shouldn't be dating in the first place, and anyone who would try trapping someone into a relationship using suicide as an excuse couldn't possibly love them in the first place. They only love the idea of being in love. /rant
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I'd sever all contact with them.
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I would tell their family/relatives or friends. However, I don't think I would continue any contact with them.
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I would do nothing. If people really want to do it, they will, regardless of what you say. Some, just say it to crave attention...which in this case you should not feed.
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tell them ill be round to watch with his family in 10 mins. someone who plans and threatens with it never means it.
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Tell their friends and family so that they can get him help he needs.
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I'd do what Terramen would do.. If they want to try and emotionally blackmail me, they can try. By all means, if you think wasting the rest of your life because your girlfriend/boyfriend broke up with you, you have serious problems. No one at all should be like that. No one.
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... Call the cops right away and report the death threat ... at the same time, apply for a restraining order ... ... then forget them and move on ...
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Dont walk,, RUN,,
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Call the police and get a restraining order.
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Leave them to their foolishness, chances are their only saying that to emotionally blackmail you..
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Call the police and tell them that there was someone who was a danger to himself to ensure he got the help he needed.
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Let them. You can't control what other people do and you can't let what other people do control you.
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My ex-husband threatened to commit suicide when I told him 'we were through'. There was no fighting between us but he went completely balistic. He was crying, swearing, slamming doors.... Eventually, while he was at his sisters house that same evening, he kept calling me threatening suicide. We had call-waiting on our phone. I spent over an hour talking to my husband, then to a 911 dispatcher, and back and forth. I told the dispatcher where my husband was. They sent police over and they took him in for a 72 hour hold. This is a very difficult situation to be in because a suicide threat should always be taken seriously. My advice whould be to do everything you can to make sure the person not be left alone, and to call 911 so the necessary medical/phycological help can be started. Do some people threaten suicide as a manipulation? My ex-husband did. But you never know for sure. Better to be safe than sorry.
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My girlfriend left me once when I was away in Law School. I became severely depressed, and was seeing regular phychiatrists on an outpatient basis all of whom were concerned for my safety. I wasn't talking often to my ex however or sharing with her how I felt, however around exam time I spoke with her and she was very concerned about me and came down to stay with me. A couple days later I then tried to hang myself while she was over She brought me to the hospital, where I spent the next 3 weeks. I'm completely ashamed of this, but accept that I was in a severe depression. We remain friends to this day and I have been able to support her through some rough times, although I won't ever be able to repay her for being there for me the wya she was.
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i would talk to them try to get them to understand im doing whats best for both of us.let them know that i may be out of there life as a girlfriend but ill remain there as a friend
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It's his/her matter!Such a person is a weak one!If such things gonna happen in the world then people won't be able to commit to each other!!
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The next time I would believe them. Unfortunately it happened to me and I just didnt take her seriously until I heard the message she left right after she slit her wrists. I was able to get to her and stop the bleeding, but it was a sight I will never forget. I made sure she got help , physical and mental before leaving her again but at that point we were both scarred for life. If someone says it assume they mean it!
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walk away like u wanted to, the likley hood is that its bein sed in the hope that u will stay with them but if u are worried tht they might do something call the authorities and tell them what has happened and what they are threatening and get them seen to or sectioned cause hey have obvioulsy got a serious problem
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IF THEY HAVE A HISTORY OF HARMING THEIR SELF THEN i'LL LET SOMEONE KNOW ABOUT IT, BUT IF THEY ARE SANE i'LL IGNORE IT
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My ex threatened that and I ignored her. That was after she came knockin on my front door at 2am. She is alive and found someone else to isolate from his friends so everything is ok...except for that guy.
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laugh in their face!
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I used to go out with a guy who jumped from a cliff when I left him.....thank god he didn't die. If you don't love the person you can't just stay with him because he threatens to do suicide.....tell that person that it'll be better off without you....good luck
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I quietly and patiently ignored the threat, and it dissipated.
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call someone for them like the police or fire department... they will give them the proper help they need.
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i actually had dat same situation but honestly i think you shouldnt do nothing its just a way to make you feel bad so you wont leave dat person..i think he jsut wants you to take him/her back
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my ex told me that and when someone is going to commit suicide they wont tell u... so there not gonna go and tell you then kill themselves.... not to be mean but just let it go in one ear and out the other because 99.9% of the time they are lieng
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this has happened to me 3 times... except not suiacide, a fatal disease. my year and a half ex boyfriend of mine cheated on me, abused me and refused me seeing any friends, i broke up with him after building the courage and then he tells me his liver has packed up and he is going to die. the idiot is still alive and well and only 19. the next guy only 3 months, he never allowed me out to see my friends or even to supper with my family. i broke up with him and then he tells me he has lung cancer because he had 1 cigarette. That idiot is still alive and well and still trying to make me jealous. The last guy i wouldnt go out with because of my exteme bad luck with boys and i wanted a break soooo then afew days later he tells me he has heart problems. afew weeks later, he got over it and his strange disease misteriously left. hahahaha NEVER LISTEN TO THEM ... TRUST ME
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would be happy that broke up. Im not down playing the suicidal thing, but for some one to use that against you, because you want to move on...its obvious why u would....is a sad way to impose that sort of guilt upon you. Feel bad for you. That would not be a good situation. Sorry, hope all is well.
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I would suggest that they seek professional help because they sound beyond any help you could give them.
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Don't listen to them. It's an act of desperation. Trust me, I've been in the same position. Cause if they were really going to commit suicide they would have done so already.
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well if they are that obssesed with you they have an attachment problem but i would try to help them but also get it through their head that lou don't like them anymore and there are other ppl for them
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TELL THEM TO DO I TTHERE STUPID AND TO GET OFF UR TIP
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give them a knife and say solong
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It is probably their last attempt to have you take them back. It is best not to give in and prolong the unhappy relationship. Ignore. (IF they really want/dare to...they would have done it. Why say it?)
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Nothing. because when people say they are going to commit sucide they are putting alot on your plate. I've seen people use this and to be honest, its eather the truth or its not. But if you let this be your answer they will know it will be your answer forever and continue to use it. So, when they say they are going to commit sucide, remember...thats there choise and half the time, they are blowing smoke.
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My x told me that, i asked him if he wanted me to help him, i dont mean to sound cruel but if someone is that pathetic enough to tell you they are going to kill themself then clealy they dont have the balls to do it cuz let me just say that has to take some big balls to do, it is just a way for you to feel bad and take them back but if they really sat and thought about it you are just stayin with them out of pitty, which is even worse.
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yeah my ex said he had killed him self 8 times over me he wasnt amused when i asked him if he was a cat coz they say only them have 9 lifes ! i told him to get a grip and grow up he still alive hasnt grew up much tho haha! good luck
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i've gone through this with all of my boyfriends. And frankly i've gotten to the point where i have said that if you want to take the easy way out of life instead of the hard way and actually living it then thats sad. Pretty much i dont go for the emotional blackmail but i just give them that good ol' pep talk where they should know that there are more fishes in the sea, etc.
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Give them a rope, gun, bottle of pills, razor along with a notepad and paper to say goodbye to Mom. A person who threatens this is mentally unstable and mostly manipulative. They are trying to play on your feelings to get you to stay. I seriously would be shocked if a person acting like this actually killed themselves. You would know the person best. If you thought that they might really do it, then, don't give them the rope, gun, etc....
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Contact the police it is against the law to attempt suicide and threatining suicide would get a 24 hour stay for an evaluation. But it appears that you made the right decision!
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u must try to stay friends and keep in touch with him a period of time until u see that he passed his manic stage and then u can leave him alone
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I have this experience - and only thing what I said - just that s not fair, it s blackmail. And you can t change love to hate so fast. And it worked
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I would probably stay close to them for a while until I knew they were stable.
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I would be making sure they were getting help.
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A threat like that makes the assumption that you have free will and the other party does not. What's next? "If you don't let my mom move in, I'll kill myself"
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contact the authorities and they will contact a counselor, it needs to be done immediately! They need 24 hour supervision
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i would ask them not to do that...then be on my merry way!!!
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It's true that most people who do this are completely bluffing, as was my first Girl Friend when she used it. If someone used that on me now I would have a hard time taking them seriously but I would still be concerned. Even if they aren't going to kill themselves this is a sign that they need some real help. GET IT FOR THEM!! This isn't something you will be able to handle alone. Tell someone who cares about them and accept that after that you aren't the person they need even if they say otherwise. You have done your part.
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If you care about them, just don't want to be with them, you need to get them help. Either they are seriously contemplating suicide and they need help with depression, or they are using it to gain leveage over you. Either way, it is not a good situation. And, when it comes right down to it, you cannot take responsiblity for his actions, only yours. Do what YOU need to do.
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Hopefully I'd take that as a sign to never turn back. No, that doesn't make me heartless. That's emotional blackmail. Plain and simple.
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A Person who wants to commit suicide will not warn you about it , it is only a way to pressure you into staying with him , and lets assume he is really suicidal it basically mean that this person is weak and whatever trauma he needs to deal with he prefers thinking about killing himself instead of dealing with the problem , meaning this person is no good for anyone because he is way too weak to handle life and u dont need that in Ur life.So if he sayd that u say well its up to you to do whatever makes u happy if taking ur life way will then u know better!
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Most of the time its one of two things: The first is emotional blackmail trying to trick you back in the relationship. The second is that they actually can't imagine living without you, but like most people will still not be able to pull the trigger. I think the second is most common. They aren't per say lying, but they won't go through with it either.
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it made me feel terrible, sometimes i feel like i should go check to see if he didnt after all but i know that if i see him again im going to belong to him agian and he wont let me go. im afraid of him but i dont want him to kill himself either for me id have to say if a guy goes to that extreme let him go or he'll always use that as way to get what he wants from you it doesnt mean you dont care but you have to do what's right for you
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Honestly.. they are probably just trying to get your attention and make you feel bad so you dont break up with them and still stay in contact with them. Most of the time when people say their going to commit suicide they dont do it. Its the people that dont say anything that would scare me.
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I know this is mean but... if they are that stupid and cowardly then hand em the rope!
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call 911. they will be so embarassed that they manipulated you they wont call you ever again
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Communicate this to some of this persons close people, like a parent, older sibling, good friend etc. Keep an eye on this person from a distance... Have a feeling they did not mean what they said.
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I knew someone who said that and actually did attempt suicide. SO! If someone said that to you, they are looking for your attention, for you to console them. They are desperate, and will try one last thing to get you to stay. They may or may not be serious, but a threat like that is not always idle and should be taken seriously regardless. If you believe the problem is serious, call 911 and tell them what is happening. They will more than likely take him/her to the hospital where they will be counseled and safe. Preserve life at all costs right?
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Hard to say, because part of you believes wow this guy/girl is crazy and I dont need to be a part of it. But can you totally ignore it because there truly are individuals out the who become so wrapped up and involved in a relationship without it they hit rock bottom. When this occurs they are absolutely capable of this. Its a shitty position to be in because as a human being to another you cant just push it to the side and not involve yourself somehow. The only trick is you have to do it while maintaining your stand that it is nothing more than help and does not mean things are fixing themselves.
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Some people mean it !!!! You'd better report it to the closest family memeber or so just in case your ex-partner has a hidden sickness ! It can be true. A threat is a warning that the partner will ruin your life . Suicide is a cry for help , so help !
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Go to her funeral
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Call their family and have them baker acted.
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