If you knew that a decision you had to make, would hurt your friends, but it was the right one for you, could you do it, or would your friends come before you?
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You did exist before your friends and will exist after a few of your friends move away, so yes, you do take priority. If you want, you can tell me and I can help more.
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Thats a tough one.. would it help me more or would it affect them more? if you make the decision for you, will you end up friend-less?
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A little over a year ago, just after my 30th birthday, my high school sweetheart contacted me. Everything clicked again, and it drove me nuts -- it'd been over a decade since we talked in more than one or two emails a year, and I honestly thought I was over her. I spent a minimum of six hours a night in IM with her every night for a week after that. My best friend not only helped me deal with this, he encouraged me to go see her. I did, and later moved to be closer to her. My only regret is leaving my best friend behind, but he knew that I needed to do this. He was right, too -- even though the ex and I split up again due to outside circumstances, my life's never been better. Talk to your friends about this. If they're your friends, their advice will be all you need.
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Last year i changed colleges which desroyed my best friend who stayed behind... I left her alone at the college so she turned to drugs and alcohol and made the worst friends in the world.. i feel so terribl for leaving her but i had to do it for me.. i did it because my school results were going down hill.. and i wanted to make something of my life.. i regret that our friendship is desroyed.. but thats part her fault too.. she cheated on my brother.. stole a few things and used me.. just do whats best for you tho
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I come first, I've been putting others before me for too long now.
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If they are truly your friends they will understand. If they don't understand then maybe they really aren't friends
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Friends can be transitory. In other words, many come and go... A few remain forever. If you have to do something that's right for you, and your friends don't like it, that's THEIR problem. If they can't remain friends because of what you do, again, that's THEIR problem (unless, of course, it's totally reprehensible and/or illegal). True friends will remain friends, even if they don't understand the situation completely. Explain to your friends, and do what you have to do that's right for you. Those that are still friends are true friends, or at least understand. Those that don't probably weren't worth you time and trouble, anyway. ;-)
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