Before you jump all over me for asking this question ... Please understand I mean no offense ... I have gay friends and only ask it from experience by their friendship. I am simply asking a question for all people to answer freely ... As I believe many gays want the world to understand gay needs and freedom of choice ... yet will jump all over others and acuse them of beeing homophobic for having their opinion by not understanding homosexuality ... and by doing so ... discount and disregard their freedom of choice. I will not be drawn into debate by misinterpretation of its meaning or understanding ... as this would be the point of the question itself. Thankyou Peace

Most gay people I know are okay with questions, if that's what you're asking. I mean, I used to get asked a lot how I knew I didn't like guys if I hadn't slept with one, or how I knew, or when I knew, or whatever. And that's fine. But there's a big difference between those questions, asked in the spirit of curiosity, and questions like "So.. do you have a video?" "ugh, you're not going to hit on me, are you?" "Are you suuure you don't want to try it with a guy?" (all things i was asked) That said, i can understand a person perhaps being defensive-- perhaps people always ask them normal question A and then go into offensive question B. Also, because a lot of questions, like yours here, lump all gays together. (Why are all gays temperamental? why are all gay women manly? Why are gay men fashionable?) I don't consider myself temperamental. I don't consider *most* gay people I know temperamental. Wouldn't you be (a little bit)offended if I said, I have straight friends, but why are they all obsessed with having babies? Why do they always get really loud in sleazy bars? Why do straight guys always have the same haircut?

I don't know why there is so much hyper-emoting from the gay communities. All I know is that I have never had a problem with it. My personal experience shows me that the religious, Christ-like folks are way worse than gays and lesbians. Could it be stemming from the same thing? I think everybody wants to be a part of everybody else, and when we are set apart or even ostracized - either in reality or due to our interpretations of it - we lash out from the pain it causes us.

You advised that you have gay friends and ask this from experience with their friendship. All of your gay friends are temperamental? Not sure how many LGBT friends you have. But, we must not lump all LGBT people together and say that the are "ALL" temperamental. I am lesbian myself, and have a lot of LGBT friends, but I have even more straight friends. I am out to all of them, and they are all very loving and accepting of me. They occasionally ask legitimate questions out of curiousity, and I gladly answer them. The only time I really get upset is when, on rare occasion, I am confronted by a complete stranger who has very strong prejudice against us. My friends and I have been confronted by bigots who scream in our faces, calling us sinners, telling us we're going to hell, and jumping to the usual preposterous stereotype that we are all child-molesters, rapists, predators, are promiscuous and all have HIV/AIDS. I'm sure anyone, in that type of situation is going to get upset and defend themselves. I am fortunate to be surrounded by friends, family...and co-workers who are very accepting and don't get confrontational with me at all.

Do you "question" people with green eyes, or who are left-handed, as well? What other inborn traits do you "question" people about? I am more than happy to answer questions that people might have about my orientation. People, that is, who do not preach bigotry against it. [I'm not saying you are, it's just that trying to convince someone with their head firmly in the sand is wasted energy.] Just make sure you are OK with people asking questions about your orientation as well.

What you are experiencing is a problem of perspective. To me these are not issues. these are matters of equality. Where you see a debate I see freedom. Will I someday be treated to the same blessed indifference that my heterosexual brothers & sisters enjoy? that's right Moto Arena indifference that's my nirvana. The glorious place where no one feels the need to have an opinion on my marriage or who I sleep with. Where I'll be able to give my partner a kiss without fear. Where I'll get fired from my job for poor performance and I'll will have deserved it. Where I'll be able to show that I love my country by serving in it's armed forces and it will show it's pride in me by allowing me to do so openly. Somewhere over the rainbow Skies are blue And the dreams that you dare to dream Really do come true.

I think you are right on with this question. I have been called a bigot for addressing my concerns with gays adopting. My concern has nothing to do with whether they can be good or bad parents, but whether it is fair to place a child in a situation where he will face hatred and bigotry because of who his parents are. I have seen others being called bigots for objecting to gay marriage for religious reasons. I find that hypocritical. That doesn't help anybodies cause. Just my opinion. Bring on the Downrates.

I'm gay. I don't expect any of the above..I don't expect you to like me nor agree with me...I don't care. However what I will not tolerate is narrow-minded hate behaviour(be it hate speech or other actions). Beyond that I could not care less about who you are having consentual sex with.,..why should I expect you to care about who I am?

I have gay and lesbian friends too, but this is about as flat out honest as I can be.....who gives a shit!!!.

Human beings are complex creatures with varying emotions, attitudes, and thoughts. People are defined by their personalities, not by who they sleep with. I've only known one gay man to act how you have described, and I have known many many gay men.

it is called overkill. it is an instinct for when you do not know how much you will have to defend yourself. when you feel surrounded you pick the weakest opponent first as squash it quickly so you have more focus to place on the more potent opponents or one less in your way of escape, wether it be in debate or real battle, a person, or an individual argument. that is just a group who feel they are in that situation more often. I once fell to that instinct in a discussion into my sleeping problems and a young lady said something nowhere near as agressive as the other 3 people in the discussion and I lashed at her with more venom than I ever have. I felt aweful about it once I calmed down.

If that was the way it was supposed to work, I would expect people to question heterosexuals and their ways the same way. Also, gays and lesbians have every right to be temperamental about gay issues. Even if homosexuality is more accepted now than ever before, there are still plenty of people who don't accept it, so it's only natural for a person to be touchy about it.

Well, it obviously affects the people you speak of personally, so of course they are going to care.