I feel that my clitoris may be numb or damaged. Maybe due to over stimulation or something. How can I really find out? Also, I can never have an orgasm through sex. Very worried. Any ideas/advice?

I'll start off by saying that you are not alone in being unable to orgasm through sexual intercourse. There are men and women who cannot achieve orgasm this way. While some of it is psychological, there are physical reasons that can affect you ability to orgasm. The 'G' spot is touted as the place for orgasms to happen, but not everyone is sensitive in that area. Partly this is due to nerve bundles.

As for damage to your clitoris - it is highly unlikely that overstimulation will permanently affect your sensitivity. There is quite likely to be some localised bruising that will be stopping the sensation, and you may need to give it time to recover. To keep your clitoris from getting too bruised you should try to use a lubricant to keep the area moist - and often more sensitive - and use vibrators rather than just fingers, as you can usually achieve a much lighter touch to get the same effect.

If you are worried, though, you should always visit your doctor. They will not burst out laughing, as well over 90% of adults masturbate either themself, their partner, or both.

As annoing as this may seem you should just go see your doctor and explain your situation. There actually might be a serious problem and if you go now it might be easier to "fix" then if you go later.

Turboway has the most sound advice, especially where a woman's female area is concerned. most people have to discover ourselves when learning about the purposes and pleasures due to most puritan thoughts as to teaching those things to us when growing up.


With that said, we all know when something isn't right, and when that occurs, it isn't prudent to try and ask for help with-in a group that was for the most part taught the same way we all are, trial and error.

I was able to find some advice from another forum where they did give some good sound information, but I suggest one make an appointment to their physician as soon as possible to know for sure. Something we tend to be a bit apprehensive about is going to the doctor where our private area is concerned, and only due to, the area in question, maybe um..., being over worked let's say, as tactfully as one can. Please, under no or any circumstances let a thing ever deter you from seeking medical help due to any change in their body, as a doctor dosent care about the how, they just care about making it better, period!

Here is that reply I found for you:

Changes in sensation such as you are describing are certainly worrisome and it is understandable that you feel in a panic, especially because of your very complex history. But something can likely be done to help you.

First, talk to your doctor about this, both your mental health provider and your gynecologist. Second, get a pelvic exam. Maybe there is something you cannot see that is causing the problem. Third, get some facts. Get a blood test to check your FSH to see if you are entering menopause. Hormones such as estrogen and testosterone can help this problem, so get a blood test for them to see if they are low. Also, get a urine and blood test for glucose. Diabetes can cause this type of problem but usually there are other symptoms such as increased thirst or urination. Fourth, think if anything recently has happened - a flashback of your sexual abuse, something that person did to your clitoris, anything that suddenly is focusing your attention more on your clitoris than before this problem started. Fifth, get the name of a qualified sex therapist. Once you get to the bottom of the problem, a solution will become clear.

Ok, so I hope that helps a bit, but let's not take anymore time, go and do what is best for yourself, and that is only by going to one that truly knows how to help for sure, or to whom has the ability to find out how to help you. Either way, it will be better for you healthwise, as well as mentally, by allowing one the piece of mind in knowing they've a far better outcome ahead, than just waiting to see what happens, and remain frustrative while seeking some unqualified information elsewhere.

We all need to help ourselves, just as we do for others, and if we don't, we might be taken to an uncomfortable place, just for not taking the simple steps to stay healthy, and the ones that our body is so obviously telling one isn't right.

Be well, and take care of you now, peace!

Go see your OBGYN to make sure you havent created serious problems for your vagina....

I would definately see your doctor, since you have stated that blunt force trauma caused this numbness! Good luck to you. Hopefully this recently happened, and it just needs time to heal!