My husband had a vasectomy eight months ago now i want another baby
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Adopt a child. There a many children looking for good parents.
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Tell him to get it reversed?
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I would try to see if it can be reversed. But more importantly, you should have another look at why you two wanted to stop having kids and the reason why you want one now.
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Does your husband want another baby. I think you can have them reversed but if he dosent want another child then I think that is a whole other set of problems. Him getting it reversed is his decision right? Would it not be up to you to decide if he wanted more kids and you didn't to get pregnant or not.
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Yeah, I'd adopt as another user suggested. I know a guy who went through the reversal and then she divorced him. Ouch! It's not a fun process from what I understand. He just had this done 8 months ago? Give the poor man a break. Did you not have an in-depth discussion about this before he had the procedure? Just curious.
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Where is the question here? What is it you are asking? You know, there is a reason this is supposed to be a mutual decision. Without more information as to the circumstances behind the vasectomy, your family situation, and why you feel like having another baby, I can't really make much of a comment here.
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was it both your decision for your husband to get a vasectomy? a dedicated married couple will make decisions together...things seem to work better that way. now that it is done you may want to re~evaluate the situation. i mean there MUST have been a good reason in the first place.
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This is pretty typical, actually. Once the decision to be sterilized is made, and the procedure complete - you tend to get an urge to have another baby all of a sudden... Because you don't want to be "barren", or you don't want to "shoot blanks" or your baby is not a baby anymore. Mostly, though, it comes down to wanting something that you can't make. You can't make, but you can HAVE... I'd adopt. Luckily for me, my wife and I came to our senses and realized that the reason we got a vasectomy in the first place, is because we didn't want to start another 20 year process of raising yet another child, and couldn't spare the extra time being taken from the ones we were already raising. Thank God.
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There must have been a reason you both made the decision to not have any more children, so maybe look at that again. There are ways to reverse the vasectomy, you could adopt, or you could just be happy with what you have. You said now "I" want another baby, does your husband want another baby?
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Adopt unless your husband doesn't want another child. Then just immerse yourself in the family you have, being grateful for what you do have.
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So cheat.
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Take another eight months and think about it before you put him on an emotional roller coaster. Hopefully you both discussed his vasectomy and agreed upon it when it was done. Thought it out and both parties were ok with it.. so it is highly unfair of you to turn around so soon and say "undo it!" You need to see if you truly want another baby or are just suffering from a very NORMAL type depression having done something that you know will prevent you from having a baby and it is effecting you. "baby blues" Give it time. Be fair. He went far to do what he probably thought you BOTH wanted so go far in making sure of what you want. Good luck
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You ever notice how you crave ice cream when you don't have any in the freezer, but when you do it just sits there forever and eventually gets freezer burn and has to be thrown away? The vasectomy didn't shut off your biological clock, and the ability to have a baby is the primary sign that you're holding onto your youth. It is understandable to go through this kind of emotional roller coaster, but the only reason that you're wanting a baby now is because the status quo is telling you that you can't. Step back. Think of why the decision was made to have the vasectomy in the first place and mull that over. Then think of what it would say to your husband to tell him that you want another baby. Personally, if my wife were saying that to me after my having gone through with the vasectomy, I'd tell her she's SOL. I refuse to have a vasectomy for this EXACT reason.
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