I have some who say i should be suffering cuz mama died, oythers say, its time to have a little fun-please help me decide. I am so tired or sad and angry, I want to have some fun, isn' there some wake where ya celebrate and the survivors have fun-?
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Indeed, that's exactly what a wake is: a party to celebrate a well-lived life.
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Exactly my friend! Celebrate the good memories; I'm guessing that your mom would like for you to do that. Sure, their will be grieving at some point, different people do it in different ways so don't worry about how you are "supposed" to feel. How you feel naturally is the way you are "supposed" to feel; it's not uncommon at all to experience a 'delayed reaction' so to speak. Just do what you feel in your heart. Peace, love, (((hugs))) and light to you and yours!
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There is no right or wrong here, you CAN celebrate your mothers life.. you dont have to be sad or angry all the time, what would your mother say to you if she were still here?? most likely she would say, 'dont sit there and be sad, i had a happy life, go on with yours and have fun'.. i know my mother would have said that to me, she died in January. Irish people usually have a 'wake' after a funeral where the family and friends all get together and celebrate the deceased persons life, they sing, dance and drink until the small hours of the morning, and theres nothing wrong with that,everyone deals with death differently.
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me being honestjust because you dont cry or feel misery doesnt mean you dont feel the lost. you every heard misery loves company no one wants someone grieving over their death. death is an everyday thing happens all the time it wont be your first and wont be your last. why grieve why cry because they are. once one life ends a new one begins. and that is a celebration in itself.
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there is no right or wrong but i am sure your mom wants you to be happy and to stop suffering. ps. im so sorry for your loss...
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