What to do - my SO only wants to stay home and either watch movies or play video games all night..every night. He never wants to do anything fun, and tells me I never suggest anything, but when I do he doesn't want to do them. Help!
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You are now a video game widow. Welcome to the club. Sadly, the best advice I can give is: guilt trip him. "I've been waiting for 6 o clock because I wanted to give you time to play before I asked you to spend time with me." Accompanied with a puppy face. Or go out and do things without him. When/if he gets upset about this: "I'm sorry, I thought you would have been more interested in playing video games/watching TV."
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Yah, my man hides in video games to keep from living life. But in your situation, I would turn the tables and make HIM suggest something, since he doesn't like your ideas. But if it doesn't work either go do stuff yourself, or see if you can find a game you both like. I started playing World of Warcraft to spend more time with my guy, but that was because we live 3 hours apart and we would play on the web and chat while we were playing together. I would never, um, suggest doing anything like *hint, hint* sabotaging his video game! (Just kidding, not a good idea!!)
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my husband loves to watch tv to...when i get him out he pouts and huffs like a child. I try to get movies we both like so we can watch them together which is ok but i still get ignored because tv puts him in a trance. good luck....i would follow RERE's advice i've used this before and it worked but if you do it constantly it ends in arguements or more pouting but occasionally it works.
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write out a list of like 20 possible things, from the silly (playing putt-putt or flying kites) to the more dramatic (a weekend away somewhere romantic--and TV-less). Give him the list and tell him that is plenty of "suggestions" for him to choose from. wait while he reads and ask which one he wants to do. if he finds something wrong with them all....tell him that's fine, he can sit and play his "no-friend-o" and you'll go find someone else to do those things with. (and you have to mean it---there is someone out there who values YOU over a video game, trust me)
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This is a compatibility issue. You should give some serious consideration to how you would feel ten years from now if he were still acting the same way (because people don't change that much. They are who they are and you either fit with them and can deal with who they are or you can't). I don't think enough couples think about compatibility when they are making long-term plans. Of course, if this is not necessarily a long-term plan, then it is less important. Find others to go out with you and don't let him quash your fun.
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