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Because you are doing something to hurt yourself and you don't want to hurt them or to have them try to change what you're doing. Or you're hurting and its one of those self loathing things....why do people do this? I really don't know, but we do. Kinda like pushing a bruise to see if it still hurts. Allowing people to get close would mean getting over the pain.
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Opening yourself up to love another person also means that you are opening yourself up to be loved. A lot of people are very conflicted on the way they look at themselves. You may not want the other person to see what you fear would make them not love you anymore and want to leave you, so you try to "make it happen" before it "happens" to you. And even if you may not think (subconsciously or not) that they would reject you, you may feel that there are parts of you that you would rather not share with someone whose respect you value.
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Because you're afraid of the intense feelings involved.
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Maybe you kick the person you feel closest to because they are the most likely to try to understand it and won't kick back. It is a backhanded compliment, in a way.
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Sometimes there are things that you go through that you don't want that other person to be involved because you don't want to hurt them.
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Loving someone opens up the deeper parts of your being and some of those parts may be unresolved or unhealed. It can be less painful to push the person away rather than to confront the issue within.
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there are actually many answers. 1. jeaulousy. they might have or be better at you at somthing and you hate them deep down where you don't think. 2. agony. they might make you depressed or cause you stress. 3. to keep them safe. i once did this with my boyfriend. someone told me that they'll hurt him if i don't break up with him. the second one is really accurate. my mom once almost sent me to an orphanage because i got detention. (she's a perfectionsit. ya know?) so she almost gave me up. i know she loves me most in her life. and she almost broke away from me.
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Being afraid that you'll hurt them more if you stay with them, than if you pushed them away. Love is also something huge. Big events in life scare people because they are the unknown.
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Tagging on to bowlingreen and freespirit: I think that when you experience real love it is so intense and on some level, you begin to realize the vastness (is that a word?) of the emotional possibilities - positive and negative. It's terrifying. I also agree that trust comes into play, in that, when you have a strong connection to someone, you may feel more comfortable pushing them away in order to work things out internally, with an unconcious (sp) faith that the relationship can heal eventually.
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When they take advantage of you.
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Push away the people you love and tht loves you back is terrifying feelings. Pushing them away not only hurts, but hurts them >(more than) you. But whenever tht feeling of distrust or the fear of being hurt with someone you love you should sit down with tht person and talk through about it. Then just have happy hope of the resolution.
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because your afiad that you will dissapoint them.
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you are afraid of getting hurt deep inside you feel that sooner or later this person will get bored of me he will open is eyes and truly see all the imperfections he never saw befor and that look of love they once had is gone wiped out leaving you with the now great love you still have for that person you feel emty rejected and alone why not push them away first its like bittersweet satisfaction knowin u left and they still love u it makes you feel good because they still want you they feel like they have lost the greatest thing and your memory will liger there always mabye
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as a defence mechanism
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You normally wouldn't...unless someone is too afraid of leaving themselves emotionally vulnerable.
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Some people have knee jerk defense mechanisms, and it takes time for those walls to come down.
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They bug.
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I only push away people that aggravate me.
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You push away the people you love the most because we are unsure of love. It scares us so much to know we could open up and feel that way about someone...when all we have known is to close off the feelings and push them away. We fear we will hurt them more by messing up or making a mistake, and we figure if we shut them off emotionally, it will not hurt as bad for when we do make the wrong decisions that could hurt them. We push away the ones we love the most because we know in some way, some distant time and place they will come back when they realized we needed them the most when we were pushing them. The best answer honest..See, Realize that you love them and they love you for a reason. when you push you only hurt them more because they are real with you and love you. Let them in. Let them love you.
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I think... fear over getting too close. No one wants to open themselves up to pain.
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If I've ever done it, it's probably because I wanted to find my own independance. I wouldn't want someone thinking I couldn't get by without their intervention.
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What a load of s###t answers. Its simply coz when we have a bad image of ourselves, we think we're s###t, and if we love someone, we want whats the best for them, so if we think we suck and others are better then us, then we'll push the loved person towards the others coz we think they're better for them.
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Maybe so as not to hurt them.
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Because when you push and they come back, it makes you feel more secure. Or maybe you love someone so much that you are scared of them leaving you, so pushing them away first is a form of protection. Or both combined :O)
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