Please help! My 13 yr old is headed for trouble, i found out he has been shoplifting, smoking pot,cigs snd drinking.I keep him close by me and would consider myself a good mom to him. How do I save him from himself before its too late?
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Hi, my name is chris.....Im 29 years old and I have the answer for u.....But first u half to ask your self " do I trust him"...If the answer is yes then heres what u half to do.....Try to talk to him, don't get mad at him cause if u get mad he'll keep on doing whatever it is hes doing...just remember only 13.he just wants to be cool. when u talk to him,tell him that its not a good idea....and tell him u know what hes doing...but when u do tell him,say it in a nice but firm way.... no yelling or screaming or name calling.cause if that is whats happining,the problem wont stop.another thing, u can tell him is its just a phase hes going throught..that might help. ask him if he wants to spend time with u,if he says "no"dont worry.just keep trying,but dont be a pest about it,he wont like that.maby try to establish a mother son relationship with him,and tell him u trust him and u think he'll make the right choises...give it a month or to...this is what my mom did for me and it worked...and allways ask the universe to help ur son and he'll come around..hope my advice helps you.. good luck.....
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You may not be able to save him - because something fundamentally is wrong here and it's going to require both of you to "change your acts" a little. First you need to seek outside professional guidence to pinpoint what is causing such behavior in him - then you need to remove the stimulus of this bad behavior from him. Usually it's friends or neighborhood kids inspiring and provoking such behavior in your kid - well to end that you may have to remove him from that enviroment completely. If you remove the stimulus for the bad behavior then such behavior should slow down or stop. Rewarding good behavior also encourages good behavior in most people. At the age of 13, your child is still somewhat a reflection of the way he was raised - that is to say - your partly to blame here but only to a minor degree, at any rate you still should be the dominent influence in his life - so act that way - take the lead here and don't be afraid to be as tough as nails when dealing with him.
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Where is his father?
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I'm sorry for the pain you're going through. In my own similar experience with a 17 year old, I found that I couldn't make his decisions for him. I had to let him make his own choices, tell him my opinion of what he was doing, and then - this is the important part - I had to let him suffer the consequences. That included spending a night in jail once. Is he straightened out? Only time will tell.
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Do you all go to church? Give GOD a try take him to church and find the lord jesus christ. Trust him "jesus" it will work out. Praying for you both
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I had a sister did the same way and hurt my mom too,way back on her 13th.She is now 19 and graduating student of Business Management would you realize her years of breaking my mom's heart.She even get into sex that early.We never leave her those times she ran away and we search,we asked her what she want to do to her life she said she wanted to study for college.We know its a risk to spend money,time and effort for someone who don't deserve it but without judging or asking we let her into school.Another 2years of violence but we do not mind until on her maturity period she realize how supportive and unconditional my mom's love for her and my mom's reaping the sweetest harvest of her wonderful love to my sister.I asked her how it works that way, she said she prayed to lead my sister on her plans and God take away bad influence peers,violence and all things and people that made my sister a monter.God really makes things possible.
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