Meesha: thanks for the additional detail, that makes the Answerbagger's lives easier.

Fear of rejection is something we're all familiar with. No matter how attractive a person is, there's a huge difference between attracting the opposite sex and being able to "be with" the opposite sex. To be able to be yourself with all the hormones and emotions of romance lighting up is a challenge for anyone.

Relating to other people naturally is a matter of being able to be OK with whatever is going on inside yourself, without having to spend a lot of energy hiding that from others. Anxiety, nervousness, concerns about being liked -- these are all a normal part of being human. There is really no good reason to try to make them go away: you can just bring them to the party with you!

The trouble is that we try to get rid of these feelings or hide them, and in order to do that we have to withdraw into our shell like turtles. The moment we do that, we feel cut off and isolated from others -- no longer able to respond spontaneously, no longer able to listen, no longer able to share ourselves. In order to be yourself with another person, you have to be willing to be *nervous* with another person, even if it means they know it that you're nervous. This is what the word "trust" means in your situation.

Now in practice, once you start being willing stop hiding your anxiety, it starts to settle down. As your mind relaxes and realizes that its OK to be nervous, the nervousness starts to dies down. It turns out that all the effort to resist being afraid is the exact thing that's driving the fear.

When a person really understands this intuitively, they're home free -- they can be themselves with someone of the opposite sex without having to hide out. Love can then arise very naturally when the right person shows up in that openness.

It's hard to say without knowing you better. One thing worth considering is that you may just have difficulty "being yourself" with guys. If you're not unattractive, it's inevitable that some guys will show interest. What happens when they do that? Are you able to be relaxed and just be yourself, or do you become unusually uncomfortable and act differently than you would in other social situations?

If you post more details about the relationship you have with guys, you'll probably get better responses. In the absence of details, people have to guess a lot more. Just write an "answer" to your own question with additional info, since you can't edit the question.

I don't think so. When I was your age, I couldn't find anyone because I was blessed ( I didn't think so at the time) to have many things to accomplish. Relationships take some energy to maintain and sometimes you need that energy for yourself. I also couldn't be with just anyone, I had to be exactly the right person who was a right match. Just try to be yourself and do as much as you can. At the right time someone will be there for you.

It could be because i'm too shy. I don't know but everybody says I'm quiet until you get to know me. I usually let other people do the work in getting to know me, including guys. I know thats bad but I guess I'm too afraid of rejection too. I don't even know how to act around guys. I have no brothers and an absent father so maybe that has something to do with it too. Maybe people can just read it on my face. I've had one semi-close guy friend but we never liked each other in that way and we barely talk to each other now. Is that more what you're looking for? P.S. thanks for the help!

You may be very beautiful, and that tends to intimidate guys. I don't think that you're giving off a bad vibe. The guys are probably just too scared to face rejection. It's frustrating, I know.

Being honest, its hard to believe you are nineteen and do not have a boyfriend.

Like stableboy said, its difficult to give an answer, without more personal infomation from you. like, your height, weight and so on.

Don't give up. give us more info.

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Do you smell?

There are many reasons why you might not have a boyfriend. They may relate to your social behaviour, your socioeconomic situation, any personality disorders, or even your interests.

Assuming that you're a pretty normal, decently attractive women, chances are that either a) you're anti-social and tend to stick with a select group of close friends or b) deep down inside you don't really want a boyfriend.

I cannot provide an accurate answer without knowing you. But have faith! You'll get through this and end up with someone. I promise.

maybe they think your unaproachable

Now that you have given us some of your background, here we go.....

I never had a sister, so meeting girls was a challenge for me. one day, looking in a mirror, i decided to change my entire personal image. i began wearing and dressing in clothes that made me a standout. i made a permanent concrete smile on my face. i decided that i was going to be a people person and started talking my _ss off. i learned a little bit just about everything in order to carry on a logical conversation. i iniated many conversations. soon after, i was voted most popular in high school.

You have it within your soul to make a change in your life. change your hairstyle. if you wear glasses, get contacts. do a beauty makeover and ask a female friend(in the know) to help you.

Its your life and your decision. you will never have another opportunity or another time in life, to be 19 again. give it a try. the only thing you have to lose, is to continue your life as it is today.

Be happy, wear a smile and maintain a good attitude and show it off to other people.

They will notice. promise.