Relationships are alot like lights on a dashboard. When they come on while driving or stay on when they are not supposed to, the car is trying very hard to tell you something. You should not ignore them or hope that the car is lying. You will ultimately be stranded if you don't correct the problem.Here are some relationship "dashboard lights" in your question... 1. history of cheating 2. you can't forget or move on 3. secret cell phone 4. IM's other girls 5. condoms that are not for your use (BIG BIG LIGHT) 6. suspicions and no trust... That's enough for me to either try to fix the "car" or JUNK it and get a better model that you can depend on...get it, got it, good! Best Wishes.

Say: "Ealier this year I found out you were cheating. We seem to have gotten past it, but I feel like you're still cheating, b/c you keep your cell in your pocket, you IM other girls, i found found condoms, and I feel the girl you cheated on me w/is still in the pic."

I hate to say it, but it looks to me like your bf is still cheating on you. You can ask him, but he will most likely make some excuses or say you are being paranoid. You have listed some very obvious signs that he is still cheating on you. Save yourself months or maybe even years of wondering and feeling uncomfortable about his being faithful to you. I have gone through this with my bf. But with my bf I never caught him, never found text to other women or any of the other thigs you mentioned, except for making sure he always had his cellphone near him at all times. Whenever I asked him about calls he didnt answer or anything else regarding his cell, he would always have some excuse and he used it for work a lot, so it was even more difficult to determine who the calls were from. Anyway, I always accepted his stories or explanations and have been with him almost 3 years. But I realize that he will not change and I still do not know if he has ever cheated on me, unlike you. But, I know that if I stay with him I will always be wondering whatt he is up to. Then I ask myself, do I want to live the rest of my life like that? And the answer is NO. I loved him very much, but I cant go on wondering or feeling insecure or questioning him. I have read articles, thought about this for at least a year now and the sad thing is I have expended soooo much time and energy agonizing over this while I could have been spending my energy on more positive things. Do yourself a favor and save yourself from more anquish and wasted emotions. Leave him, let him find some other woman to mistreat and disrespect!

It seems like you like to be cheated on.... or else you would of already dumped him. Why be with someone when you can not even trust him?

I can't believe how many times this same stupid situation comes up. What the hell are still doing with that dud?