How do you end extended arguments/disagreements?
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BigDaddyBS
ANSWERS: 16
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Agree to disagree.
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My s/o hangs up on me or i hang up on them...the end
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Sometimes I just hold up my hands and say I've got to cool off. This is the option used for situations with family or friends. In the Navy (military in general), there is a time and a place for debate. But when The Chief puts his foot down, the subject is closed to further debate and business will be carried on as ordered. When the need for action outweighs everything else, then everything else goes by the wayside. Arguments or disagreements which may turn ugly or physically threatening need to be walked away from or outside assistance called in to defuse things. Sometimes you simply have to realize that two or more people may never come to an agreeement for whatever reasons. Then it's time to agree to disagree and carry on with life.
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When an argument stalemates, the people involved have to recognize the impasse for what it is, and move forward. At least one person has to get beyond the ego-centered emotionality of, "My goal is to convince you I'm right" and into either, "This is pointless. Let's agree to disagree and change the subject." or "OK, you changed my mind. I understand and accept your ideas."
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It's always best to call a truce and sit down to talk about the dispute. Try to reach a amicable solution. Put yourself in the other persons shoes to try and understand their point of view.
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Consider agreeing with your "opponent". Step back and put the whole thing in perspective. First question is whether your s/o is being honest and truthful in their position. If you are convinced they are sincere, then acknowledge they're right to have that opinion, to take that position, to be the way they want to be. It's important to them. Now ask how important it is to you to disagree. If you can acknowledge their integrity behind their position, ask if they can acknowledge your integrity behind your stance. If you both are being honest then simply acknowledge this. Both of you are "correct". Let's face it, virtually everything in life is relative. Your "truth" may not have any meaning for me, nor mine for you.
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Flash colored lights to distract them.
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By not participating in them
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By making sure you have the last say :)
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Just quit arguing. You can't argue with someone if they won't argue back.
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I stop talking and stop responding. It's proven to be the only effective method. I hate that it has to be that way but it can go on for many hours. I have better things to do.
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I'm less stubborn than when I was younger, so I sometimes yield the point to end the stalemate...
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I just say "fine, screw it, i'm done!" and walk away. If he comes around still yaking, i walk away again until he stops!
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Rather be doing better things that make me happy than continue arguing and just drop it. Hard to do sometimes but can do if you try.
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Decide: Would you rather be right or be happy? If the argument goes on for very long, I find that a small gift comes in handy to mend fences - even if you continue to disagree. Just drop the subject. Personally, I really don't want to waste the energy it takes to hold a grudge, and I don't like to burn bridges. Just my opinion.
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I'm very stubborn when it comes down to what my core beliefs are..so it's very hard to change my mind. I just point out we have different opinions and leave it at that.
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