by XxSpoofiesGirlxX on October 31st, 2006

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My boyfriend mentioned to me the other day he is scared, and I asked why he said the feelings he has for me are different and he never had them before and doesnt know what to do, can anyoone help me understand this as I am confused he says he loves me

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  • by Dazed and Confused on January 16th, 2008

    Dazed and Confused

    Sounds like to me what he's scared of is the fact that he's lost control of his emotions when he's with you now. When love finally gets a hold of a man that way, it freaks them out becuase they don't like not being in control of their own emotions.

    My suggestion - try your best to just encourage him to be comfortable in his own skin. It's okay to be scared, and that he's welcome to take his time.

    Love does make you crazy, doesn't it?

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  • by gilbo on December 9th, 2009

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    i felt the exact same way when i started thinking about truly committing myself to my wife. i know exactly what he is talking about. he has never experienced such strong feelings for a woman before. it scares him because it is new and unexplored territory. you are not just some girl to him. he thinks that you are the one that he wants to commit to. he wants you to alleviate his fear by ensuring him somehow that you are the right girl for him, forever. dont be insulted or hurt by his remarks. if he is anything like me, its because he wants you more than anything else. find ways to tell him verbally and non verbally that you are the right one for him......if you love him that is. :)

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  • by SoulFire on November 3rd, 2009

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    He is confused by his feelings of love for you. He has never felt romantic love and he doesn't know how to deal with those feelings. Men have been taught that they should repress those feelings and he doesn't want to with you. Tell him you will listen and not judge him for his feelings, that you want to hear them and share them with him.
    Either that or he wants to get in your pants.

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  • by InRegarts on November 3rd, 2009

    InRegarts

    "Trying to take it to the next level...". Maybe the pressure you're exerting in trying to do this is creating a less-than easy, peaceful feeling for him, hence; he's not sure what's what anymore.
    Let things flow and grow naturally. Pushing only turns out well when you're on a swing! best to you both ~

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  • by Pete Parker on August 12th, 2008

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    I sense he's sending you mixed signals that he's scared to fully commit to your relationship. This is very common with guys - all ages, when they are looking at whether or not they are ready to transition into a monogamous male species. He is questioning the direction he wants to take the relationship and building road blocks along the way. You need to not pressure him about what he's feeling but discuss with him that your relationship is special but you want to understand what he means more. He may let you in or draw you closer. Either way you need to be prepared as some guys just don't handle getting hitched too well or too early in life.

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  • by JUSTNORMAL on October 31st, 2006

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    Not knowing his age, it makes it a little more difficult to answer, so will assume he is sort of young. If he says he loves you, but he is scared, then maybe it is scaring him to realize he is indeed IN LOVE..If his feelings have changed for the negative, you have the right to know. I suggest you simply quietly ask, how they have changed, then go from there. Good Luck

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  • by Cyanotic Wasp on December 9th, 2009

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    He loves ... your taste. It means that he wants to eat you up, and not in the good way. YOU should be the one who's afraid here.

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  • by Afewerk Saliha on December 7th, 2009

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    Hello don't worry I can give you solution I'am medical student to let you know next week.

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