Your 16 year-old daughter has just told you that she is pregnant. What is your advice to her?
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East Hill
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Tell her everything's gonna be okay. Mommy's running for vice president.
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pretend its mine so i dont ruin my political career (aka trig)
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I'd tell her first that she doesn't have to decide anything right now, she has time. Secondly, I'd thank her for coming to me. Beyond that, it'd just be talking about details. Then I'd suggest we make some doctor appointments just in case she decides to keep it - it's best to be healthy.
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depends on a lot of factors. Her religious beliefs,etc. How she got pregnant...I wouldn't want my daughter having a baby at 16, but in my country, women have a right to choose what they want to do without being screamed at by crazy christians waving banners
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I would say, "I'm behind you, chica. Do you know what you want to do? If not, let's start going over your options and make a doctor's appointment."
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I was pregnant at 17. i was lucky enough to have a ton of support from my family and friends. i remember being asked if i was willing to get an abortion. i said no. they asked if i would give the baby up for adopion. i said no. i had my answer. i kept my son. it was the right thing to do and ive never been happier. the person asking me these questions also asked me (as i was crying) why i was sad. was it about the responsibility? again i said no. was it about losing my teenage years, no. money? yes. big fat yes. he then told me that if money was my biggest and only fear, that i had nothing to worry about. i worked my butt off my entire pregnancy so i could get enought hours to qualify for maternity/parental leave. im now just getting back into work after my year off with my son. i overcame my biggest fear. not being able to provide for my son. and were doing ok. my advice, talk. ask your daughter what it is she wants to do. what shes afraid of. what shes willing to give up. biggest thing is, dont pressure her into doing what you want her to do!!
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stay in school, we can get a tutor for homeschooling if she wants it. who is the father?
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I would have asked her what she wanted to do, first and foremost. It's her decision in the end, anyway. I would have had no say in it because of the laws. Once she had told me what she wanted to do, we would have discussed how to work out her choice.
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What to do for advice? First my wife and I would just have to talk with her and listen...she's likely to be a basket case. She needs to know we still love her and that we'll be here for her. (Never mind that my wife and I would probably be basket cases as well...but her needs would supercede ours) Everything else starts off with helping her realize what all of her options are, short and long term, so that she will be able to decide what she wants to do. For those of you who know my stance on abortion as birth control (firmly against, see my profile if you're curious), I would still list this as an option, but with the stipulation that I would NOT advise that path nor would I condone it. The goal would be to have her realize the full extent of what she's gotten herself into, on a practical, realistic basis, and how this will affect the rest of her life. This is the kind of information she needs to make her own decision. I and my wife cannot make that for her.
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She wouldnt recieve any advice, id drown her... and him, sorry but in my eyes, 16 is still a child..
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I GOT PREGNANT AT 15 NEARLY 16 FOR ME THERE WAS NO OPTION APART FROM KEEPING THE BABY I MADE MY BED SO I HAD TO LIE IN IT AN ALL THAT. BUT THE BABY'S FATHER MY PARTNER AN I WERE IN A VERY STABLE RELATION SHIP AN HAD THE SUPPORT OF ALL OUR FAMILY'S. FOR US HAVING OUR SON WAS THE BEST THING WE DONE WE ARE NOW MARRIED AN HAVE ANOTHER ON THE WAY. BUT WE HAD NO FRIEND'S BOTH HAD LEFT SCHOOL AN DID'NT REALLY KNOW WHAT WE WANTED SO HAVING OUR SON PULLED OUR LIFE TOGHETHER AN ARE ALL REALLY HAPPY. IT DEPEND'S ON YOUR DAUGHTER AN WHAT SORT OF PERSON SHE IS AN WHAT SORT OF LIFE SHE HAS AT THE MOMENT JUST SUPORT HER WHATEVER SHE DESIDE'S WE COULD'NT HAVE DONE IT WITHOUT MY PARENT'S SUPORT GOOD LUCK
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I would let her know how disappointed I was in her. But if she was pregnant, there would be enough hard things on her mind, and getting livid with her and adding onto it wouldnt help much. I guess Id kill the dad, though. ;-) hahaha. But really. I would be angry, but I wouldnt take it out on her...there would be much more important things to think about. ~+~
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Meh. It could be worse. She could have run away. Or it could have been something more serious, like, say, a felony. Honestly, having a baby at a young age isn't the worst thing she could do, so while I'd be a bit astonished, and probably a bit angry and disappointed, I'd be more concerned about what she wanted to do. Keep, adoption, abortion, etc, and I'd focus on making sure everything went okay. Contact the father, see how he feels about the situation. But advise? I guess it'd have to be focused on parenting, r on proper decision-making and such.
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i would sit her down and have the both of us explore her options. obviously in the end it is her decision but she should make an informed decisions with all options open to her.
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it's her choice, i will support her in every way needed and ill always love her.. i'd give her all the options available and make sure she fully understands them.. she will always be my little girl..
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WELL I HAVE A DAUGHTER SHES NOT 16 BUT I HAD MY DAUGHTER WHEN I WAS 15 AND WHEN I TOLD MY PARENTS THEY WERE SHOCKED BUT THEY TOLD ME IF YOU NEED ANYTHING WE ARE HERE TO HELP YOU I MEAN IF ANYTHING IT'S NOT THE KIDS FAULT
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Get an abortion.
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Grow up within the next 9 mo.
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I would tell her that she will be responsible for the child that she created, and that I would help her as much as I could, but I've raised my kids, and I will not be a full-time 24/7 parent to her baby. No teen wants to get pregnant, unless they're either mentally unstable or in one of the ridiculous pact things. I'd be there for my daughter, but I would not accept abortion as an option.
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I'm done with the advice thing. I'm going to ask her what she's going to do now. Cause I know I talked to her about birth control and having sex. But I'll still be there for her. I know I would, cause this is what I did.
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Start stockpiling diapers.
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