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  • I don't know for sure why, but it does sound to me like he's trying to guilt trip you. Don't let him do it or it'll only show him it works and he'll keep doing it. Take your brake, it sounds like you deserve it!
  • Guilt trip. He may be a bit too dependant on you and possibly expects you to drop everything at him call and take care of them. Someimes parents (mainly older men that I know) think like this. It's a bit old school an dmorelike "you owe me" rather than "youre my daughter/son and I love you and you arent being selfish and I respect that and blahblahblah...". Yell him that you have your own life too and that you should be able to live it. After six years of giving your time to your parents he hsould let you have a month free.It doesnt mean you ove him any les you just need a break every once in awhile. Ask him if he ever wanted a break from parenting? Asking him if he knows how stressed the whole situation can make someone? And ask him why he feels youre suddenly such a bad daughter. Give him his favorite relative to take care of him, take a trip to the spa and realize that some people dont have children who would do this for them and that taking a break doesnt make you any less of daughter.
  • Because he is scared that he and his wife won't be able to manage adequately without you. This has made him resentful. He can't confront you directly because he might upset you, and you might tell him to sod off permanently. . So, he vents his feelings in the only way he knows how...by telling relatives how he feels and hoping that you'll get the message indirectly. . If I were in your position, I would confront your Dad and tell him that his behavior is unacceptable, and that if he really thinks you're not much of a daughter then you won't bother taking care of him anymore. . Managing an elderly dependent parent is similar to managing a child, except the child thinks that he/she is in charge. Good luck.
  • because he is selfish and not much of a dad
  • It's a guilt technique. Remember, you only get on life. Axe
  • Sounds like your dad thinks you "owe" him. You don't. Please don't worry about what the extended family thinks. If they feel your parents are neglected they can always step up and help.
  • Good caregivers are hard to find. Tell him you want income if he expects you back.

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