If you did it to keep him interested then you have a problem right there, but if you were just trying to help him indulge a fantasy that's fine. Just be sure he indulges yours and is still respectful of you in and out of the bedroom! If it goes on too long then just TALK to him about it. But no, I don't think you started anything bad, just make sure everyone is enjoying it.

It doesn't sound like you wanted to do either the porn or the strip clubs based on your use of the word "setteling" (sic). When you say, "Did I start something bad, trying to keep him interested in me?" did you mean that you made a compromise because you wanted to make him happy, or did you mean that you think he needs those things in order to be interested in you? If he is forcing you to watch porn and you don't want to, it's something that needs to be dealt with. Porn is great for couples who are both interested but it's awful if it's thrust (no pun intended) on someone who isn't. Big questions here: what is your gut reaction about the porn and clubs? How does he talk about it? And perhaps the biggest question: if you can't be comfortable about it, is he willing to either compromise or leave it all together? You shouldn't "have to" watch if you don't want to. If this is a guy who will work with you on the issue, it's a good sign. But before you try to talk to him about it, be clear with yourself about how you feel and what degree of compromise you're willing to make, if any.

If it makes you feel less of a woman, then tell him so! One of the biggest problems in relationships is peoples inability to be open with their partners. If you are comfortable enough with him to get naked, have sex, and watch porn, surely you can share your feelings with him. GOOD LUCK

It is sad you had to go down to his level to make him want you... Stand up and rise to where you would like to see your womanhood to be! Womanhood does not come cheap...

As a husband and father, If I were to indulge in porn, I would be cheating on my wife and children. What is the "spice" in lovemaking? It's love. It's love that makes my wife the most beautiful woman too me. After having given birth to four children, her body has taken a toll. I call her stretchmarks, "lifemarks". They are a reminder of the lives her and I have brought into the world together. The first was 10 pounds and 4 ounces. Ouch! It's because she is mine and belongs to nobody else that makes her beautiful. Don't lower yourself. Ask yourself "why" you feel as if you are "settling" for something? If I did whatever I felt like doing at certain points in my life, I would gladly be willing to take you to bed and then maybe get around to asking you what your name is later. One of the reasons I don't venture off is not necessarily because I am such a great guy, it's because my wife has a certain level of self-respect that would not put up with that kind of BS. My opinion? If a woman needs spicier sex to keep a man, then he, at least in some regards, has already left her. Is his mind "with" you when he is watching porn?

I had a similar situation. My fiancee and i went to Canada and he said they have really great strip clubs there. I was like how do you know? He had not been there before. i probeb and he admitted a lot. He has paid for sex, frequented naked clubs in Florida and where he lives now in Ohio. I have a string set against porn. It makes me sick that these woman do olympic type sex. I would never degrade myself to let him have his jollies. If your are uncomfortable, I can see why those woman in poran aren't like us normal people. I would be afraid he would wnat some of the unrealistic sickness brought into your bedroom. Tell him absolutely not, this is Pandora's box and could escalate to him cheating or bringing another into the sex. Don't do it! There area many folks addicted to it and what if it gets worse. Nip it in the bud NOW!

You added fuel to the fire. Go out into your backyard and find the biggest rock you can carry. bring the rock into your house and throw it right through your computer screen. This will end the porn. It may also end your marriage, but who comes first, you or the porn? I would play second fiddle to no one.

I don't think you started anything bad, but you do need to make sure you're enhancing your relationship, not ruining it. It's a good sign he wants your company while viewing porn or at the clubs. It's something he wants to share WITH you. Are you totally against it? Your man shouldn't ask you to do anything you're truly against, but I think it is good for your relationship to at least try and occasionally indulge his desires. Relationships require give and take. There is enough variety out there that you should be able to find something you can both enjoy. You also need to come to an agreement about how much is too much, or what you find offensive. He should always be respectful of you. If he wants to view solo, that's okay too. I wouldn't worry too much about porn in your home (unless it takes him away from you). I must warn you I've heard nothing but bad things, however, resulting from married men regularly going to strip clubs without their wives.

You didnt start anything - he did - and you compromised. His desire for the strip clubs and his daily porn are not healthy behaviors.

I dont think you started something bad if it is something you are comfortable with and enjoy sharing with him. BUT... if you are compromising to ONLY make him happy, then perhaps you did. There are guys out there who are willing to give up or compromise with you, so don't sacrifice your happiness. If he truly loves you, he will give up those ways.

Good luck to you on that one - something tells me, you're gonna need it

Sounds like you just chose the lesser of 2 evils in your mind. You should never have told him you would do the porn thing if it makes you uncomfortable. I do understand your reasoning in saying yes. Thats not good. If you are uncomfortable with anything you should say so. It may be something he is not willing to give up...in that case then you should look for someone more compatable with you and let him move on to someone who will be more compatable with him.

Try taking him to sports, parks with your kids, any other non-devilish place of his choice. Try wearing colors he likes, avoid arguments, give your rights, cook what he likes best, avoid bothering him, don't insult him, obey him. Regardless of your religion take him to your prayers or to worship places ... Something which deeply inherited or established in your society cannot be eradicated easily. AND sometime you have to give up your rights to get something. Wish you all the best. Keep up the good work. RK

My ex was addicted to porn. It always made me feel like I was not good enough for him.