A married co-worker is romantically emailing/calling a married woman daily. I emailed his wife and said I feel he is cheating, even if it is long distance. They haven't stopped the communication. Is this cheating and should I let it be?
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You are treading on dangerous ground by going to a guy's wife to report on him, especially since you still work with the guy. Sometimes you just have to step off and let people live their own lives and "let it be".
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I see that as an invasion of their personal life considering you have no idea what their personal relationship involves or even if it is an open one where they each understand and accept such interaction with other people, which can be quite common in this day and age. Your expectations may differ greatly from those of his wife and i feel it is presumptuous and unkind to inform this woman of matters which in no way relate to you, based solely on your belief of what constitutes cheating.
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why are you getting involved? why are you eavesdropping on other peoples personal communications? are you a good friend of the wife? do you dislike your coworker that much to show him so little respect? regardless of your motivations, i dont think there is any acceptable reason to meddle in other peoples love lives. you can cause a world of hurt and distrust. youre not an expert on their relationship, so how can you know whats best for them. hey they may have an open relationship. or maybe she cheated on him or is abusing or neglecting him, and he prefers to talk to someone who makes him feel good rather than lousy. maybe youre misinterpreting the depth of this purported emotional affair. there are so many variables here. i would just let them do whatever it is they do. its their lives, and it should not be a concern of yours. if it bothers you, tell your coworker to not make personal calls at work.
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None of your business. Stay out of it.
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Wow. I'm really hoping this question is a hypothetical but if it isn't... I think you have gone waaaayyyy over the line, Lady. It is not your responsibility, nor your business, to be "tattling" on your coworker. How do you even KNOW what his messages to this woman say? Reading his emails is not only rude; it is an invasion of his privacy. With all due respect, you are coming off as a nosey busybody and not only will your actions not endear you to his wife; you are treading on thin ice with your coworker as well. You need to back off and YES, let it be. His relationship with his wife, no matter what YOU think, is his business, not yours.
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If you aren't friend with this person or his wife, it's none of your business. Get out of it now!
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You have no business contacting the wife of a coworker. You don't know any of the particulars of this "relationship" and it is between the coworker and his wife. If he is spending too much time communicating with "the other woman" to the detriment of his job, then contact HR about that and let them deal with him.
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first of all, for you to haphazardly involve yourself in this co-worker's personal life was wrong. You shouldn't have gone to the extrmeme of calling his wife. Are you the morals police at work? Do you realize you can get fired over that? Why would you feel the need to go that far? is this wife of your co-worker's a friend or just someone you met a few times? Dont you think that eventually this guy will hang himself? unreal...Im glad I dont work with a nosey coworker like yourself.
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Wow, you have some nerve. Personally I don't agree with your interference, especially not with emailing the wife. If your moral compass won't let you overlook it, you should confront the "married coworker" and the other woman(however, be prepared for a tirade on how you should mind your won business).
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People that are romantically involved, either on email or calling, are involved in an affair of the heart. It may not be physical, yet, but it is still taking away from the spouse the total love and commitment they deserve. To me, it is totally wrong, totally. If you feel have to get involved because it's work related, do so, but you'll look like a snitch and trouble maker Otherwise, it won't do you any good to talk to the "rat co-worker", these kind of people are narssistic and don't care about anyone but themselves, and of course the fool on the other end of the call. Let him get caught on his own, they always do.
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wow, i do not think u should have told his wife. If you felt the need to get involved u talk to him, its not ur buisness at all and if they are just talking its harmless, everyone loves a lil flirting
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Don't bother with that anymore and put your energy into solving world hunger ;)
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It is called Cyberstalking and Cyberharassment. It is against Federal and many State laws. Report him or maybe then to the Police.
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Hey busy body mind your own P's and Q's and stay out of other peoples private business. What these people are doing is none of your business. I could say much more about your invasion of their privacy but I won't...
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