What are the disadvantages of being a mistress?
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Sheriff Raff -Answerhag
ANSWERS: 93
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you cant be seen in public!
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well.. the society isn't too forgiving if u get caught the fear of getting caught
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your not the one he goes home to at night
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All you have are left-overs
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You're not good enough for him to stay with.
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Jealous homicidal wives
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you're just simply the 'other woman' and you are hurting everyone including yourself in the situation
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If the dude is not faithful to his wife, what makes you think he would be faithful to you? He probably has more than one mistress.
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One of the biggest disadvantages I see in being a mistress is the fact that he has a mistress. If a man decides to leave his wife for a mistress, who's to say he won't do it again.
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plain and simple-the only disadvantage is mistaking it for playing house....it is playing un-house...which is house without responsibility, or rules, or christmas's, or birthday's, etc
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having to be the one he leaves right after, instead of the one he comes hom eto at night...
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A mistress is nothing more than a semen depository.
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A mistress is just wasting her time when she could be in a loving, committed relationship. Some women hang on for years waiting for "him" to leave his wife. Very, very few men ever leave their wives...a mistress is just throwing away precious days on him. It's not really fair to mistress-bash unless she knows the wife, or knew that he was married prior to her relationship (with the married man). Many are not even aware that the man is married until they have fallen in love. Also, she is not the one who made the commitment before God and witnesses to LOVE, HONOR and CHERISH. -HE is the one to break those vows.. a mistress is usually as much victimized as the married man's family.
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You might lose touch with reality and kill the family pet
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The fact that you are committing adultery. And if you are religious...well, that is a dangerous thing to do.
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Lonely .. I was so lonely .. I have nobody but of my own .. until he visits of course.
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no retirement package
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all you get is leftovers. you have to wait when the guy only wants to see you, not the other way around.
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In the case of my ex's mistress the disadvantage is that it cost her as much as it did me..LOL :)
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You can't go out in public, you don't have him on mjor (or minor) holidays, you'll probably be a lone on your birthday, he goes home to the other woman who will always be more important than you and who has his children, you can't get pregnant by him wothout destroying his life so he can't be hapy about your baby, he won't be there as the baby's father, and you basically are putting out without getting paid, making you lower than even a prostitute.
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Lack of a dental plan, always having to look A+ until he finds someone younger, never knowing if he is having great sex with his wife, waiting by the phone letting your precious life slip by, being available on a whim when his wife wont put out, getting identical jewelry that his wife receives for holiday occasions, being just a fling when his wife finds out.
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maybe feeling guilty
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You'll be disposed of when your man is finished with you or grows tired of you. You are replaceable.
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Sacrificing integrity, tarnishing of character to name two disadvantages. There is a whole list of disadvantages to being someone's side dish.
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You might get your ass kicked by the wife.
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The fact that she isn't respected and she doesn't have him at night to hold... His wife does...
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Wives kicking your ass or trying to kill you when they find out and the man staying with his wife leaving you by yourself and feeling used.
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Credit crunch. First thing to go is the mistress.
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A mistress in the true sense of the word receives the same benefits a wife gets but without the legal / financial obligations. It continues to work for many if you dig that type of lifestyle. It borders on the same lines as prostitution except with less advertising. The only one that suffers is the unknowing spouse. I figure if the willing spouse is stupid enough to continue getting away with it than the mistress wins out in the end. She just moves on to the next guy when busted. He loses.
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Holidays,going to sleep alone,being a fill in,no social events,dates,laying in bed alone,knowing hes laying with someone..
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guilt, the knowledge that the husband is going to try to work things out with the wife after affair and dump the mistress, the feeling of being used, the feeling of loneliness, the feeling that you're pathetic because you can't get a single healthy man in a relationship with you because you can only attract a married man who's already emotionally vulnerable and looking for any kind of woman as long as she can satisfy him..
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i would love to be a mistress! idk disadvantadges would be you could get kicked out for someone else at anytime, wifey might get madd.
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In the end all you are is his "whore"!
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The lives - including your own - that are ruined....
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sloppy seconds.
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The fact that she is going to completely fuck up the familys life. Probably cause a divorce and if he has kids she is going to probably emotionally damage them. And the fact that she has NO RIGHT to do something that selfish,hateful,and disgusting. Sorry i dont like ppl that think its ok to sleep with a married man or woman.(Personal experience from my parents)
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Those that are not willing to accept the ever changing world. People treat you differently, its hard to see humans the same way in every day life.
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Even though he is cheating with you on his s/o, if you go out with anyone else, you are the bad person in the relationship. You can't have a life like that.
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What are the disadvantages: 1. Unhappiness ... trust me after awhile of wanting to be able to see him on a whim and not able to like a normal relationship. 2. If he goes on a trip or date with his wife, jealousy is never a fun feeling. 3. He leaves you and goes home to her, he can't stay with you. 4. Never able to fully trust him. 5. Broken promises. 6. People will look down on you if you are caught. you will be looked at as a home wrecker. 7. Loneliness - nothing is worse then crying yourself to sleep because while you lay there alone in bed at night he is at home in bed with his wife. 8. The sneaking .. it may seem adventurous and fun at first but it gets old. 9. What if's .. what if you get pregnant? will he ditch you or be by your side? What if his wife and you got pregnant at the same time? 10. Moral Dilemna .. eventually you will start to feel down about yourself because what is happening, somehow or another.
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the following are disadvantages of being a mistress: 1. you will always, only, be in a part-time relationship 2. knowing you are a skank and your love is a cheater
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Knowing that what he is doing with you he will do to you.
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You will ALWAYS be #2
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Being a mistress to a married man is just asking for trouble. You could be breaking up a marriage. Even worse, you could be taking a father away from his children that need him around. Also, have you ever heard of having an angry wife after you. I don't know of too many women that would let the mistress just slip away especially if she the man was married! Stay away from married men. Find one of your own that doesn't have a wife and children at home!
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Only one. God's disappointment.
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For me it's not having a penis.
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You don't count for much.
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You can't come out into the light. After some time, feelings develop and it becomes harder to accept that you will always be number two. The guilt is overbearing. There will be times when you wonder what he's doing back at home and that feeling will eat you alive! I've been there. Now I have changed my ways and discovered a whole new look at life.
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knowing that you're a complete tart
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Psycho, insane, jealous, 1st wives that actually have probable cause when they murder you?
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The disadvantages of being a mistress is you're allowing yourself to be free to do what one desires without having a committed relationship.
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You will never come 1st ever, you will sleep alone every night while he goes home to his wife and kids, you can't be seen in public together, and if he ever did leave his wife don't think he won't cheat on you. I say this because will take my uncle for example he cheated on my aunt b4 they married and during there 28yrs of marriage, before they were even separted he was cheating on her, he's been with his girlfriend for the last 5yrs he's been divorced for 3, and what do you know he's been cheatin on his girlfried for almost a yr now.
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The biggest disadvantage is you are the mistress, and you will always be the mistress. The second one is that you are missing out on a meaningfull committed relationship with someone else.
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You never come first, and you're disposable.
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You always will have to look over your shoulder.
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You are with someone who is already married to someone they "love". And you will always have that nagging in the back of your head that you are not their true love. They may say that they are going to leave them for you, and you have to wait each day to see if it will ever happen. And if anyone finds out, you will be the bad one.
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That most likely you will remain a mistress.
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Low self respect. Would you want it done to you?
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You're only good enough to get screwed in secrecy and not good enough to be shown off to family and friends
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All the avantages that his wife has, you have the disadvantages!
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Think about it. Men don't care about a relationship with a mistress. Women have to deal with "Mi" "Stress" Seriously if your a mistress who do you talk to?
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you cant pull the life support from your man.
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simple and straight answer: he leaves his misses. you become his misses. another girl becomes his mistress. viscous cirlce. leave him if you want a serious realtionship with him good luck x
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Rather ask "what are the advantages" .... it is a lot easier to answer. Disadvantages are basically everything!
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forward me the e mail ids od mistress... @ maddy_sweetu@yahoo.co.in
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Everything about being a mistress is a disadvantage. If he loved you, he wouldn't be with his wife! He will never be there for you when you need him for anything. You can't be seen in public together or meet each others friends/family. Or do anything together with the exception of hiding in a hotel room or at your house to have sex. In my opinion, if you're a mistress; you're being used for one thing and one thing only; even if you have yourself convinced otherwise. You're basically serving the needs of some selfish, low-life, untrustable man that doesn't deserve it. And if you should happen to fall in love with the loser, it's a no-win situation; you're the one that will be alone in a world of pain while he just goes home to his wife and family. However long you spend being a mistress is time you wasted that you'll never get back. You could have missed the real love of your life while you were wasting time with someone who didn't deserve the time of day from you! I can think of a million more, but I don't have that much time. JUST SAY NO!
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You're always someone's side dish, never the main meal.
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You're always alone on the big holidays.
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there are many, but think about it this way, your wanted more then the wife... do you have the upper hand. YES!!!
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uhh....his cock might smell like pussy for starters..
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No wedding ring - or wedding cake either. Then again you can split and get married to someone else without having to go through all the nonsence of getting a divorce.
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Having made his wife cry. Having to lay quiet when his wife calls to see where he is. Having to look at his wife and smile and do your best to make sure she never finds out. Watching him kiss his wife. Seeing the wedding and holiday photos in his house while you head up to his room. Worrying that she could walk in any time. Something could be happening to his wife while he's got his phone off when he's with you.. lots of stuff goes through your mind. . =/
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None at all at least you can walk away when you are ready . Just make sure its on your terms and you get lots of nice gifts and a lovely home. Make sure all presents are registered in your name.
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He doesn't love you and he probably isn't going to leave his wife no matter what he says.
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Everything.
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What do you THINK? You're allowing a MAN TO USE YOU, your someones second choice..NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS..YOU'RE not special if you were specialy WHY WOULD HE HIDE YOU AND SNEAK YOU AROUND...SOMEONE who is special gets introuced to family, and gets the ring
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getting nutted in ya face, LMFAO
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not having someone give you the attention and time that you need.
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Through the eyes of my cousin, I watched the following things for 7 years. I think they're now on year 12. Drive by birthday/holiday celebrations if any at all. Realizing you've wasted alot of time you'll never get back. Many missed opportunities you'll never know about. Karma....it will come and find you. Distrust in other men. Cheatees and Cheaters don't trust anyone. Low self esteem. Being in second place at ALL times. SShhh.....you're a secret,too. Don't tell anyone, ok? Paranoia if you don't hear from him on schedule. Being alone most of the time because he can't be there for hours on end. Wishing you were someone else like....ummmmm...the wife maybe?
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No long term security
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ummm, are there advantages to this??? I think its pretty much all downs for the mistress.
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*U are making a couple to end their marriage life *U wont be allowed to be where ever he will be *U cant call him all the time *U will always stay as the second one
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Being a mistress is to man your in love with is probably harder then being the oblivious wife. It is agonizing to have the man you love so dearly going home to someone else, planning and spending vacations away with someone else, every holiday and special occasion is spent making sweet and fuzzy memories with someone else, while your alone, sad and depressed, waiting by the phone, hoping for that hushed, secret phone call to reassure you that he hasn't totally forgotten you. You become an object of convenience, you begin to resent him and loathe yourself for wanting and loving someone who is MARRIED so much. Its devastating, it ruins you, ruins your self worth, ruins your self esteem, you realize your a "homewrecker", but you are so blinded by love... Being a mistress is pure, emotional, self-inflicted torture.
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It shows a complete lack of morals.
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No pension.
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Being between a mister and a mattress.
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That a mistress is the first thing to go in an economic downturn ...
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I would guess that the lack of self-respect would be a big disadvantage.
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aids
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Not a bad gig if you need to fill in while looking for a good relationship.
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A mistress- not a bad gig if you aren't looking to be involved too much, or need someone to fill in while you are looking for something better.
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Just being second.
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Everything is play and nothing is for real.
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You are just hanging on a peg behind the door waiting for him to turn up - you can't make any plans, have dreams or emotional security
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