My father is 70 yrs old and he records ALL phonecalls (dialed & recieved) on his phone, then later asks you questions about what was said. We fight all the time know because it is not right,what is wrong with him & how can i get this to quit?
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My father is 73 years old and records all the conversations that come into his house. I think it is a sickness. I before E except after C received
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Hey you know what, he's not going to be around forever. If he does it, let him. Don't argue with him about it. Why does it bother you so much?
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he might have altizmers and is trying to keep a hold on what is going on my grandmother had it it was really bad
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You have to get your own phone!
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You could get him a job working for the Bush administration? Other than that.... Try moving out! If he is 70, how old are you?
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If that happened to me, I would buy my own phone. I currently use an old fashioned cell phone that uses time purchased quarterly, rather than the contract type, so it only costs me about $25 every three months.
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I think this fiance who can't cook, orders you lousy meals but makes you very happy should come over and tinker with the recording device so it mysteriously doesn't work properly.
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as folks age, as neuroplasticity isn't, well, very plastic anymore, as we begin forgetting more things than perhaps we even remember, we start doing things to remain in control. recording phone calls is one thing. listing the date, time, length, person(s), topics is common and helps folks to feel more in control. preserving folks' sense of control is even more important when they're losing some of it, say, no longer driving as much ... so, my thinking is that it has some value to him, although certainly not to you. i'd recommend that you encourage him to accurately record these things near the end of your conversation each and every time, so that you don't have future disagreements. good luck!!! he might be seen sometime by his Primary Care Physician, neurologist, geriatrician, or psychologist. Not a psychotherapist.
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I know you have said it isn't an Alzheimer's but it sounds like one of the very early signs. It's a kind of paranoia and secrecy they have. Both my MIL and FIL exhibited it way before they were diagnosed. It happens when they still have some memory and are conscious they are losing it slowly. They grasp at whatever they can to find that control since they know inside they are losing it in other areas. They feel a need to control small aspects of other people's lives and worry that others may be planning something behind their back. You can't get them to stop and talking with them only makes them more suspicious.
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You aren't going to get him to quit unfortunately. The only solutions are to move out or get your own phone. I agree with Galeanda's answer too. I'm sorry. I agree that it's not right, but chances are you are not going to be able to change this behavior. You can only let him know calmly that it hurts you and you feel like your privacy is being invaded. Good luck.
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My knee-jerk reaction is to demand that he provide copies of the recordings, or I will begin to tape him. Next, I'd grill him on what HE said ---every little single detail. ;-) Usually intelligent people get the point.
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Stop phoning him.
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