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You have to replace your thoughts that you used to dedicate to your ex to something or someone else. If you don't replace it, you will be in a rut trying to forget them for that is as bad as thinking about them.
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Go out and have fun. Meet new people. Hes probably doing the same so why do you do it.
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The best thing I can say is to keep busy. Unfortunately for you and me, this predicament is hard and painful. I cant stop thinking of the memories we had and all the fun we did. I would say to get back out in the world, but the memories are there too. I just listen to new music and do things that aren't mentally attached to my ex girlfriend. But I know how you feel. I know how amazing it is to be in love with another person, and yes you do need them to an extent...but really we only need to stay who we are. I'm sorry that this has happened to you as well, people make it sound so easy to get over someone. It just takes a lot of time.
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it is hard to stop obsessing over you ex especially if you liked them a lot. but all you can really do is try to do things to keep your mind of off them. remember that you will find somebody else and that they are just one person who you dont want because they made the choice not to be with you and its there fault.
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There is a really good book that I recommend you read called 'It's a Break-up because it's broken' by GREG BEHRENDT. It helped me so much through a painful break-up.
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Go out with your friends, meet new people, keep yourself as busy as possible so that you have no time to think about him! It always worked for me!
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Best resource on the subject: "Taming Your Gremlin" by Rick Carson http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0060520221/ref=sib_dp_ptu#reader-link
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Play video games and get over it.
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It helped me when I got rid of everything that reminded me of her, I made new memories in places that would remind me of her. Everyone has their own coping mechanism, some need to get away for a weekend and unwind, some need to lose themselves in work, I needed to write it out in songs that are for no one but me.
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Replace them.
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sleep with 1 person over and over and over and over...well you get the point
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Think about all the crappy annoying things they did and find someone soo much HOTTER!
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get a new boyfriend or girlfriend to fill your head with. Falling in love takes more time out of your day than heartbreak and its a happier obsession too.
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Well you have a choice to make. You can continue obsessing over your ex, or you can move on with your life the best way that you know how. Instead of focusing on your lost love, focus on what you DO want, which should be peace, happiness, and possibly someone new. You can attract whatever thoughts you want into your head, so focus on a new love rather than an old one.
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Making a plan to kill him has helped me take leaps towards the next step of life : )
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If you find this answer please tell me, because I am almost through month two after the break up, and I have made absolutely no improvements.
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By grieving the loss. There are 5 steps to grieving and you should decide where you are in the process,then you can make a plan as to how you are going to proceed(or stay in the chaos you are in now) * Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.” * Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?” * Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.” * Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.” * Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what is going to happen/has happened.” Hope you do this, it really does help! Ken
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