How would you feel if after a year of taking care of your s/o's kids, they still don't see you as family or even recognize to others the things you do for them. Would you just say forget it, or keep on trying?
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Don't let it bother you. Hopefully, you are taking care of them out of love, not out of mere obligation. Continue to take care of them. One day, they will recognize your effort and respect you for it.
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no I would never give up on my kids... thats my treasure i wont change for anything...
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I totally afree with you,, ** krazymike ** well said..
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Your s/o should be standing up for you, impressing on his/her kids that you ought to be appreciated, and loudly. Talk to them about it.
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It depends on their age, and the training/experience they had before you came into their life. If they are used to losing the ones they love, it will be very difficult to accept a new challenge into their life. Keep showing them you truly love them and they will respond over time. Blending families can be very difficult. There are some excellent tips in the "How to Article" section at the bottom of the page. Scroll down and click on the link, then type "blended family" in the search box. Good luck.
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sometimes we give kid to much credit. this is not what they think about so they probally dont even no there doing it. most kids arent thinking about a persons feelings as they go thru a day. they feel more than they express. so dont beat yourself up if you told them how you feel maybe they could also do the same good luck
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Have no expectations and you will not be disappointed.
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It took me over a year to gain respect from my ex's kids. It was a struggle. But eventually they came around. More than I even expected too. They now call me mom. Even when we are not together now...they still call me mom. I wouldn't give up. Just dust yourself off again and keep trying :)
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:You know I came from having 3 step parents and wow, it was rough. You want to become their friend first. You have to bond to get close. Find out what they like and try to do stuff with them. I understand their are just ones that dont bond. My neice was on . No matter how I did things with her she just was in her own world. It was hurtful and just have to be there if in the future she needs me for advice or something. If my step parents had only treated me like a person instead of just wanting to disipline me it would have developed more respect on my part to them. Good luck.
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