I have been dating this guy for 7 months. his divorce will be final in jan. for the last 3 weeks he's been distant and doesn't call or text back. what does this mean? he says he's crawled into a hole and he is sorry. did he find someone else?
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I don't mean to sound too harsh, but you are completely ignorant of the emotional upheaval he is facing just now. Despite knowing that the divorce is going to happen the reality is now kicking in. I don't how long he spent with his wife, but he will have invested a lot of emotion in the relationship and its final demise is a bad time. After our divorce my ex wife asked me out for a drink. I just started crying and had to leave. There is a school of thought that men have no real feelings, but I think your BF is quite emotional and you should be supporting him through this, not being jealous of some imagined ghost. When he tells you he's crawled into a hole he is telling you that he needs you and needs you to be strong. Of course, if you can't cope with having an emotional guy then drop him and move on.
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i know about the emotional being i have too been divorced. but never did i push the people that have been there to help away. i used them all as my support team and with out them i would of been a reck. I have been there 100% for him. words of encuragement to doing his laundry and taking care of his child when on business trips. and them bamn the brick wall. i do not know what else i can do that i haven't done already.
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thank you for all your advice but he dumped me last night
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Sounds to me like your boyfriend needs some space and is confused. You need to give him some space and if he doesn't come around within say, a month, then break off the relationship and seek someone else. In the mean time, keep busy because you can't put your life on hold for someone else to make a decision. "Sometimes you have to get up and honk your own horn." Good luck!
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after a night of talking. he does have alot on his plate so to speak. he can not cope with a relationship at this time. we have agreed that after dec-jan-feb court dates and his divorce is final that we will relook at everything. I will be there for support and comfort him as he needs to know i still stand beside him. He will continue with things with me kids as i will with his. he needs TIME emotionally and mentally. thank you all.
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Sounds to me like he dont know what hes doing or has any sence of the future dumb him is what id do.
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beginning a relationship with someone who s not even divorced yet is a really bad idea.its almost guaranteed that the second relationship will fail.every person that goes through a divorce needs months to try and get back on track again this does not happen overnight.
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I don't know but maybe you should watche him maybe fallow him aroud a little. thats what i would do... anyway have fun... hopefully he hasin't found someone else!
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I'm not standing up for the guy, but cut him some slack. This close to the finality of his divorce may really be playing with his head. Just try to be a stable person in his life right now. But, don't let yourself get used either, so watch out.
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was he separated from his wife at the time you were dating? If not, he may have wanted his cake and Edith too. Now that he is almost free he may want to date other people as well. You know him better than the rest of us. If he was already separated from her when dating you, he may just need some time. He may have mixed feelings right now about the divorce and what could have been.
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Why are you dating a guy who's getting divorced? He clearly has problems in his life and I bet you don't want problems to occur in your life, right? Then leave him and move on!
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Nothing fails like love on the rebound. He had you to prove to himself that he could do it again and to have moral support thru the divorce. Now that it's over, he's got his wings and he no longer needs you. You can kiss that one good bye and learn a lesson never to get involved with anyone who's on the rebound. It never works!
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