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by Jenniferocious on November 19th, 2006

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I feel like I am someone who is easily forgotten (on AB as well as in real life). How can I become more memorable, without being too unlike myself?

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  • by Stableboy on June 26th, 2007

    Stableboy

    Well I don't think I forget you! You could show up a bit more often...

    But my general rule of thumb in such matters is to try go get my attention off of myself and on to other people.

    There's a guy I know who used to say "everybody primps themselves up for a party, but when they get there, nobody notices... because the others are all too busy worrying about what others think of THEM"... e.g. everyone's paying attention to themselves, and nobody's available to "give" attention.

    But giving attention is the best way to get it back: it's sort of like sitting around the dining table where all the spoons are 3 feet long. You really can't feed yourself, your arms aren't long enough. So everybody will starve unless they feed each other.

    So when I'm feeling lonesome or unwanted, my normal response is to go find someone to pay attention to. That charges the cosmic battery, it always finds it's way back eventually.

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  • by Fisherofman on November 19th, 2006

    Fisherofman

    The people who are remembered, are remembered BECAUSE they were themselves.

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  • by gtravels loves her life penguin on June 27th, 2007

    gtravels loves her life penguin

    Your answer lies in your question. Become more like yourself. I find when I do that people respond, to the good, the bad, the funny and the sad. Because all human beings are basically walking the same road. And we all need some company.

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  • by P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines on June 26th, 2007

    P. W. Pasobrio loves Marines

    What are you talking about? I remember you and that beautifull flower avatar and am always glad to see it.

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  • by Kevisaurus is a Carnotaurus today on June 26th, 2007

    Kevisaurus is a Carnotaurus today

    I remember that user name many times before since it is so unique that I instantly can discern who it is.
    I find that people who use a very memorable Avatar or their picture tend to gain a higher level of memorability. I like to change Avatars and altar my name every so often because I like to keep it fresh because I get bored with the same thing. I could never forget a name so unique as that.

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  • by Jewel on June 27th, 2007

    Jewel

    Get out in front of people more. They won't remember you if they don't see you!
    Take chances by speaking up and speaking out. To be remembered you must do things that are memorable. Not neccessarily showy and flamboyant, but more often and with less fear of actually being noticed.
    If you are shy and strive to be unobtrusive you will succeed and no one will remember that you were ever there.
    Try to care less about what other people think of you. They really think very little about you, or anyone. They are all worried about you think of them. Be who you are, show it to everyone, and if anyone objects then they have a problem. You don't!

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  • by LynfromNM on July 28th, 2007

    LynfromNM

    I always noticed you because I immediately thought your name was clever, and since then have made a point of noting your answers. Sometimes it seems as though the squeaky wheel gets all the grease, but all of us appreciate the wheels that don't require regular maintenance.

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  • by Firebrand on June 27th, 2007

    Firebrand

    Jenn I remember you of course where is your little Kitten. It always struck me as being so sweet and tiny with your ferocious name.

    I am sure you know really that you are not forgotten though i must admit on occasions I feel exactly the same way about AB and life in general.

    Come and have a vent on me if you feel like it on any occasion (we can lose ourselves together:) )

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  • by Trisha Had her baby on June 24th, 2008

    Trisha Had her baby

    I think i feel the same. I think that AnnonmouseGirl had great advice. Also if i am reading your name right your getting married in October, sounds like your not so forgettable. Trust me EVERYONE leaves a legacy behind.

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  • by AnonymousGirl on May 2nd, 2008

    AnonymousGirl

    Don't measure who you are based on who recognizes you.

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  • by killdrphil - reasonable for a madman on May 2nd, 2008

    killdrphil - reasonable for a madman

    Hmmm. Your best chance is to not care.

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  • by SAGE2 on May 2nd, 2008

    SAGE2

    lose your ego & you will become authentic you and thereby become unforgettable

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  • by NEESH on February 2nd, 2008

    NEESH

    why dont you try to volunteer helping people who are in need like at the salvation army, soup shelters or hospitals.

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  • by SASSYWI-Q-Sassia-Jetpacking with NASCAR on December 10th, 2007

    SASSYWI-Q-Sassia-Jetpacking with NASCAR

    You are not forgotten,I watch for your quesions and answers. I have since I saw the great name you picked.

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  • by Snooty on December 10th, 2007

    Snooty

    Don't you think most of us feel as you do? It's not unusual. As the saying goes, "Here today, gone tomorrow."

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  • by Miss Anubis loves this season on October 25th, 2007

    Miss Anubis loves this season

    Be yourself. I feel the same way, I am easily overlooked due to my own unconventional attitude and likes and interests, but I manage to find a few people that can relate in one way or another. If you try to be different, you feel that you are doing just that - trying. And that is exhausting. Don't assume you're forgettable, you never know how one feels about you unless they tell you.

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  • by AntigoneRising on July 20th, 2007

    AntigoneRising

    I find you highly memorable. Maybe what you need is a paradigm shift in regards to how you view yourself here.

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  • by Anonymous on July 20th, 2007

    Anonymous

    I can related to your question, as I have gotten older I noticed that the ones remember are the ones who never thought they were! When it comes down to it I would say its more of a mental thing than fact, your good

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  • by Penny The Wise on June 27th, 2007

    Penny The Wise

    If it makes you feel better, I look forward to your answers. I always aprpeciate what you have to say, and I remember you. Not only do you have my name (Jennifer) but you have lots of good things to say. I think if you continue to do what you do, people remember you. You often have lots of good input, and wise words.
    And like Fisherofman said- The people who are remembered, they're remembered because the were themselves. When all the assholes have gone home, and the preachers, and the fighters have all gone away, you'll be standing, with wise words and infinite grace.

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  • by Scifisuz on June 27th, 2007

    Scifisuz

    Based on all these responses, I'd say that you are just plain wrong about being easily forgotten, Jen.
    Just continue to be more of what you are currently...is the only suggestion I can make.

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  • by babygurl on May 8th, 2008

    babygurl

    I believe you will be remembered and I believe you are loved and cared for, and you affect peoples life everyday and maybe you just dont realize that. Why dont you ask around with your friends and family or at work and see what people would remember you as? Might really shock you!! And I am not sure if your married or not.. but if not or you are your kids and husband are def.. not going to forget you!

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  • by natashachamberlin on May 1st, 2008

    natashachamberlin

    Hi best thing is to just be your self, people will remember you for the person who you are.

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  • by Kathie524 on October 22nd, 2007

    Kathie524

    omg I've always felt like that!! I 1st noticed it when I was in 6th grade & me & this other kid went down 2 our 2nd grade teacher (my favorite teacher I'd had) & she remembered him & not me. It broke my heart.

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  • by Sociopathetic on September 29th, 2007

    Sociopathetic

    I don't know.

    I'm apparently memorable, from what others have told me. And I believe it. It's a kind of energy in me.

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  • by blank slate on August 7th, 2007

    blank slate

    Be true to yourself.

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  • by JTP on July 20th, 2007

    JTP

    Don't change yourself, the ones who notice you and like you for who you are, they are you're friends. Don't worry about the people who would only care about you if you changed.

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  • by Zibbys Mind Is In the Gutter Today on July 3rd, 2007

    Zibbys Mind Is In the Gutter Today

    You, easily forgotten? NAH!

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  • by klute on July 3rd, 2007

    klute

    I find that most people want to be listened to. If you can take the time to listen to someone and then if necessary give input or even relate something to yourself (only if needed...too much about self is bad)
    i believe you will find others more attracted to you.

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  • by Oddjob on June 27th, 2007

    Oddjob

    I also thought I was just someone that would be forgotten once I was away from people. Just continue to be yourself you are impacting more lives then you know. Some may never know your name but they will aways remember what you did and stood for. I never met you before on AB I am fairly new but its nice to meet you now.

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  • by Ed the Jetpacking Headbanger on June 27th, 2007

    Ed the Jetpacking Headbanger

    You are wrong, I haven't forgotten you. I look forward to your answers. You really don't need to work on becoming more memorable.

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  • by iwnit on June 27th, 2007

    iwnit

    You just made me aware of a very interesting point. We have all having some fun here, talking to each other, seeking for answers and the like. It is a nice little universe.
    But who will remember us in a couple of year?

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  • by Sarita1 Goes Bollywood on June 27th, 2007

    Sarita1 Goes Bollywood

    why do you feel you are forgetable?

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  • by Joy to the world on March 13th, 2009

    Joy to the world

    First of all, I didn't forget you, I remember you.

    Second: If you want to be more memorable, while still being you.. Just do what comes natural, if you love to have fun, show it.

    I used to have trouble with expressing my true feelings about things myself, though I do not really know you it can be a bit hard for me to help, but whether I know you or not.. It never hurts to allow others know you.

    You don't have to tell your life or anything, just show them what you want them to know. If you love to have fun, joke with friends(or anyone), show it. It all becomes very natural once you get the hang of it.
    Don't be too shy

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  • by Teresa on February 6th, 2009

    Teresa

    The best advice I ever heard on the subject was this:

    "Stop trying to appear interesting. Start trying to appear interested."

    There are so many people in the world, how can you compete with them? People who are gorgeous, people who have travelled the world, people with stories and skills and extroversion coming out the wazoo. When you meet a new person, likely they'll meet someone that very night they think is more interesting than you, and they'll forget all about you.

    But no one ever forgets an attentive ear. No one forgets a person that makes them feel special and interesting. No one forgets because being paid attention to creates a sense of power, almost an erotic sense of power! People like that, they appreciate it, and they remember it.

    So next time you meet someone, ask them questions about themselves. When they answer you, ask them questions about their answers. Make eye contact and smile.

    Obviously, you don't want to come off weird and pushy. Start off light--asking about their job, or their pastimes, or how they came to be wherever it is you both are. Stay away from obviously personal questions, and pay attention to their responses: if a topic makes them uncomfortable, move away from it to something else.

    P.S. If you ask about their job, don't say "what do you do?" I've noticed people don't like that question: they get defensive or annoyed, as though the question assumes that their very identity is tied up with their employment. Be more specific, like "what do you do for a living," or "where do you work."

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  • by Daedalus on January 20th, 2009

    Daedalus

    Wow. You're just like me hehe. Hey, nice question (although it's really old hehe). My solution has been write a book or direct a film. Write a book is the most likely since films are so expensive to make.
    My other solution is not to give a [poo] about it.
    I'm going with both =P
    Read "Nausea" by Jean-Paul Sartre. The character kinda feels that way and in the end he does come to that conclusion (writing a book).
    Oh btw. You're not gonna be forgotten, at least not by me because I'll remember you, since we kinda have the same problem =D. Cheer up!

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  • by Loopyboy on November 29th, 2008

    Loopyboy

    well if your getting answers to your question your in a good start sad sack

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  • by Rinky Dinky Do on October 13th, 2008

    Rinky Dinky Do

    Become a televangelist

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  • by Bob on June 24th, 2008

    Bob

    i feel like a wall flower sometimes, too, easily forgotten, or not even noticed in the first place.

    dale carnegie had it right - talk about the other person's interersts, ask them questions about what they like, and, use their name (not, hey, dude).

    while i don't suggest that you become someone's rug to wipe their feet on, i do think that when we find a way of being of service to others, we feel their appreciation and we (at least i)feel more likeable. one of the best places that i've found for achieving this need is through volunteering at a nursing home where so few people get visits, and our smiling face makes their day. i remember once, a gentleman with alzheimer's disease, who could no longer remember his own name or the name of his wife, was able to remember my name - it was new, easy, and i made an immediate difference in his life. it's through giving that we receive.

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  • by nycboy on September 18th, 2007

    nycboy

    Carve your name in a tree

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  • by lilaac on July 28th, 2007

    lilaac

    I connect with people with soft eyes (Steven Levin who does a lot of work with the dying says, soft belly. Meaning we are breathing and not holding it all in tightly). I first say who I am, first name, and "may ask who you are?". Then I listen. Saying the name over in my mind and what associations do I have so to remember it. I ask a question about something I am interested in. Such as what kind of a kid were you? What do you do in your life that you love? I keep on listening and being interested. If they do not seem interested in me or wanting to talk, I gently move on or direct my attention in another direction. I respect them as best way I can. I do not always accomplish the above, but I do make some lovely connections with people.

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  • by Cannabis its just a plant on July 20th, 2007

    Cannabis its just a plant

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    http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/995761

    This [lame]video also gives a good suggestion:

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  • by Colt COAT of Justice on February 6th, 2009

    Colt COAT of Justice

    By doing just what did! Now you are not forgotten any more! Points and all!

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  • by truefaith on March 13th, 2009

    truefaith

    I always feel that way and though I am new here that is probally part of the reson I am here . I was looking for answers to some of my own issues and found this site , then I remember that in order to not feel invisable I have to make myself visable by not pulling away from people or isolating myself . WQe are our own worst enemies sometimes.I sometime am so afraid that when people get to know me or find out the issues I deal with they will avoid or run from me so I do so first to avoid the pain thus causing pain for myself ( The true definition of INSANITY is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result )

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  • by Colt COAT of Justice on January 20th, 2009

    Colt COAT of Justice

    Become a friend on line with other AB members!

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  • by kaylabadayla on January 20th, 2009

    kaylabadayla

    well i am not sure i will just throw a couple of things out there how about when it is someone's birthday get them an out there gift or get a crazy piercing or something that people will remember you by i did and everyone says to me hey you're the girl with all the piercings right? but um i never forget people and i would love it if you added me as a friend and talked to me sometimes i hope i helped sorry if i didnt but dont forget to add me k? keep your head up high and be positive

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  • by I love my baby on November 17th, 2008

    I love my baby

    I would focus more on how you feel about yourself. It is always best to be yourself in any situation.

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  • by Colt COAT of Justice on December 1st, 2008

    Colt COAT of Justice

    Just be true to yourself. Don't forget many people even here on AB have their own problems. You are important! We all are even those of us who seem to have it all together! Merry Christmas!!!

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  • by R U Sirius on March 13th, 2009

    R U Sirius

    although I don't know you that well you are not easily forgotten. You have one of the most memorable screen-names here.

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  • by philosopher-saint on June 19th, 2009

    philosopher-saint

    You gotsta change that lousy 'tude, sweetie!
    ;-)

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  • by Starwatcher on July 20th, 2009

    Starwatcher

    It may sound cheesy, but bring your inner beauty out.

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