ANSWERS: 4
  • He has moved on. It is possible he never had deep feelings for you. You don't state why the relationship ended. Perhaps you were nothing more than a friend with benefits to him.
  • He's giving you a very clear message. He doesn't want contact with you. While it's natural for you to have the feelings you do, you must do whatever it takes to move on. Keep busy and get professional help if you need it.
  • It may not be as easy for him as you think. He may need a clean break. He could possibly be hurting, but know that it is over, and need time to collect himself. I for one, found it too painful to stay friends with the person, (there were no children involved...) because we would just get right back into the same old routine and never truly said goodbye until we said goodbye for good. Hang in there. It is a very painful process. Try doing something just for you to ease the pain.
  • When people break up, it's harder on one than the other, usually - sometimes, it's hard on both. And many times, the two never see or talk to each other again, unless they were married, and sometimes it takes them having had kids together for them to talk at all. It depends on why and how you broke up. It could be that he doesn't want to talk to you, because he's trying to get over the breakup himself. It could be that he just wants it to be a "clean break", and talking to you would muddy the waters. It could be he doesn't like you any more. And, worst of all for you, it COULD be that he was just "using" you. (It happens.) He's moved on, apparently. Now you need to, too. See my answer at http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2762628 for what worked for me.

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