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Con't. The room he is renting is worth 700 a month, and his utilities add up to about $300. In four months he has only worked about 60 hours (should have been at least 240), and pitched in about 350 (should have been at least 1200). On top of all this, I drove him to and from his part time job (until he was recently let go), and pay for his food and everything else. At what point should I end this?
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Your a much better person then I to have lasted this long. I would have cut him lose long before now. He must realize that you are trying to help him help himself and you did not take him to raise. It is one thing about helping a family member it is another to be used by them.
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I had a sister that lived with me for about 8 months,she didn't want to pay her share of anything.I would have kicked her out sooner but was trying to not have issues with my mother(who also lived with me)----they never grow up and take responsibility for their own lives unless they are forced to. Anyone can need some help,but when you can see they are just using you,you have to get them out.If you are feeling taken advantage of that wont get any better as long as it continues.
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Time to make him stand on his own, sooner the better. Right now you are enabling him to sit back and not be responsible for his own life. Picture this. If you were to die tomorrow, all of your stuff. your home, your money, everything you have provided him is gone. Would he be able to stand on his own feet, or would he have to scramble to try and find somebody else to take care of him? I would give him 30 day notice and help him make a plan. Maybe find a someone looking for a roomate. You could try the serious chat and give him the last shot at keeping his end of your bargain, but after 4 months, I doubt it will change. I have sort of been in his place, and while it is hard to deal with at first (I was left on my own,no warning, no job, no work history, and three kids to support) the feeling of empowerment I got when I realized I COULD do it was life changing. I wish I'd had someone to guide me along in the process, and all. Do that for him. Be a supoorter, a guide, a sounding board, but don't be a doormat.
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