My husband loves oral sex, but he thinks it's gross to do a women. WTF! I am very clean and fresh down there, but he can't bring himself to do it. I love it and the one time he did it he really got into it. What can I do to make him like it?

I listen to "Afternoon Advice" in Sirius Playboy radio. The hostess always reccommends the following in this instance...

Deny him oral. If you shut your giving down, he'll eventually realize what he's depriving you of. Take the stance of "you do me, and I'll do you."

That seems like solid enough advice to me.

Well depending on your husbands race and culture it can be very degrading for a man to go down on a female. For african american males at a certain era it was told that if you do it you are what you eat. Also it can be imasculating for them to do that. This is usually the result of years of peer presure from different age groups in the african american males life. There was actually a huge documentary on it and why African american males treat women like they do and how doing certain sexual services to a women is taboo. Its all cultural. Now if he is white then he's just a straight up tool bag because he's used to white women expection something in return if he wants some. My wife is african american and she says that not one african american man she dated could turn the whole macho thing off for a second even to be intimate.

Have you tried getting kinky with it. Does he like peanut butter? If so, put some on it and have him lick it off. Or whipped cream, or whatever. My wife and I enjoy giving each other oral sex, but occassionally, she will put whipped cream on her pussy and I will lick it off of her, and she likes putting Cheeze Whiz on me and licking and sucking it off.

Hey Chris&Brina.its not a black or white thing.its a man thing.and sweetheart you have a sorry ass man.there is no excuse not to please your woman.none whatsoever!

You must be depraved! What is a matter with you. WHat if he doesn't like Tuna.

Give him the accessories from a Mr. Potato-Head and let him disguise it.

if you do it for him but he doesn't for you, that's just fucked up and not fair. I have no tolerance for injustice

The way I see it is... if he can't return the favor, then he shouldn't get any either.

Its so wonderful to hear that men love it. My husband is very good but doesnt have the insatiable appetite to give it that I do to get it. This can be taught gently I have come to realize and I am seeing signs that he wants it more. Different positions help. Praise helps. Talk to him lovingly when he does it. Use a special tone in your voice only for that time.

Make it quid pro quo...literal meaning, this for that. Tell him that you will only do him if he does you, or that you'll only do it 69. That would probably be best, because the better job he does, then you can enhance your performance. I have had women that I have gone down on give me the best effort that they have ever given in their lives when they go down on me, because I get their rocks off before the started on me.

I can be your dirty little secret;-)

sorry Brina, i don't know what to say... i love going down

make him suck his own dick

Have you tried getting kinky with it. Does he like peanut butter? If so, put some on it and have him lick it off. Or whipped cream, or whatever. My wife and I enjoy giving each other oral sex, but occassionally, she will put whipped cream on her pussy and I will lick it off of her, and she likes putting Cheeze Whiz on me and licking and sucking it off.

Pls see my earlier reply to a similar question. Tell him straight you licka me to my satisfaction and I sucka you. No licking not sucking - simple - Paula xx

give and receiving goes both ways. Ask him why he like you to blow him off and why he will not eat your pussy. Get a straight answer or no more cock sucking for him period...

It's difficult for me to imagine a husband who "thinks it's gross to do a women" orally - I would rather eat my wife's pussy than fuck her or have her give me a blow job ! ( Fortunately she'll let me go down on her even when she's not in the mood to fuck or give me a blow job ! ) It's not fair for you to perform oral sex on him without him reciprocating by performing oral sex on you ! It's especially difficult to understand if he "really got into it" in a previous experience - I'd think he'd WANT to do it again ! You can try using some "flavors" ( there are "flavors" available to help make oral sex more appealing to a spouse ) AND you can certainly tell him YOU need to recieve oral sex as much as HE needs to recieve oral sex ! If he wants to continue to recieve oral sex from you he needs to reciprocate and perform oral sex on you ! There may be another solution - when I was single I had a married female co-worker who confided in me that HER husband wouldn't go down on her - and that he'd actually given her permission to recieve oral sex from other men ! ( I don't remember exactly how the subject came up but I'm sure glad it did ! ) It was a dream come true for me - I was able to not only give HER the oral pleasures she desired but I was able to have my FAVORITE form of sex with her ! It worked out well for BOTH of us and her husband actually appreciated me taking care of her orally ! ( She did occasionally perform oral sex on me in appreciation but we never told her husband about that - at HER request ! )

My ex married another guy and they're happy but she said he "won't do down on me." I kidded her that she married the wrong man. But, seriously, maybe a good porn movie with her grinding her pussy into his face while you say, "Oh God, I love seeing that!" Tell him you have best orgasms when you get oral. His spirit of competition may kick in and he'll want to do better than your ex - who did "do down on me." Try it and let me know. sergio48sergio@hotmail.com I've been there. (Gads I love sucking pussy!)

that's hypocritical and unfair. Give and receive. Period. No question about it. If you do it to him, he should do it to you, and vice versa.

Haha!