ANSWERS: 4
  • Best to just ask him when things calm down but I'd guess that he might be one of those people who just don't know how to react when someone is in crisis. This would tend to cause frustration and possibly lashing out, like you witnessed.
  • Hi, if you did have this trait and he was a true friend he would most likely of told you in a better manner, sounds like he's mad about something else, could be to do with you, or maybe it isn't, but if he is a good friend ask him why he said these things when all is calm,(or use that Irish charm!) good luck.
  • You don't say what trait. I am guessing that you were having a really bad time with this crisis and that your friend tried to get you to see that nobody is perfect and maybe the other side isn't that bad because they made some of the mess but you made a little bit of it too. Its horrible to feel attacked, especially when you are already down because of something else. Then again if you were full of your crisis, maybe your friend got to the point where he had to shout at you to make you stop long enough to hear him? So he did it all wrong, but he's not perfect any more than you are and if he is your oldest friend then trust him, forgive him for taking his own turn at being all frustrated and angry and start again at trying to understand what he is saying, nicely.
  • Ask this oldest friend what is his problem. It certainly isn't your problem. Maybe you can be there for him.

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